Keeping it fun with a travel companion? Suggestions/advice?

[TexasExec]

I've hired a young French escort for a ten day trip through Europe. We have a history so I think we should be fine. But any suggestions are appreciated. Ten days with a guy is a really long time.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Make certain that each of you have some alone time.

[adriano46]

Make certain that each of you have some alone time.

 

+1

[Juan Vancouver]

Make sure you have alone time -every day-. At least two hours. That way he can go workout, check his emails, watch tv or do whatever the fuck he wants. Please avoid the temptation of saying "Well, since you are not doing much, can I join you?" You would be surprised how many men miss the whole point of re-charging on your own. Needy is not fun; relaxed, open and understanding is.

 

Ask him what kind of activities he would like to try and chose at least one of them to do together. Just one as a token. It shows you care and see him as a person, as a man that you appreciate, not only as an employee.

 

Vary the activities to keep it engaging. Not even the most disciplined museum rats want to do museums three days in a row for ten hours. If there are museums you want to visit, do it one day, then an entirely different activity the next day, then museum again.

 

Keep an unexpected activity under your sleeve. It has to be a little surprising, fun and a bit out of character. If the trip is taking a turn for the worse suggest this activity and see his reaction.

 

If you can, avoid the temptation of visiting 10 cities in one week. Packing, unpacking and settling down takes a lot of energy. Even for the most seasoned travellers this will take a toll. Keep it simple, choose the cities in which you are most interested and give yourself time to really enjoy them. Also give yourself some room to adapt your plans if you fall in love with a certain city and want to extend.

 

And since you have already chosen your escort this bit might be a little late for you but I sure hope future travellers consider it before planning a trip. There are escorts that specialize in travelling. They speak several languages, love all sorts of food, have been everywhere, are intelligent, considerate, patient, know how to make your trip unforgettable and about you. When traveling with an escort avoid at all costs taking the hot guy with whom you had a good connection once. Even if he is willing to take the trip for free. Choose the escorts that have done it before and excel at it. Only then you will b e sure that the trip is about you, about what you want, instead of it being a trip entirely devoted to placate the bad moods of an inexperienced traveler.

 

When traveling with an escort you have to chose between two roles: a truly pampered man who has around a beautiful and fun travel partner who is making the experience unforgettable or a weary nanny that has to take care of a complaining, nagging child. Sadly there is nothing in between.

 

I wish you the best of trips and I hope he rises to the occasion.

[gallahadesquire]

Most excellent post, Juan! I might add:

Ask him what he'd like for you to do together.

[+ azdr0710]

Most excellent post, Juan!

 

 

is there ever any other type from Juan??!!

[Diverdan]

To answer your question azdr.... NO... Juan is absolutely one of a kind... and it shows in every post. If I lived in Vancouver, I would be broke...

[TexasExec]

Wow great response

 

Thank you so much for your insight. Confirmed some of my thoughts as well as some new ideas I hadn't thought of. I really appreciate it.

[Dave]

all those comments about Juan - really. yes. I agree.

 

I might add to his already stellar list: unless there's a particular reason not to, try to plan a range of activity levels. from active to passive (no pun intended). active can be physically challenging things that involve sweating, or even something like Juan mentioned - walking around touring museums. passive can be chilling on a beach with a bottle of wine while watching the sunset... or one day spending a lazy morning in bed, replete with room service.

 

I personally love a mix of experiences when I travel. some may involve "high culture" (and thus, $$$) but I also really love simple things that often just revolve around nature, like an afternoon in a park. another thing that's fun is to hang out at a cafe, people-watching. obviously I'm not that french guy you're taking, but I bring this up because I've found many people I travel with seem to enjoy the same - that is, a mix of stuff during the travel time.

 

finally, you and he should try to do some things that are truly local to the place you're visiting. it may not be the most comfortable activity while you're doing it, but it will likely be amongst the most memorable.

 

bon voyage!

[scottspearsxxx]

I enjoy traveling with my clients whether they have a strict schedule or are "playing it by ear". I don't think someone would hire me to go with them on an extended trip without wanting me there and knowing what I was capable of. Extended trips are way more than just sex it is also companionship as well. I love to travel and enjoy life and am always up to travel most anywhere!

[Steven_Draker]

And since you have already chosen your escort this bit might be a little late for you but I sure hope future travellers consider it before planning a trip. There are escorts that specialize in travelling. They speak several languages, love all sorts of food, have been everywhere, are intelligent, considerate, patient, know how to make your trip unforgettable and about you. When traveling with an escort avoid at all costs taking the hot guy with whom you had a good connection once. Even if he is willing to take the trip for free. Choose the escorts that have done it before and excel at it. Only then you will b e sure that the trip is about you, about what you want, instead of it being a trip entirely devoted to placate the bad moods of an inexperienced traveler.

 

Something I'd like to add and that hasn't be mentioned in this post by Juan is not to hire for extended travel someone you've never met before, no matter how good he's claiming to be and how experienced in traveling he is. Personal chemistry is something unique and cannot be faked.

 

The thread "Request for Advice" in the Deli offers some good perspective on the subject.

[wklucas]

My first meeting with Alan Ladd was a long weekend getaway.....I took a chance.....he took a chance....it all went great in every way imaginable......just something about his vibe in communications beforehand, in addition to any / all else I had read or heard about him, told me to go ahead & make the plan.....we did not meet each other before doing so in the resort hotel lobby.....went together for a welcome drink in a hotel bar....I knew pretty quickly what I had expected - it was going to be all good with no bad.....

[TexasExec]

Thanks for everyone’s advice and input. Especially about making sure there is some alone time. It was a fantastic trip.

