How hard to review a guy you would like for your own?

[Guest verymarried]

Have you ever had anxiety while writing a review for this site, when you felt personal attachment to the subject? You want him for your own, but you know that is futile, so you help him out by writing a review.

[Guest countryboywny]

Interesting question. While everyone's situation is different, I place a great value on the relationships I have built with the guys I see. I know that I will never be their lover, but I try to be a good friend. I have no qualms about posting a review for a guy that I really like.. as a friend, I want them to succeed and a good review helps them. It's difficult to keep things in perspective sometimes, heck, who wouldn't want a bright, attractive, sexy guy to call your own.

[bigvalboy]

I place a great value on the relationships I have built with the guys I see. I know that I will never be their lover, but I try to be a good friend. I have no qualms about posting a review for a guy that I really like.. as a friend, I want them to succeed and a good review helps them. It's difficult to keep things in perspective sometimes, heck, who wouldn't want a bright, attractive, sexy guy to call your own.

 

I feel the same way....I think that it is important to keep the relationship between yourself and escorts on a healthy level.

As CB says, understanding that we can be friends, but most likely will never be their lover, is an excellent observation. Nothing good can come from blurred lines of love and lust.

 

I do not have a problem writing a review to help someone that deserves it, but would never write a positive review unless it was warranted, regardless of how I felt about the escort.

[operalover21]

Have you ever had anxiety while writing a review for this site, when you felt personal attachment to the subject? You want him for your own, but you know that is futile, so you help him out by writing a review.

 

I would walk away from that one in every possible way. It won't end well.

[+ Axiom2001]

Interesting question. While everyone's situation is different, I place a great value on the relationships I have built with the guys I see. I know that I will never be their lover, but I try to be a good friend. I have no qualms about posting a review for a guy that I really like.. as a friend, I want them to succeed and a good review helps them. It's difficult to keep things in perspective sometimes, heck, who wouldn't want a bright, attractive, sexy guy to call your own.

 

This is exactly how I view and have viewed the situation. If I develop a certain relationship with an escort and have seen him more than once, of course my reviews of our time together

will be candid and stellar, for I want others to enjoy his company and his expertise. There are approximately five men {escorts} whom I've seen more than twice for whom I feel as

stated, and I know as well as knew that we'd never become partners or boy friends as such.

[Becket]

Which brings me to one of my favorite fantasies: If I win the powerball on Saturday, what's a fair price to offer my favorite escort(s) to see me and only me? Do I still go with $1000 a night, or will a flat fee of $250,000 per year suffice?

[bigvalboy]

Which brings me to one of my favorite fantasies: If I win the powerball on Saturday, what's a fair price to offer my favorite escort(s) to see me and only me? Do I still go with $1000 a night, or will a flat fee of $250,000 per year suffice?

 

Dear God man...go with the $250,000. This is no time to "penny pinch"

[leigh.bess.toad]

Have you ever had anxiety while writing a review for this site, when you felt personal attachment to the subject? You want him for your own, but you know that is futile, so you help him out by writing a review.

 

I've never had a problem. I want to see the guys that I've seen succeed. I've had a pretty good track record at picking guys with maybe only 1 hire that really wasn't a great fit with me (and that was ok, just not a fit). So I want these guys to do well, so I will write reviews. Especially for new guys who are just starting out in the business, or just getting their name known. If it's a guy I've just seen for the first time, and he's a former EOY with 75-100 reviews, it isn't as pressing. But if it's a new guy with only 1-2 reviews, yeah, I'll make sure I'll write a review if I've had a good time.

 

Which brings me to one of my favorite fantasies: If I win the powerball on Saturday, what's a fair price to offer my favorite escort(s) to see me and only me? Do I still go with $1000 a night, or will a flat fee of $250,000 per year suffice?

 

I guess maybe I'm just a different animal. Any guy willing to accept $250,000 (or $500k or $1M) to see me exclusively is someone I wouldn't want. Now if I did win on Saturday, every one of my guys I am close to would be getting a very nice, extravagant gift, and we would all have one hell of a party together (I think actually they all know each other). But exclusivity? No thanks.

