When a guy so hot hires you, you don't know what to make of the 'situation'?

[JoeyBryant]

For those who don't know it's gay pride in many areas across the country. So, I took advantage and posted an ad on a hookup site seeing if I could catch the end of the night crowd who may have not found anyone. So this wasn't main stream advertising per say...but the off 'see what you come up with' type of listings. Long story short, a guy who resembled this guy on a different scale came and seen me (whether people think he's hot or not is irrelevant, I didn't think he was my type either, but at the same I wouldn't of turned down something happening):

 

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Throughout the whole encounter, I was into it every way...but felt like I was dreaming up the whole thing was even happening. For 1 the guy was young, only 5 years older than me. He was hot, but he was looking for something specific that he must have not been able to come across. But I was thinking to myself, what am I doing? Why am I getting money from this guy? I debated the whole time in my head if I even wanted him to pay me or should I not accept it. The whole time I just couldn't make any sense of it...because I would have gladly still hooked up with him anyway...but, I probably wouldn't of had 1st date sex with him at the same time. He was very much into me, and I was into him but at the same time I had to keep my composure. At the end, I jokingly told him I couldn't believe him coming to see me and doing this was happening.

 

So I'm just thinking to myself what to make of these type of encounters. This isn't the first time it's happened, but this particular encounter really stood out to me. It's not simple to just say, screw the money...let's just go at it. It's just hard to explain how I feel in those type of encounters because it kind of makes me question the entire reasoning of doing this work to begin with. It's like if things ever go further, I'd hate for the person to feel it's going to be on the premise of paying even though that was how the encounter started out.

 

But how would a person know if they are really connecting with someone or are just giving away a couple of free sessions?

[+ Cash4Trash]

Joey, he was paying you as a professional to fulfill a fantasy he couldn't find elsewhere and giving you money may also be part of his erotic turn on. Stop over thinking everything and do what your paid to do - fuck assholes.

[down_to_business]

For those who don't know it's gay pride in many areas across the country. So, I took advantage and posted an ad on a hookup site seeing if I could catch the end of the night crowd who may have not found anyone. So this wasn't main stream advertising per say...but the off 'see what you come up with' type of listings. Long story short, a guy who resembled this guy on a different scale came and seen me (whether people think he's hot or not is irrelevant, I didn't think he was my type either, but at the same I wouldn't of turned down something happening):

 

Throughout the whole encounter, I was into it every way...but felt like I was dreaming up the whole thing was even happening. For 1 the guy was young, only 5 years older than me. He was hot, but he was looking for something specific that he must have not been able to come across. But I was thinking to myself, what am I doing? Why am I getting money from this guy? I debated the whole time in my head if I even wanted him to pay me or should I not accept it. The whole time I just couldn't make any sense of it...because I would have gladly still hooked up with him anyway...but, I probably wouldn't of had 1st date sex with him at the same time. He was very much into me, and I was into him but at the same time I had to keep my composure. At the end, I jokingly told him I couldn't believe him coming to see me and doing this was happening.

 

So I'm just thinking to myself what to make of these type of encounters. This isn't the first time it's happened, but this particular encounter really stood out to me. It's not simple to just say, screw the money...let's just go at it. It's just hard to explain how I feel in those type of encounters because it kind of makes me question the entire reasoning of doing this work to begin with. It's like if things ever go further, I'd hate for the person to feel it's going to be on the premise of paying even though that was how the encounter started out.

 

But how would a person know if they are really connecting with someone or are just giving away a couple of free sessions?

 

A few years back I hired a guy who, durring our time together told me something along the lines of this (and no I don't resemble the guy in the ad). It was awkward at first and involved lots of overthinking, probably on both our parts. I decided that I didn't want to be rude, so I accepted his gracious offer of no charge. I did take him shopping to try and thank him because the whole thing blew me away personally and raised my self-esteem (which usually is very low after hiring someone). We became actual friends after this, and got together about 2-3 more times over the next couple of years - eventually losing touch- but masinly due to proximity issues- he lived in Canada and I lived in Texas. I did pay for his transportation all of the times we met, but I never paid him for his services.

