No-Shows

[ibutukhia]

I'm going to make an equal generalization and say that every escort would like a repeat clientele. Even so, the newness of meeting with someone unknown is a huge turn-on for me. And a number of escorts I've talked to feel the same way.

 

I can see where it would be a turn-on to be wanted by lots of guys. Who wouldn't like "a secret admirer"? And guys like you have lots of secret admirers. And you actually get to meet a lot of them, living out a fantasy.

 

But does that turn-on outweigh the reality of being with someone you've seen a few times, someone who knows what turns you on, what you really like? Or are repeat clients sort of like an old familiar sweater -- nice, comfortable, something you'd like to keep around, but not very exciting any more.

[unsub2O17]

Some other things about an "old, familiar sweater" are that you know where the wrinkles and tears are and what you have to do to make it look and wear like new.

[N13]

For myself, when I find a great restaurant I stop experimenting and keep going back. Finding a compatable escort is just the same. I saw the same guy for about 6 years before he retired....it never got boring, we knew each other's buttons.

[Jscott]

For myself, when I find a great restaurant I stop experimenting and keep going back. Finding a compatable escort is just the same. I saw the same guy for about 6 years before he retired....it never got boring, we knew each other's buttons.

 

Interesting comparison. I agree... to a point. I love good food & wine as much as good sex (thankfully the former doesn't show TOO much, lol). Both are orgasmic. So I love the sensation of trying something different, especially when traveling. Perhaps I even learn more of the culture. Back home, there are certainly lots of exciting new restaurants. And I'll try most of them, certainly if they're well-reviewed. But having that old reliable standby is invaluable (hmmm, maybe it's because I'm monogamous when in a committed relationship?)

 

Back to the no-show. It happened to me recently in England. The escort and I emailed furiously back and forth afterward. I'd like to think it was an unfortunate mishap. But I do think it would be a service to potential clients; who knows how often it happens? Not sure what the gastronomic equivalent would be (offering something on the menu that's unavailable doesn't cover it, lol)

[down_to_business]

I'm going to make an equal generalization and say that every escort would like a repeat clientele. Even so, the newness of meeting with someone unknown is a huge turn-on for me. And a number of escorts I've talked to feel the same way.

 

I can see where it would be a turn-on to be wanted by lots of guys. Who wouldn't like "a secret admirer"? And guys like you have lots of secret admirers. And you actually get to meet a lot of them, living out a fantasy.

 

But does that turn-on outweigh the reality of being with someone you've seen a few times, someone who knows what turns you on, what you really like? Or are repeat clients sort of like an old familiar sweater -- nice, comfortable, something you'd like to keep around, but not very exciting any more.

 

To some extent I enjoy the "first meeting" with someone new-- the butterflies-- excitement, nervousness, fear, anxiety, the feeling that time is frozen and each passing second takes what feels like an hour until I hear that knock at the door and my stomach drops like I am riding Tower of Terror at a Disney theme park. Unfortunately, much of that has been replaced by the sheer anxiety of will he or won't he show-up and if he does will he even remotely look like his pictures.

 

As to the familiarity of a longtime repeat... there is a sacrifice in the excitement factor, but there is also an increase in comfort and a reduction in anxiety. Unfortunately for me-- I get to a point where "the relationship" has to take a step forward or it morphs into one of friendship or brotherly love and this is the end of the escort/client relationship for me.

[seeker630]

It is shocking that with this economy and in such a competitive profession some guys would turn down $ 200, $250 or $300 for an hour of their time.

 

In some cases, they may have gotten a better offer (longer or more convenient appointment). I also had a traveling guy decide to leave town the day before my scheduled appointment - I'm guessing he either got a plum offer back in his hometown or he wasn't making enough money on his tour & decided to cut his losses. (But at least I found out when I tried to confirm the appointment the day before.)

[ibutukhia]

Some other things about an "old, familiar sweater" are that you know where the wrinkles and tears are and what you have to do to make it look and wear like new.

 

And sometimes the tears are so bad, even the best tailor in the world can't make it look new.

 

Finding a compatable escort is just the same. I saw the same guy for about 6 years before he retired....it never got boring, we knew each other's buttons.

