Non sexual domination?

[MikeBiDude]

I have come across a unique opportunity to be the "dominate" in a situation with a sub guy who is looking to be dominated in a "non-sexual" manner. I'm very interested in setting this up right.

 

Any suggestions on an hour or so of scenes I can setup where the domination will be non-sexual? (bless my horny brain...it can only come up with the usual sexual domination themes). I'm very interested in pleasing this guy - he says he's into verbal humiliation, light bondage, he will get down to underwear or a jock strap, but does not want to be completely naked.

 

Any suggestions would be appreciated...or questions?

[Bilbo]

There are certain pieces of house work which don't appeal to everyone and therefore making your sub do them can be quite domineering. This would include washing your dishes and cleaning your bathroom.

 

Some people wouldn't think of dog training as being necessarily sexual. "Making" him crawl around the floor as you lead him with a leash and a collar and occaisionally make him bark. Maybe a bit of boot licking.

 

These are the first two things to leap into my mind. I'm looking forward to enjoying everyone else's answers, too. (I bet, though, that the number one answer is going to be to grill him enough to find out what would turn him on, then do it. You don't have to admit that you don't have as much experience either with reality or fantasy in this situation as he does. That might turn him off. But you could, say, pretend that you can think of any number of things you could do and you just want to make sure that you're on the same wavelength.)

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I get clients sometimes that like to wrestle around and be dominated that way without actually taking off their undies. And sometimes when they say "non-sexual" they don't mean "no sexual themes;" they just mean they don't want any actual sex. So maybe you can go with some of the sexually themed stuff you're thinking of but stop short of anything that's too genital-oriented.

 

That's about all I can come up with without knowing more. What was the "usual sexually themed" stuff you had in mind?

[Guest JimEricNJ]

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[Guest happyguy]

And guess what? In that sense, maybe forcing him into mildly sexual situations (i.e. spanking him when he screws up on an order) could be a real domination that would satisfy him surprisingly!

 

Just a thought,

 

hg

[Justice]

I agree. A spanking is a great way to dominate someone in non-sexual manner. It's also very hot. You can start to lecture him for some imaginary infraction and then announce that you're going to take down his pants and take him across your lap and spank him and then do just that.

 

Just a thought.

 

Justice

[tropikal_knight]

DRfromFL

 

The previous poster makes a very good point, by making the statement that you want to please him you have very much switched role. However, that is not a bad thing per se, just realize that you will be acting a part and that the last thing your client wants is for you to be anything less than dominate. Most likely he is asking for this scene for one of two psychological reasons- 1. He is in a high stress, high powered profession of sorts that requires a lot of decision making and control. Now he wants to have that burden lifted and have someone else take (almost) complete control. 2. He has self esteem issues surrounding his sexuality, perhaps he was abused. Now he is looking for that self image to be reinforced. (Or a combination of both which is most likely.)

 

Here are some suggestions I can make:

First and most importantly have a candid discussion over the phone, NOT in person. (Will explain in a moment). Find out if he has ever done this before, if he has ask what excited him or satisfied him, and what turned him off. Listen carefully as he describes the scene, this will give you clues as to what he likes, most likely he will get turned on just describing it to you.

 

Secondly and most importantly, ask him about his limits, what areas he does not want to go into. If this becomes uncomfortable, dont push it, you may scare him. At some point suggest that you two agree upon a code word or phrase, this could be as simple as "time out". Reassure him that ANYTIME he uses this code, that you will back off and stop role playing. Of course once you reach this understanding it is incumbent on you to follow through.

 

As to the actual scene itself here are some suggestions:

 

Take charge immediately, as soon as you walk in the door become the dominate force, (this is why I said have the discussion over the phone). Choose a name that you want him to call you by, Sir, Master, Lord are commonly used, but you can be creative here. Then find a name for him, (he probably has one that he likes, but dont feel compelled to use it, again a matter of you being in control). Perhaps start by setting up your rules. For example, you are to call me Master ____ at all times, you are not allowed to look me in the eye, unless I give you permission, you are to do exactly as I say when I tell you to, you are not allowed to speak without permission, etc.

Ordering him to his knees my be a good start and a way to get his attention while you are outlining your parameters.

 

As to some specifics, Housecleaning acts which someone else mentioned are good, getting you a beverage, lighting your cigarettes if you smoke, washing/ironing your clothes, cleaning your toilet is a biggy!

Semi-sexual acts, like licking or washing your feet, giving you a bath or backrub, washing your hair and blow-drying it are possibilities. Further out on the scale would be caging him somehow, whipping or flogging him, humiliate him by somehow dressing or makeing himself up in a feminine manner, watersports may or may not be appropriate, if he wants it totally non sexual go in the other room and piss in a glass tell him what you did and then make him sample it. (Not as gross and unhealthy as you may think).

 

Anyway you get the picture, you said that he wanted to be dominated and verbally humiliated. This is the key aspect of the scene, your tone, inflection and choice of language will make or break this. Be aggressive and forceful, choose demeaning language, dont hesitate to call him names, perhaps spit on him, (that one is touchy, you may say something like "you make me sick punk, you make me feel like spitting on you, do you want me to spit on you?" If he is truly into it, he will probably respond with "whatever you want,sir!" Then do it. Remember he is the one who has agreed to submit, he has told you what he wants, just give it to him and dont let up, unless you want to be a merciful Master, and say something like "I think I will give my boy a 5 minute break now for being so good. Relax and take it easy."

 

One last thing, if you hit on an area that really arouses him, he will probably get really turned on, listen to his breathing and watch his movements, (he may start trembling). If this happens he is probably going to come without any help. If you see it happening keep it up, he will love it.

 

I hope this helps!

[taylorky]

Most likely he is asking for this scene for one of

>two psychological reasons- 1. He is in a high stress, high

>powered profession of sorts that requires a lot of decision

>making and control. Now he wants to have that burden lifted

>and have someone else take (almost) complete control. 2. He

>has self esteem issues surrounding his sexuality, perhaps he

>was abused. Now he is looking for that self image to be

>reinforced. (Or a combination of both which is most likely.)

 

 

 

 

orrrrrrrrr maybe he's just a little teeney bit on the STRANGE side and likes getting whupped and abused! If you can't come with anything that satisfies his need for domination send him to ky.,we have an 80 acre field that needs bushhoging,,,,,,,,taylor@02:49-05/30/03:+

[taylorky]

Most likely he is asking for this scene for one of

>two psychological reasons- 1. He is in a high stress, high

>powered profession of sorts that requires a lot of decision

>making and control. Now he wants to have that burden lifted

>and have someone else take (almost) complete control. 2. He

>has self esteem issues surrounding his sexuality, perhaps he

>was abused. Now he is looking for that self image to be

>reinforced. (Or a combination of both which is most likely.)

 

 

 

 

orrrrrrrrr maybe he's just a little teeney bit on the STRANGE side and likes getting whupped and abused! If you can't come with anything that satisfies his need for domination send him to ky.,we have an 80 acre field that needs bushhoging,,,,,,,,taylor@02:49-05/30/03:+

[Bilbo]

While I agree that it is most likely for one of those two reasons, there are others. One large one is, believe it or don't, spiritual. Think about the sundancers, the penitantes, etc, etc.

 

While we have mentioned role playing, we have hardly gone into all of the role games available. One that comes to mind is POW. You could agree on the phone about the kind of information you are going to try to get out of him. You are not allowed, by the Geneval convention, to use genital torture on him, but you can do anything else you want to (provided he doesn't use the safe word) to torture that information out of him. That is your goal in the game and he will eventually let you win, if you rise to the challenge with enough imaginative challenges for him.