Clients who don't cum

[Michael Wayne]

6 feet DAVE!!! Now that is impressive!! Much more impressive than my staying power.....lol... love to see that pic/video

[leigh.bess.toad]

6 feet DAVE!!! Now that is impressive!! Much more impressive than my staying power.....lol... love to see that pic/video

 

Having witnessed quite a few of those shots of Dave's, I can certainly attest to how impressive they are. He has taken more than a few pictures of them with me. At least he's never hit the mirror on the ceiling yet. At least he hasn't with me. But there is always next time. But the mirror on the wall above the bed? Lots of times. And considering your height and where you are frequently in the bed, I would certainly put it more along the lines of 7 or 8 feet rather than 6.

 

Now how about the mirror above the sling? Ever hit that one?

 

Send me the pic Dave and I'll get it up here quickly.

[actor61]

actor61, I’m just wondering - if you never rehire escorts who dont come when they’re with you, do you actually make it clear to them beforehand that that’s something important to you? if not, IMO, you should...

 

I personally think coming is overrated. some of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had didnt include orgasm. now dont get me wrong, I love to shoot my load just as much as the next guy (well, judging from this array of comments on the thread, maybe not the next guy - but the guy next to him... LOL)

 

speaking of that, I have found there really is no “typical” in this:

some guys wanna come, and wanna see me come, too.

some guys wanna come, but don’t need to see me shoot.

some guys don't need to come, but really want to see me come.

some guys don't need to come, and don't care if I do either.

and then, there are SOME guys who really DON’T want me to come. they are so worried about come, that they dont even want to be near someone else’s. alas, there is a lot of ignorance out there about STDs and health and safety, which holds some people back.

I had to laugh when I read Mikey9nola’s comment about how long it takes him to come. I have a similar thing going on, but 45 mins or an hour, Mikey? wow....

in my case, it takes me at least a good 10 minutes. and if I start to sense that the client isnt really interested in waiting it out, isnt really into helping me come, or even if I feel like we have a time constraint or something else, the time can get extended longer. I think for me its both an asset and a liability... I haven’t any pre-cum, can fuck for long periods of time, can play indefinitely, and so all that’s good. then, though, the liability is if someone wants to see me come NOW - well, thats just not gonna happen. I need at least 10 mins, and all the planets have to align - heh heh - for the spunk to fly.

 

speaking of which, I have a photo I'd like to add to this thread - my recent come load shot about 6 feet, onto the mirror above my bed - but I can't upload the damned pic without posting it first online. so if anyone can do it for me, I'll send it to you via email...

 

In answer to your question, yes I am very specific in my request that the escort cum. What pisses me off/disappoints me is when they answer with an enthusiastic "yes" in our initial conversation, and then when we're face to face, they tell me that they usually don't cum with clients. This has happened to me often and I always feel a bit scammed, even if the escort is really hot and I've had a good time with him. I once had an escort fake it with me and it just made me sad, angry, disappointed and as much as I liked him, I never called him again. He faked it by grunting and groaning and then announcing that he had cum in his condom. He had discarded it under the bed and when I picked it up, it was dry and empty.

[bostonman]

I once had an escort fake it with me and it just made me sad, angry, disappointed and as much as I liked him, I never called him again. He faked it by grunting and groaning and then announcing that he had cum in his condom. He had discarded it under the bed and when I picked it up, it was dry and empty.

 

You would think guys would learn that only women can fake it, lol.

 

I guess it was funny with the escort I met the other night - he knew that I wanted to swallow (and it was, in fact, part of the scenario we had concocted), and fuck yeah, he delivered just fine, thank you...but afterward he told me that he generally doesn't cum from being sucked off. (Not that he would have left me in the lurch - I think he would have helped out with a hand if he had needed to, lol.) The only reason I mention this is that this is not the first time I've heard this - I've been with a few other guys (not escorts, just hookups) who have been able to get off by my blowing them, but who have said that they generally aren't able to cum that way, so they enjoy it with me even more. (I have to wonder what I'm doing right, lol.) There's one guy I've seen a few times - I suggested once that it might be fun to do something different with his load (maybe giving me a facial, or something) just for fun - and he said he really wanted me to swallow, because I'm like the only guy that's been able to get him off by sucking him, and he really loved being able to shoot that way. Made me feel pretty good, lol.

[Tighty]

You would think guys would learn that only women can fake it, lol.

 

I guess it was funny with the escort I met the other night - he knew that I wanted to swallow (and it was, in fact, part of the scenario we had concocted), and fuck yeah, he delivered just fine, thank you...but afterward he told me that he generally doesn't cum from being sucked off. (Not that he would have left me in the lurch - I think he would have helped out with a hand if he had needed to, lol.) The only reason I mention this is that this is not the first time I've heard this - I've been with a few other guys (not escorts, just hookups) who have been able to get off by my blowing them, but who have said that they generally aren't able to cum that way, so they enjoy it with me even more. (I have to wonder what I'm doing right, lol.) There's one guy I've seen a few times - I suggested once that it might be fun to do something different with his load (maybe giving me a facial, or something) just for fun - and he said he really wanted me to swallow, because I'm like the only guy that's been able to get him off by sucking him, and he really loved being able to shoot that way. Made me feel pretty good, lol.

 

Hold an oral workshop please.

[bostonman]

Hold an oral workshop please.

 

Ha!