 

It may not be boring for clients like you and me. But I asking from an escort's perspective. Comparing the exciting of being pursued and the fantasy of meeting new clients versus the comfort of repeat clients who, if the client knows what they are doing, knows what really turns on the escort. Wouldn't that excitement of being desired by so many men outweigh guys you've seen before, no matter how good a relationship you have?

[marylander1940]

In some cases, they may have gotten a better offer (longer or more convenient appointment). I also had a traveling guy decide to leave town the day before my scheduled appointment - I'm guessing he either got a plum offer back in his hometown or he wasn't making enough money on his tour & decided to cut his losses. (But at least I found out when I tried to confirm the appointment the day before.)

 

He wasn't a no-show because he cancelled with you the day before when you tried to confirm.

 

A no-show is someone who doesn't show up and after not showing up doesn't even apologize or tries to reschedule.

[Phil_musc]

Even so, the newness of meeting with someone unknown is a huge turn-on for me. And a number of escorts I've talked to feel the same way.

 

So does this mean that an escort would make a business decision based on what the little head says rather than what the big head (the one that tells you what is smart business-wise) says? I thought it was only the clients that made these kind of foolish choices. I would think based on a smart business practices that the repeat client would trump the possible excitement of the new client. Silly me. . .

[down_to_business]

While I have never actually no-showed on a client, I have had to cancel at the last minute. It wasn't because I had a regular flash their preferred status card or even that I got a much better offer. It was most likely that I didn't want to get the client sick with the flu (which is bad at best) or a cold sore (which could be a reputation-destroying offense, IMHO).

 

I'm going to make an equal generalization and say that every escort would like a repeat clientele. Even so, the newness of meeting with someone unknown is a huge turn-on for me. And a number of escorts I've talked to feel the same way.

 

So does this mean that an escort would make a business decision based on what the little head says rather than what the big head (the one that tells you what is smart business-wise) says? I thought it was only the clients that made these kind of foolish choices. I would think based on a smart business practices that the repeat client would trump the possible excitement of the new client. Silly me. . .

 

I didn't take Chris's comments to mean that at all. I think he was saying that while it's exciting for him to meet new clients, he honors the appointments he makes whether or not its a new or a regular client.

[leigh.bess.toad]

So does this mean that an escort would make a business decision based on what the little head says rather than what the big head (the one that tells you what is smart business-wise) says? I thought it was only the clients that made these kind of foolish choices. I would think based on a smart business practices that the repeat client would trump the possible excitement of the new client. Silly me. . .

 

I agree with DTB. As someone who knows Chris pretty well, that isn't what he means at all. But you have to admit, it would be kind of ego boosting to have people you've never seen wanting to be with you. To have, as ibutukhia put it, "a secret admirer". How could that not be seen as a turn-on? But that in no way means that he does not want repeat clients. Look at the sentence he wrote before what you included: "I'm going to make an equal generalization and say that every escort would like a repeat clientele." Chris does (and the other guys I know do) really want to get to know guys on a long-term basis. But that doesn't mean it isn't a turn-on meeting new people either.

[bigvalboy]

While I have never actually no-showed on a client, I have had to cancel at the last minute. It wasn't because I had a regular flash their preferred status card or even that I got a much better offer. It was most likely that I didn't want to get the client sick with the flu (which is bad at best) or a cold sore (which could be a reputation-destroying offense, IMHO).

 

I'm going to make an equal generalization and say that every escort would like a repeat clientele. Even so, the newness of meeting with someone unknown is a huge turn-on for me. And a number of escorts I've talked to feel the same way.

 

 

I'm a little late to the party down here, but I do have a question, you may not be in the habit of a no-show, but have you ever asked a client to leave, before the session got started, for whatever reason. Happened to me once. It was very un-nerving. He kept accusing me of being a cop and that I was there as a set up. I'm not sure why, but I actually wasted my time trying to convince him otherwise. After a few minutes I realized that he was probably spun-out on something and I just went back to the hotel.