 

I guess what I am trying to say is IN MY OPINION, offering to waive your fee could be the grand gesture that lets this person know you would like to pursue something more. The reality of it may be that the gesture is refused or worse, accepted with no reciprocal feelings and you lost a client and your fee. You also may wind up with a new friend or a new boyfriend.

 

In any case, good luck.

[smendez1942]

Joey, he was paying you as a professional to fulfill a fantasy he couldn't find elsewhere and giving you money may also be part of his erotic turn on. Stop over thinking everything and do what your paid to do - fuck assholes.

 

I would concur. This is your job. He's a client. Stop making this about you and make it ALL about him

[instudiocity]

i would concur. This is your job. He's a client. Stop making this about you and make it all about him

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Amen!

[Epigonos]

Joey, I’ve met you socially, I like you and I’m about to give you the advice I frequently give to guys just starting to HIRE escorts. DO NOT confuse the escort/client relationship.

 

The guy hired you as an escort; treat him like a client. Now if he turns you on, not only is that good, it’s fantastic. Show him the best time possible and enjoy every minute of it. That way you just might make him a very happy regular client. DO NOT confuse on the clock business with off the clock fucking around. Both can be extremely pleasurable BUT they are NOT the same.

 

If you are looking for off clock hook-ups go to Steam Works or one of the hook-up sites. Rentboy, Men4RentNow, and Daddy’s Reviews are NOT hook-up sites they are business sites.

[Jscott]

Sorry, I have to agree with the majority. If you're looking for a boyfriend, this is not the forum. And probably this is his fantasy.... When I was young and cute (not THAT long ago, lol), I hired escorts occasionally for a variety of reasons. I wasn't looking for a BF. A couple, sure, under different circumstances... and in fact, I ended up dating a couple of escorts--but I didn't know that was their profession (or sideline) at the time.

[Michael Wayne]

When I was just a puppy in the biz in Palm Beach and Ft Lauderdale I not only got alot of hot young clients which was fun I ALSO had numerous other escorts hire me. I alway got off on it and with each encounter my confidence only grew. I came out late and did not have alot of self esteem to begin with so the biz actually proved to me that guys actually found me really hot. I NEVER did anything off the books because normally these guys had lovers or wives and they WANTED to pay for reasons of discretion. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop ps...... now at my age now I frequently get guys of that same age group (21-30) who have a DADDY fetish. A signifigant percentage of cute young guys have this attraction and I LOVE it!

[bigvalboy]

When I was just a puppy in the biz in Palm Beach and Ft Lauderdale I not only got alot of hot young clients which was fun I ALSO had numerous other escorts hire me. I alway got off on it and with each encounter my confidence only grew. I came out late and did not have alot of self esteem to begin with so the biz actually proved to me that guys actually found me really hot. I NEVER did anything off the books because normally these guys had lovers or wives and they WANTED to pay for reasons of discretion. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop ps...... now at my age now I frequently get guys of that same age group (21-30) who have a DADDY fetish. A signifigant percentage of cute young guys have this attraction and I LOVE it!

 

I agree. As I have said many times before, that I started hiring when I was 17. In those days, I would hire the 25-30 year old escorts. I can't tell you how many times the escort would say to me that they should be paying me. I always liked older guys, and even though the sex was amazing, for me it was never about the hookup. I wanted the excitement of hiring someone, the fun of anonymous sex, the control of walking away on my terms, and the fun of picking new partners. IN those days, pictures rarely accompanied an ad (pre Internet), so it was exciting to see who and what would open the door.

 

I think the experience that Mikey has, might be the case for your young man, and I say "might". When I was young, sometimes these guys would call me a week or so later wanting to know if I wanted to get together. For me it never was as exciting or as much fun the second time around.

 

This is all just food for thought Joey, and in your case none of this might apply, since we do not have the option of hearing the feelings from the other side, but either way, for you at least, it could be a win win...Good luck!!!

