"i am a gay gerontophile"

[bcohen7719]

Not me, but below is a personal confessional published in "Slate"

magazine some time ago.

 

There are tons of comments below the original article.

 

This may be of interest to some of those who fervently believe

that younger gay escorts in their 20's might be authentically attracted

to those in their 60's and above, vs. skeptics who believe it is all

about "zoning out," Viagra, and the money. And all those in-between.

 

BC

 

[MalcomXpark]

I don't think escorts hook up with old guys in their private time but I'm sure there are cases of guys attracted to older men/women.

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/09/18/article-2205001-00525A2100000258-305_634x478.jpg

[adriano46]

And yet... if there can be a drop of seriousness here, some men in their 20's and 30's are attracted to a guy old enough to be a father or uncle (or grandfather?) - which fulfills a certain emotional desire or need or vacuum in their own life; some have had a very good (optimal relationship with a dad who was there for them, and could connect with a man of the same age for that same emotional connection. On a sexual level, there are guys who are attracted to an older gentleman, not for his physical attributes or body but from a more complete "package" of maturity, stability, care, and other attributes that the younger man finds not only attractive but enticing. Not everyone's cup of tea, obviously, but it does happen.

[+ friendofsheila]

This assumes that the article is a real and not fictional.

[imrthr]

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This assumes that the article is a real and not fictional.

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Precisely!

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[KissingCalvin]

Sorry for reviving an old thread, but I find it interesting.

 

My partner and I were in a 5 year (of our twenty) three-way relationship. The third member of our threesome is 20/1 years our junior. I won't go into details about how we met, but we were 45/46/25 when we met. He came on to us strong. He's cute and lithe, but I wasn't particularly strongly attracted at first (now he gets me hot thinking about him). He, on the other hand was insistent. What started as a one-time thing ended up as a relationship. It was actually wonderful. He was genuinely strongly attracted to both of us. He eventually moved for a job, though we still kept the physical intimacy when ever we got together (two or three . The physical intimacy (though not the deep friendship) ended when he became partners with another man. A man 25 years his elder. It's not money either, he's a well-paid professional- as much or more than us or his boyfriend)

 

Anyway, that was my long-winded way to say there are cute gay younger men who are genuinely attracted physically to older men. Surely not common perhaps, but they exist.

[Diverdan]

KissingCalvin,

I agree with you. I once had a fairly long relationship with someone who was much younger than me. He wanted a much more intense relationship than I was able to provide at the time. He eventually met someone who was 25 years older than he was (he was 25 at the time and 21 when I met him) and they lived together for many years. Both were professionals and both had very good income. The younger guy continued to see me on occasion when we were both in the same city. On many occasions he told me that he was always attracted to older guys as early as he realized that he was gay, which was at age 14.

So, as I have always said, "to each his own" and one never knows what will make a friendship or relationship work!

Thanks for sharing your experience.

DD

[adriano46]

Not sure this equates with the original line of the thread, but lately I have discovered the wonder of dating (hiring) escorts in their middle years or more (see my reviews of Michael Bender, Karsin Knightly and Allen Silver among others). These are all men closer in age to me and I find them much much hotter than most 20-somethings. Bring it ON Daddy!!!!!

[leigh.bess.toad]

It isn't really dating per se, but I have noticed on sites like Grindr, Scruff, Manhunt, Growlr and the like, the guys that hit on me, the ones that really come at me hard, are the guys in the their 20s to early 30s (I'm 58, btw). Guys in their 40s and 50s? Not so much. Mind you, I'm in better shape than almost all the guys in the 40s and 50s (not bragging, but just being honest -- not many guys my age are at 11.8% bodyfat confirmed by BodPod). But I still wouldn't mind playing with some of them. But if they are stand-offish, why would I bother when I have 20s and 30s literally throwing themselves at me?

 

And yes, I've had guys who list their age as 18. One kid said he was 18 and in high school. And I ran away faster than you can say Usain Bolt. Ever had to card someone before you had sex with them? I don't want to start.