[ErieBear]

I'm a little late to the party down here, but I do have a question, you may not be in the habit of a no-show, but have you ever asked a client to leave, before the session got started, for whatever reason. Happened to me once. It was very un-nerving. He kept accusing me of being a cop and that I was there as a set up. I'm not sure why, but I actually wasted my time trying to convince him otherwise. After a few minutes I realized that he was probably spun-out on something and I just went back to the hotel.

 

That's one advantage to being fat. No one has EVER accused me of being a cop. LOL

[bigvalboy]

That's one advantage to being fat. No one has EVER accused me of being a cop. LOL

 

lol....

[Guy Fawkes]

If you burn the candle at both ends...

 

I don't tend to post no-shows, however I take notice so the review is useful. This is a policy that Hooboy started. He tried several things including a "No Show" page, that all became abused. Finally the policies as he penned himself:

 

Do you take "No-Show" reviews?

In general we look at these on a case-by-case basis. In general we "Hold" these type of reviews because it is very difficult to verify this type of situation.

 

What if I prepaid for a "No Show"?

In general, you should never prepay for services. If you come across a site that asks for a prepayment via Western Union or Money order, it is highly probable that it's a Scam.

 

Do not submit a review because there will be a delay before I see it. Send email directly to

[email protected]

and include the details as this is not the norm for the industry.

 

Note: daddypleaser.com is the latest cupcake scam!

 

What if I don't like his attitude...

Hooboy once said: "Folks, if you didn't eat at the restaurant, I don't think you can write about the sashimi. If you don't like the way the menu looks or if the staff has an attitude problem, move on. Do not try to dish the dish."

 

 

I don't allow reviews in the Message Forum. However, brief messages like: "XXX was a no-show, has anybody else had problems with him?" is in bounds. If you get abusive and/or vindictive expect Daddy's maternal extinct to kick in. Five letter word starts with "B"

 

Please note that I have been known to kick butt privately in the area. Best line from that recently: "If you burn your candle at both ends, your the one that gets burned in the middle!" If I'm in the middle of a Ass kicking I may ask you to tone it down as I firmly believe in only one beating at a time. There is currently a beating in progress.

 

QUOTE=bigvalboy;856374]

Absolutely, that is one of the purposes of the forum, however in all fairness, I personally would write an official review first, to give the escort an opportunity to answer the charges, however members will post on the forum all the time about no-shows without writing a review. I think that is perfectly acceptable...IMHO

[Guy Fawkes]

Moving on....

 

Now Privately....

 

My tolerance is about one hour. If they show up after that I look at them sharply and say: "Humm... Your about xxx minutes late... Do you really want to be on the bottom of three way grudge sex?"

 

It has happened twice; One said: "No," and one said: "Yes." Hell of a fun night. He was barely able to walk the next day.

 

The point is that if it's a no-show, I move on to the next man on the list. There's always plenty more men that need some loving.

[bigvalboy]

I don't tend to post no-shows, however I take notice so the review is useful. This is a policy that Hooboy started. He tried several things including a "No Show" page, that all became abused. Finally the policies as he penned himself:

 

Do you take "No-Show" reviews?

In general we look at these on a case-by-case basis. In general we "Hold" these type of reviews because it is very difficult to verify this type of situation.

 

What if I prepaid for a "No Show"?

In general, you should never prepay for services. If you come across a site that asks for a prepayment via Western Union or Money order, it is highly probable that it's a Scam.

 

Do not submit a review because there will be a delay before I see it. Send email directly to

[email protected]

and include the details as this is not the norm for the industry.

 

Note: daddypleaser.com is the latest cupcake scam!

 

What if I don't like his attitude...

Hooboy once said: "Folks, if you didn't eat at the restaurant, I don't think you can write about the sashimi. If you don't like the way the menu looks or if the staff has an attitude problem, move on. Do not try to dish the dish."

 

 

I don't allow reviews in the Message Forum. However, brief messages like: "XXX was a no-show form, has anybody else had problems with him?" is in bounds. If you get abusive and/or vindictive expect Daddy's maternal extinct to kick in. Five letter word starts with "B"

 

Please note that I have been known to kick butt privately in the area. Best line from that recently: "If you burn your candle at both ends, your the one that gets burned in the middle!" If I'm in the middle of a Ass kicking I may ask you to tone it down as I firmly believe in only one beating at a time. There is currently a beating in progress.