[JoeyBryant]

giving you money may also be part of his erotic turn on. Stop over thinking everything and do what your paid to do - fuck assholes.

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I would concur. This is your job. He's a client. Stop making this about you and make it ALL about him

 

It was never all about me to begin with. It was about both of us. That's why I gave a rough estimate of what HE looked like.

 

If you are looking for off clock hook-ups go to Steam Works or one of the hook-up sites. Rentboy, Men4RentNow, and Daddy’s Reviews are NOT hook-up sites they are business sites.

 

You missed the most important part in my thread:

So, I took advantage and posted an ad on a hookup site

 

I did not meet him from men4rent or rentboy or daddy. The guy had never even paid to begin with. It was one of those off things where you're not being called up directly from an ad, but you're simply putting yourself out there to people who would have otherwise probably not have found you. (Assuming these people don't look at the same sites, lest I be naive to think they don't, but from what we discussed). I didn't even do it out of need, I just did it for fun and figured hell, I'm going to need extra money for pride since most venues are going to be charging $25-40 bucks for entrance anyway.

 

Now...as far as anything else goes, I would still treat the encounter like any other pay session. I wouldn't impose upon his privacy (even though I seen him at the bar the next night and we greeted each other, of course he told me he would be there anyway). I would tread carefully...and not totally press him about the issue. I'd simply open the door for something to happen, and if it does it does. If not, fuck it...next.

 

I don't exactly know where I was going when I wrote this thread. But I guess I just wanted to see about if other guys have felt the same, and how to approach it. Like I said, it isn't the 1st time. And, this isn't a reaction to every hot client I come across. It's different when someone contacts you from an escort site, doesn't send several face pics (which this guy did), goes about things discreetly, etc. I have sense enough to know when someone may be involved whether thru admission or not, or whether someone is just having a good time.

 

So far, there's been about 3 guys who I found success with in all this time who eventually departed the landing strip and took off into something beyond hiring. 1 of them hired me like 3 years ago, and we met again last month while I was in town. I met him from a hookup site. It's not always about looks either, sometimes it just has to align together and FEEL right. If it doesn't FEEL natural, it's not going to happen. There's certain criteria I look for and 1 is they have to be local. I'm not willing to relocate to another state for someone and move in with them. That's not how I operate. It has to be local, and the age range has to be something I won't feel would be too great of a disparity.

[Newly]

Wow. Tough crowd. Look, I know that clients aren't supposed to have feelings for escorts and escorts aren't supposed to have feelings for clients. Nothing good can come of it, it's all about the money and sex and so on....but escorts and clients are human beings and unless you are 100% dead inside things happen sometimes. Maybe I'm wrong here (and if so I'm sure I'll be corrected) but Joey appears to have come here with a real question - and everyone seems to have jumped on him to make sure he realizes what his place in the scheme of things is. Joey, I wish I had an answer for you or for myself for that matter, but all I can say is maybe some times it's ok to go with your heart and feelings. No doubt chances are great that you'll be hurt most of the times but at least when you feel pain you know you're alive and not some frigging robot always acting the way you're told to. As the saying goes sometimes you just have to say "what the fuck"!

[JoeyBryant]

No doubt chances are great that you'll be hurt most of the times but at least when you feel pain you know you're alive and not some frigging robot always acting the way you're told to. As the saying goes sometimes you just have to say "what the fuck"!

 

The only way I could be hurt is if I expected more than what was possible to begin with. Not to compare apples to oranges, but in my personal life I meet guys all the time who are dishonest, play games, and flake. I found out over the weekend 1 guy I went out with and had been chatting with for a few weeks earlier this year, was involved with someone else the whole time and is still involved with that person. I also suspect another guy I was seeing not long ago, was also dating outside of his relationship.

 

So really, it wouldn't be anything new to me if things didn't work out. Just take it in stride, and go on about my business. Atleast no one could say I didn't leave the door open, or that the person wouldn't go to the next level because I'm an escort.