 

I typically find guys in their 30s and especially 40s and 50s the hottest, especially in the escort world. But out in the "real world", most guys in that age group seem to only want young boys. Very odd. At least to me.

[Zapped]

Yes, there are definitely young men attracted to "daddies." In NYC there's even a subculture. I haven't been on the silver daddies site for a while but I assume it is still there.

 

I'm 55 and my partner is 23. 3 years ago I dated a guy them 19. I now live in the Midwest and he's in Brooklyn, and he periodically texts me wanting to get together when I visit NY.

 

Don't mean to brag (OK, a little) but they are out there, amigos.

 

I love my partner and have much affection for my friend in Brooklyn, although he can drive me nuts. One reason escorts are worth the money is you don't have to listen to them prattle on about problems at school, with their parents, etc., or actually tale,on the role of being a daddy figure.

 

My partner says he is spiritually older than I am, and sometimes,he fulfills my daddy needs.

 

Enough rambling!

[KissingCalvin]

It isn't really dating per se, but I have noticed on sites like Grindr, Scruff, Manhunt, Growlr and the like, the guys that hit on me, the ones that really come at me hard, are the guys in the their 20s to early 30s (I'm 58, btw). Guys in their 40s and 50s? Not so much. Mind you, I'm in better shape than almost all the guys in the 40s and 50s (not bragging, but just being honest -- not many guys my age are at 11.8% bodyfat confirmed by BodPod).

 

An.

 

Sigh. To be 11.8% body fat! Well, I'm down to 28% from my original 40%... My goal is under 22, I doubt I'll ever be under 20

[leigh.bess.toad]

Sigh. To be 11.8% body fat! Well, I'm down to 28% from my original 40%... My goal is under 22, I doubt I'll ever be under 20

 

Well I started 2013 at 32%. My goal is to get down somewhere near Dane Scott territory. Judging by his recent pictures (which look incredible) and knowing what it takes to look like that, I'll have to get down to about 6-7% or even lower. Even if I can't stay there long, even just for a brief visit would be incredible.

 

If I can do it, I know you can. I've done it while rehabbing a new artificial knee which went in September 2012. Just keep plugging at it and you can do it.

[Jaker27]

 

Don't mean to brag (OK, a little)

Oh look at you.

[Strafe13]

I can completely relate to this thread, but perhaps from another perspective. I'm in my mid-30s now, but with the exception of my first experience in my late teens up through early 20s (same guy), I'd always been attracted to guys much older than I (like decades older). My rule was if he's my age he's way too damn young. But as I've gotten older, I find myself also attracted to guys in their 30s and even younger, but mid-20s is about as low as I'll go now. Since JLA commented on this thread, I'll note that I've enjoyed sessions with him in the past year and he and I appear to be in a similar age range. But as much as I'd love to be Mrs. LA now, to be honest, 10 yrs ago he wouldn't really have sent my heart all a-flutter.

 

P.S. Seriously, Jaker, when are you gonna make an honest woman out of me? ;-)

[Jaker27]

I can completely relate to this thread, but perhaps from another perspective. I'm in my mid-30s now, but with the exception of my first experience in my late teens up through early 20s (same guy), I'd always been attracted to guys much older than I (like decades older). My rule was if he's my age he's way too damn young. But as I've gotten older, I find myself also attracted to guys in their 30s and even younger, but mid-20s is about as low as I'll go now. Since JLA commented on this thread, I'll note that I've enjoyed sessions with him in the past year and he and I appear to be in a similar age range. But as much as I'd love to be Mrs. LA now, to be honest, 10 yrs ago he wouldn't really have sent my heart all a-flutter.

 

P.S. Seriously, Jaker, when are you gonna make an honest woman out of me? ;-)

That is so damn sweet of you to say that btw. Ɔ ˘⌣˘) (me blushing). I think your just being cute but I still like it:)