[Poolboy21409]

I think countryboyny hit it right on. While I have had mostly wonderful experiences with all the escorts I have seen, and more than once, it is the truly unique ones that emerge as what I would call friends. And it is unique how we can seamlessly transition between the escort-client relationship one minute to the friend relationship the next. The truly wonderful ones you see the day after you have had an incredible session and you all feel like long time friends -- that's professionalism on both sides. As one of my "go to guys" has said, very few of us "get it".

[down_to_business]

I think countryboyny hit it right on. While I have had mostly wonderful experiences with all the escorts I have seen, and more than once, it is the truly unique ones that emerge as what I would call friends. And it is unique how we can seamlessly transition between the escort-client relationship one minute to the friend relationship the next. The truly wonderful ones you see the day after you have had an incredible session and you all feel like long time friends -- that's professionalism on both sides. As one of my "go to guys" has said, very few of us "get it".

 

I guess that it would be nice to be able to have things that way. Unfortunately for me, my friends are my friends and "my" escort(s) are "my" escort(s). I am not able to just switch back and forth between the two. If me and an escort move to the truly friends zone, that usually means the physical part is over. Then again, I have never been one to value or require physical attractiveness as a prerequisite to friendship.

 

Have you ever had anxiety while writing a review for this site, when you felt personal attachment to the subject? You want him for your own, but you know that is futile, so you help him out by writing a review.

 

I always have anxiety writing a review. I rarely have a personal attachment to "the subject". When I do write a review it is usually more to help the guy doing the hiring. i also don't believe these escorts need to be "rescued" by me or "spared" from this terrible lifestyle they have chosen. It baffles my mind when I see so many other people go in with these intentions.

 

Which brings me to one of my favorite fantasies: If I win the powerball on Saturday, what's a fair price to offer my favorite escort(s) to see me and only me? Do I still go with $1000 a night, or will a flat fee of $250,000 per year suffice?

 

Not my fantasy at all, so I couldn't help you with that decision on a personal basis but that seems you are asking should I offer $365,000 a year or $250,000 a year - so I would suggest you offer the $250,000 and tip him $57,500 effectively splitting the difference. Personally, I would use the money for other purposes, but as it would be your money you should decide how you want to spend it.

[seeker630]

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I guess maybe I'm just a different animal. Any guy willing to accept $250,000 (or $500k or $1M) to see me exclusively is someone I wouldn't want. Now if I did win on Saturday, every one of my guys I am close to would be getting a very nice, extravagant gift, and we would all have one hell of a party together (I think actually they all know each other). But exclusivity? No thanks.

 

Lee, can you explain your feelings/reasoning here? It's not something I would do, but I'm curious about your apparent negative reaction to an escort who would accept such an arrangement. How do you see accepting an exclusive arrangement as different from accepting hourly or overnights with you?

[instudiocity]

Have you ever had anxiety while writing a review for this site, when you felt personal attachment to the subject? You want him for your own, but you know that is futile, so you help him out by writing a review.

But, if you really loved him, wouldn't you want him to find success? Seriously, wouldn't you want to get behind him and push him to the top of his profession? Wouldn't you wan to be there, 100% supportive of his career decisions? And when he recognizes that you have enough money for the both of you, and the futile nature of his rentboy career, you can live happily every after together, until you find another rentboy? (I admit to sarcasm and false expectations in my summary of burn-out.)

[Guest countryboywny]

 

I do not have a problem writing a review to help someone that deserves it, but would never write a positive review unless it was warranted, regardless of how I felt about the escort.

 

I should have been more clear in my post about my reviews of guys I like. I, too, would never write a review that wasn't honest about the encounter.. "regardless of how I feel about the escort." Thanks for pointing that out BVB!

[MrBigTL]

My answer for your question is that I learned long, long ago that escorts do not fall in love with clients. So no I have never experienced what you describe. As a matter of fact I like it that an escort is popular and that he is busy.

[+ poolboy48220]

it's like the guy who's been cutting my hair for 13 years. it's been getting harder and harder to get an appointment with him, I've been setting up my appointments four months ahead for a while now. It wasn't like that when I started going to him, but once while we were setting them up I mentioned it and said "You're doing pretty well with this now, aren't you?" he's a great guy, I'm very happy that he's found success.

 

And to contradict my earlier statement, if I ever do need to get in at the last minute, he's always found time.