 

QUOTE=bigvalboy;856374]

Absolutely, that is one of the purposes of the forum, however in all fairness, I personally would write an official review first, to give the escort an opportunity to answer the charges, however members will post on the forum all the time about no-shows without writing a review. I think that is perfectly acceptable...IMHO

 

So I was actually kinda right...right?......lol.....or probaby best just to say, "Moving On"

[Guy Fawkes]

Ya did good!

 

So I was actually kinda right...right?......lol.....or probaby best just to say, "Moving On"

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

So does this mean that an escort would make a business decision based on what the little head says rather than what the big head (the one that tells you what is smart business-wise) says? I thought it was only the clients that made these kind of foolish choices. I would think based on a smart business practices that the repeat client would trump the possible excitement of the new client. Silly me. . .

 

My response was based on the prior statement from Travis that the hypothetical escort might have hypothetically canceled because "a regular" came into the picture and he gave that person priority. I'm saying that for myself and many other escorts I know, having regular clients is great because of the familiarity of expectation and the established relationship. And likewise, having a new client is often exciting because it's a similar turn-on that one might feel when picking someone up from a bar. The excitement of a new conquest.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

I'm a little late to the party down here, but I do have a question, you may not be in the habit of a no-show, but have you ever asked a client to leave, before the session got started, for whatever reason. Happened to me once. It was very un-nerving. He kept accusing me of being a cop and that I was there as a set up. I'm not sure why, but I actually wasted my time trying to convince him otherwise. After a few minutes I realized that he was probably spun-out on something and I just went back to the hotel.

 

Let's see... keyword: asked to leave

 

(I feel like that Cars.com commercial where a billion cars pop up and then you filter things down with additional words)

 

The only one that comes to mind is a client who had an obvious outbreak of... something. I stopped the appointment.

 

I have had maybe five clients stop me, and say that they couldn't go through with meeting after all. It's always been a personal issue, and the last one was in Philly and involved memories of abuse.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

That's one advantage to being fat. No one has EVER accused me of being a cop. LOL

 

I asked my neighbor, who is head of CSI (and overweight and bald), how he could afford all those designer clothes for work. He asked, "what designer clothes?"

 

"Why, the ones that you guys wear at work when solving crimes, of course. I've seen it on tv!" He laughed and said that was not an accurate portrayal.

 

Then I asked about the dramatic blue neon background lighting, and that amazing crime version of Photoshop they use on TV that allows you to turn people around and see reflections of the criminal in their eyes.

[marylander1940]

I'm a little late to the party down here, but I do have a question, you may not be in the habit of a no-show, but have you ever asked a client to leave, before the session got started, for whatever reason. Happened to me once. It was very un-nerving. He kept accusing me of being a cop and that I was there as a set up. I'm not sure why, but I actually wasted my time trying to convince him otherwise. After a few minutes I realized that he was probably spun-out on something and I just went back to the hotel.

 

I'm sorry about your experience. Where did it happen? Vegas, TN, MS, AL, or other place where cops get involved with the business?

 

you should start a thread on "ask an escort" about the reasons why some escorts would consider excusing themselves and asking a client to leave.

[McLeanspider]

... you should start a thread on "ask an escort" about the reasons why some escorts would consider excusing themselves and asking a client to leave.

 

I know a reason why some escorts ask some would-be-clients to leave... I think clients should describe themselves and what they want from the escort in advance.

 

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[Phil_musc]

My response was based on the prior statement from Travis that the hypothetical escort might have hypothetically canceled because "a regular" came into the picture and he gave that person priority. I'm saying that for myself and many other escorts I know, having regular clients is great because of the familiarity of expectation and the established relationship. And likewise, having a new client is often exciting because it's a similar turn-on that one might feel when picking someone up from a bar. The excitement of a new conquest.

 

I was in no way pointing a finger at you (or anyone else when I wrote my earlier observation. And I think I understand your point. No foul intended.

 

Sorry about your experience in Philly. Don't write us off there ;-)

[+ Travis69]

Sorry if my post created problems.