[leigh.bess.toad]

6 feet DAVE!!! Now that is impressive!! Much more impressive than my staying power.....lol... love to see that pic/video

 

Ask and you shall receive Mikey. Here's the pic Dave sent me of his most recent mirror shot. I've told him maybe we should have a gallery showing of these because I know he has at least a few from times I was with him as well. And he isn't standing at the mirror when he shoots: he's laying down on the bed.

 

http://25.media.tumblr.com/ea0749592f946f15da4036553afb222a/tumblr_msz9plgM331r2sbmqo1_500.jpg

[bostonman]

Ask and you shall receive Mikey. Here's the pic Dave sent me of his most recent mirror shot. I've told him maybe we should have a gallery showing of these because I know he has at least a few from times I was with him as well. And he isn't standing at the mirror when he shoots: he's laying down on the bed.

 

http://25.media.tumblr.com/ea0749592f946f15da4036553afb222a/tumblr_msz9plgM331r2sbmqo1_500.jpg

 

Holy protein, Batman...:o

[scottspearsxxx]

Sometimes it is not about the cumming but the experience along the way... I always enjoy it when a client cums but not everyone does and that is ok. I know a client likes me when I get invited back...

[DeNeufaille]

What about escorts who/whom ( damn, should have been a greater grammarian SP?)....?

[bcohen7719]

I am like 99% bottom, and I practically never cum while getting fucked during an experience with either escorts or personal hookups/lovers. Just not my thing. I've often had escorts express bewilderment, coupled with a slight twinge of frustration, as to my lack of interest and/or inability to reach orgasm with them. I guess for them, it's so common that a client cums, that it's hard to imagine it not happening unless he's not enjoying the session. I try to explain that it has nothing to do with them, and that I enjoy our sessions thoroughly, but that I'm just wired differently than most guys. Some accept that in an apparently sincere manner, while others seem to believe I'm lying to spare their feelings or disarm a tense and awkward moment. I've only had one escort who took it upon himself to "force" the issue, leading to an explosive never-before-seen or felt experience on my part. I've since tried to recreate that experience with others in private and professional scenarios with extremely limited success, so I'm now convinced that I'm just wired differently -- period. Although I did see that escort again 5 months later and he turned me out again. Still can't really duplicate it, so I think it's just some weird connection I have with him, although he's so nonchalant that he thinks it's no big deal at all. How wrong he is. ;-)

 

Thank you for sharing such intimate details. How does the escort "force" the issue? Does

this require a lot of roughness?

 

BC

[Bart]

My experiences would say most gentlemen want the client to cum. They are usually frustrated when I don’t. I do love the trying to get me off. But I am one of those guys that usually takes a long time to cum. 45 min to an hour is not unusual. I go through and up and down scenario. I am not on any meds. I have cum 3 times while getting fucked in all the years of exploring my time with men which has been 20+ years. I am into the fuck, body contact and connection. When it does work, half the time I get myself off maybe one out of 4 guys can get me off. There are guys who love to swallow, not my thing and not into kissing a guy after I have cum his mouth. I don’t like it when they want to lick it off either, I find it rather gross.

 

I usually prefer a guy cumming while fucking me. It a thrill knowing I got him off that way. Otherwise honestly I don’t care if he cums or not. Most guys do want to cum and always ask where I want it, I leave up to them. That said I am not into tasting or playing with it so I usually prefer when they do it laying down on themselves. I cant get it wiped up fast enough. I would rather spend a luxurious time in the shower together washing each other up and going down on his dick there. So I guess I pretty much the opposite of most on the cumming issue. I would much rather spend the time in bed, touching and pleasuring each other. As to cumin to early, no problem I always say give me couple of minutes and I want that big dick back in me. I would say don't be shy just say you want more. Now the guy cumin early I find that more an issue, most want to wrap it up I usually pull them back in and say "we can still kiss cant we."

[Strafe13]

Thank you for sharing such intimate details. How does the escort "force" the issue? Does

this require a lot of roughness?

 

BC

 

There was no roughness involved. We'd been taking a short break (like 3 to 5 minutes) from fucking when he started to penetrate me again. I thought what the hell, he's not done, so let him get off if that's what he wants. Then he just reached underneath me with no warning and started jerking me off. It was very unexpected and combined with his aggressive fucking, it just brought me to that special place. I was surprised when he was able to do it again 5 months later. But haven't been able to really replicate it since. I guess, sometimes you just have great chemistry with certain lovers. If I ever settle down, I hope it's with a guy that I have that kind of explosive chemistry with.

[Zapped]

It has really varied with me.

 

Once I hired a guy and was going to a strip bar later. I loved having him cum, and despite his surprise, was happy not to cum myself. At that time in that now-closed bar, the lap dances were very dirty, and I could occasionally get a hand job. Plus I was in good enough shape that I could also count on getting blown if I went to the baths. (It was a sexual adventure night, evidently!)

 

My escort was a bit concerned at first, but I explained I wanted to save myself for later and then he seem OK, if still puzzled that someone would arrange his evening in the order I had.

 

I'm in a very different place in life now, but it is fun to remember.

 

Sometimes when I have sex, whether with my partner or with "paid" or "free" guys in the past, it's about me cumming. Sometimes it is about the other guy cumming. I've had a submissive guy I met on Grindr come to my apartment and blow me, and I've met a guy on Grindr, gone to his place, blown him and left. Both were great. And often it is about both of us cumming.

 

I think it all depends on what kind of steam needs to be released.