 

We both flew in Friday. He showed up Friday after a very hot train ride. After he took a shower we decided to walk around central Paris a bit and maybe grab a bite. We ended up getting a really nice bottle Ruinart champagne that he picked out, and going back to the hotel. We drank it at the hotel and watched the World Cup. Then we went to a bistro suggested by the concierge that was mediocre at best.

 

Saturday he picked out a place called Dans le Noir where we ate in the dark served by blind waiters. It was interesting. We played footsie most of the lunch and found out after we’d been on infrared camera. That night we went to dinner at Voulez-Vous in the Marais. We ended up late at a large dance club where the jet lag worked in my favor, staying out late but it felt like it was 9 or 10pm.

 

Sunday I took him to Le Jules Verne, the Alain Ducasse restaurant in the Eiffel Tower. We had an incredible six course lunch with an exceptional French wine pairing. We took it pretty easy after that, but that night we ended up at a club called Queen.

 

Monday a work contact had arranged for a small private tour of the Court of Cassation, the French Supreme Court. He’s a law student in France and actually had some intelligent questions. That night we went to the Experimental Cocktail Club and then L'Escargot Montorgueil restaurant. For the record, L'Escargot Montorgueil was as every bit as good as the Michelin starred restaurants we went to.

 

Tuesday we went to the Musee d’Orsay where he took me straight to the impressionists and proceeded to give me a surprising educated tour. That night I took him to Ledoyen, which was below expectations as a restaurant experience. But we had a great time regardless. And every course was excellent.

 

(For the record we had intimate sex nine times in our five days in Paris, and yes we counted.)

 

Wednesday we went to Vienna. Vienna is an amazing city, a mix of modern and historic. The highlight of the first night, after our travel, was going to a straight bar and watching the World Cup. We successfully transitioned from French wine to Austrian beer, and had a great time.

 

The next day I think I messed up a bit. I assumed that 10 days was a long time, that he must be getting tired of me, and that he might want a bit of freedom. So that night we went to Kaiser Bruendl a unique sauna because it is in a centuries old bathhouse. I told him I was not interested in meeting anyone myself, but would enjoy watching him. Dutifully, he messed around with a number of guys and even a small group. I liked it but I think he was offended. He became a bit irritated and finally asked me to give him some privacy. He disappeared with a young Austrian into a private room and resurfaced a half hour later.

 

Friday we traveled to Prague. He had a French travel guide called Retourd which was really excellent. He read it cover to cover on the train and had picked out restaurants and sights by the time we arrived. That night we went out late to a bar called Friends. It is probably the best place to go in Prague and there was an international crowd so quite easy to be social.

 

Saturday we walked all over Prague, did the castle, etc. We had lunch at a restaurant called School which had great people watching (so many shirtless guys on a hot day). That night we went to a truly great small restaurant that he picked, but I can’t remember then name. Then we watched the World Cup.

 

Sunday we basically just had sex all day. I woke up early and topped him. We napped. He topped me. We had breakfast. We went to Kampa Park restaurant, which has outstanding food and an amazing view of the river and the Charles Bridge. Several glasses of wine and champagne later we made it back to the hotel where I topped him again. A nap, I gave him a blow job. We had dinner and then watched the World Cup final. Then I topped him one last time and had four hours sleep before I had to leave early for my flight home.

 

Here’s my thoughts on why it worked:

 

Get an escort who really likes sex. The fact he liked it and he initiated it made everything light, easy, and enjoyable. Also get a good cuddler.

 

Get an escort who’s smart. We never had dull conversation and I could take him with me anywhere and he would fit in. There’s 14 years difference in ages but I don’t think he came off as being an escort to people who aren’t thinking about that.

 

Get an escort who likes the same things. It helped that we both like nice restaurants, walking, and contemporary art. We both liked the bars and clubs we went to and found that we were both ready to go home at the same time.

 

Plan ahead. We had some things planned weeks in advance, some things planned a day in advance. We also talked and talked in making our plans, which put us on the same page. We were spontaneous if something popped up but our schedule kept us going.

 

I think if you’re going to do the boyfriend experience stick with that. I had the most fun when I got to treat him as I would a boyfriend. It’s confusing enough with a paid BFE.

 

Stick with a regular. This was not our first meeting or our first trip. We could not have done this our first trip, we were able to only because we’d already gotten to know each other.

 

Be generous and share. His sticker price for ten days would have been $10,000. I got a small discount but it was still a substantial donation. I also got him some formal clothes to meet the dress code. I gave him my leftover euros. And of course I always picked up the tab and never balked. I also tried to let him pick a fair number or our activities. Something I actually appreciated because he was good at selecting things to do.

 

Speaking of sharing I’m glad to share his contact info if you’re looking for this sort of BFE. But you can’t have him over Labor Day because we’ll be spending another 10 days together then.

[jawjateck]

Thanks for the trip report & for the follow-up to let us know how it went. I always enjoy reading success stories like these.

[Juan Vancouver]

Thanks for the trip report & for the follow-up to let us know how it went. I always enjoy reading success stories like these.

 

Same here. We often hear about the disaster cases, it's great to read that the true art of professional companionship is still alive and kicking.

 

Big hug to you both!

[Diverdan]

Congratulations, Texasexec ! Thanks for sharing what had to be a wonderful time for you both. As others have said, it is great to read about such a great experience, as so often we hear only about the disasters.

DD

[BryanKnight]

That's great you've developed a good relationship to trust them for 10 days.

Expect a casual time together over 10 days. It's not going to be ramped up all the time, that's exhausting for everyone.

Do fun things together that you both enjoy and give yourself some alone time to relax and recooperate. 1-2 hours on his own in a day to exercise, take a walk or be a tourist is healthy to keep

the fun between you fresh.

 

Have a great trip!