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So I can understand some people's reluctance to talk about financial matters. In some ways it affects me too. Growing up -and I'm 53 now- my parents would never talk about their salaries or how much the house(s) we lived in cost. I can't remember if they ever discussed how much they paid for a car. There could be some reasons for this. We were never rich. My parents ultimately did better than both sets of my grandparents. On the other hand, my parents (father) didnt do as well as my uncle's family ( his older brother). Also I was a chatty thing when I was young. If my parents had told me at some point, I might have blabbed.

 

But as I grew older, it became a handicap. I had no idea what a reasonable salary was or how much a reasonable house cost. I don't think I found out my parents salaries until I was applying for college, we were filling out the Financial Aid Form. Even then my parents weren't making that much, but I found it incredible how they had taken good care of me and my two sibs all our lives. They even supported me a bit years beyond college when I was in grad school with some car purchases. I always thought I'd be able to repay them- looks like not. It hurts me that I can't. But that's another topic, and I don't plan to get into.

 

As for escort fees or even bargaining in a market in some place like Mexico. Well I remember my first experience bargaining in Mexico. I was probably in about 3 rd grade. My Dad had a business trip to El Paso during the summer, so he drove the entire family there for a vacation. We went touring in the Juarez market there. I remember Dad bargaining to buy something. I became very worried. I asked my Mom what would happen if the price went too low. My Mom explained that the seller wouldn't let the price go too low.

 

But as an adult, I still dislike bargaining like that. I don't want to take advantage of anyone. By the same reasoning, I don't want to be taken advantage of either. As for the 'Ask Me' Fees- I don't actually mind discussing money. But in most cases no matter whatever the outcome, I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. And that's why I don't like it.

 

Gman

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I too, was raised to not discuss money. It was considered a taboo topic in my family. We were always told we had enough and we did. Nowadays, with my old school friends we don't discuss much about money either but with my neighbors we talk about 401Ks, house values, vacation home prices, ALL the time.

 

As for escorts, i'd prefer to see the rate before contacting them (to save both parties time), but i'm not averse to contacting them and seeing what their rates are either.

 

The only thing i hate is tipping. I hate tipping people to do their job, whether it is in a restaurant or at a hotel bell stand. People should be paid a decent salary and not just enough to get by. I prefer how they do it in japan: when the bill is offered, it is the price. No mental gymnastics to do.

 

 

 

So I can understand some people's reluctance to talk about financial matters. In some ways it affects me too. Growing up -and I'm 53 now- my parents would never talk about their salaries or how much the house(s) we lived in cost. I can't remember if they ever discussed how much they paid for a car. There could be some reasons for this. We were never rich. My parents ultimately did better than both sets of my grandparents. On the other hand, my parents (father) didnt do as well as my uncle's family ( his older brother). Also I was a chatty thing when I was young. If my parents had told me at some point, I might have blabbed.

 

But as I grew older, it became a handicap. I had no idea what a reasonable salary was or how much a reasonable house cost. I don't think I found out my parents salaries until I was applying for college, we were filling out the Financial Aid Form. Even then my parents weren't making that much, but I found it incredible how they had taken good care of me and my two sibs all our lives. They even supported me a bit years beyond college when I was in grad school with some car purchases. I always thought I'd be able to repay them- looks like not. It hurts me that I can't. But that's another topic, and I don't plan to get into.

 

As for escort fees or even bargaining in a market in some place like Mexico. Well I remember my first experience bargaining in Mexico. I was probably in about 3 rd grade. My Dad had a business trip to El Paso during the summer, so he drove the entire family there for a vacation. We went touring in the Juarez market there. I remember Dad bargaining to buy something. I became very worried. I asked my Mom what would happen if the price went too low. My Mom explained that the seller wouldn't let the price go too low.

 

But as an adult, I still dislike bargaining like that. I don't want to take advantage of anyone. By the same reasoning, I don't want to be taken advantage of either. As for the 'Ask Me' Fees- I don't actually mind discussing money. But in most cases no matter whatever the outcome, I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. And that's why I don't like it.

 

Gman

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