Did "Nick German" Just Flake On Me???

[nynakedtop]

Based upon his excellent reviews on the Daddy site plus his special attributes, I booked a session with Nick German here in New York for a visiting friend (from Texas)... All was going just fine, the session was set up and confirmed two days in advance, and Nick texted to confirm very late the night before the following day's early afternoon appointment.

 

But: then an hour before the session he texted to cancel.

 

It goes without saying that my friend was extremely disappointed (he kind of structured a lot of his visit around this appointment). It further goes without saying that we will NOT be contacting Nick German again.

 

Does this count as a "flake"? I know that escorts are human beings and sometimes things happen, but this set of circumstances seems (to be generous) a bit bizarre.

[BaronArtz]

I don't know 'Nick German'. But I am inclined to think that your judgment may be a bit harsh. Sometimes there are valid reasons for a cancellation. To be honest, I'd rather have an escort cancel than have a disappointing experience with someone who is not 'into it' at that time. Besides, there are 100s of escorts to choose from here in NY - it is not that you and your friend were stranded on a deserted island.

[+ Travis69]

Did he give any reason for cancelling the appointment? I would classify a "flake" as a no show without any notice.

[uwsman2]

I agree with Travis69. Life is unpredictable, things come up. Somebody who has a long string of good reviews on this site is probably a pretty dependable fellow, which means it is likely that something happened beyond his control. (I don't know him and am just drawing inferences from his review record here.)

[chelseanyc]

Your friend's experience sounds eerily familiar. Over the course of 5+ years, Nick canceled on me at least 3 times. I live in New York so I could bide my time til I could try again, as I'm really into muscle. Things would usually go well with scheduling (I believe he was always very prompt with replies) but a day or less before the appointment when he asked for more detail about what I wanted to do and I said I wanted to be topped, something would come up, be it traffic/travel problems, being spent after a session with his bf, being under the weather. One cancellation came so late I had already douched. I was puzzled by the lack of people writing about this happening to them (he's worshipped here and on MSS). I did finally get together with him a year ago and he was good but after the trouble it took to get to meet him I won't put myself through the hassle again.

[down_to_business]

When a client cancels on an escort 1 hour prior to the meeting, the escort usually screams bloody murder and the client is villified and cruicified. I don't disagree with this. I don't feel the escort has any less of an obligation. I think you have every right to expect an escort to honor an appointment he made and confirmed with you. There is no justifiable excuse to cancel by text message one hour prior to a confirmed meeting. That's as professional as breaking up with your partner by text message. You are justified 100% to feel angry and cheated. Your time is no less valuable than his time and don't let anyone else try to make you feel otherwise. Its worsened by the fact you have unrecoverable travel expenses (flights, hotel, etc) that you will never see again. I can't imagine any decent person who would think you should just have to suck up the ruined vacation because the person who stood you up is an escort.

[orbital sander]

What if he was in a traffic accident?

[whipped guy]

It has been a while since I have hired Nick. However, he always seemed like a very reliable person. Our first time together he did text often to tell me that he would be a bit late and then kept me posted of his progress. After the session he revealed to me that he had rather tough day. However, I would never have guessed that given his energy and friendly demeaner. Incidentally, I submitted a very favorable review of our time together. But perhaps, my experience was the exception as opposed to the norm. Who knows??

 

I have had last minute cancelations from other escorts while in NYC. At times I was able to contact others for some last minute fun. Still, at other times I was left out in the cold even though I was technically right in the middle of the largest escort candy store in the universe...

 

Sorry this happened... But if he would not be up to performing it is probably all for the best. Still, I hope he did offer some sort of excuse and apology And especially if he knew that the client was from out of the area. As was noted above... If the shoe were in the other foot...

[marylander1940]

Your friend's experience sounds eerily familiar. Over the course of 5+ years, Nick canceled on me at least 3 times. I live in New York so I could bide my time til I could try again, as I'm really into muscle. Things would usually go well with scheduling (I believe he was always very prompt with replies) but a day or less before the appointment when he asked for more detail about what I wanted to do and I said I wanted to be topped, something would come up, be it traffic/travel problems, being spent after a session with his bf, being under the weather. One cancellation came so late I had already douched. I was puzzled by the lack of people writing about this happening to them (he's worshipped here and on MSS). I did finally get together with him a year ago and he was good but after the trouble it took to get to meet him I won't put myself through the hassle again.

 

He cancelled on you 3 times and you kept trying to meet him till you finally met him?

 

Did you rescheduled the 1st cancellation to the 2nd one, and the 2nd to the 3rd one?

 

I understand 1 cancellation, but 3 in 5 years, if I was you I would have moved on by the 2nd time he cancelled.

[chelseanyc]

He cancelled on you 3 times and you kept trying to meet him till you finally met him?

 

Did you rescheduled the 1st cancellation to the 2nd one, and the 2nd to the 3rd one?

 

I understand 1 cancellation, but 3 in 5 years, if I was you I would have moved on by the 2nd time he cancelled.

 

I can't be the first guy on this board who thought with his dick, can I? As I said, with me living in NY, the stakes were low so when Nick cancelled, I could either find someone else on short notice or I would just jerk off and dream of eventually getting together with Nick, running my tongue through the creases of his abs.

 

And I want to make clear that during those years pursuing Nick, I had plenty of wonderful encounters with guys like DavidSF, MiguelPR, Todd Dillon, Dane Scott, Austin Wolf and most recently Michael #2, so I wasn't depriving myself while waiting for Nick.

 

I think the first cancellation came when he was still living primarily in Boston and the excuse was travel difficulties either keeping him from his planned NY visit or requiring him to go back to Boston early, so I didn't try rebooking immediately. I was certainly turned off by the experience but in a year or two, as I kept seeing amazing pictures of him, I would get horny enough to try again. And again. And again. Over time I came to realize that the cancellation would come sometime after I said very singlemindedly I wanted to get fucked by him, so it was on my 4th try that I was more vague about what I wanted (but I included getting topped by him in the mix of things I wanted to do) and bingo, that's the time he didn't cancel.

 

I want to emphasize that Nick was in spectacular shape - exactly like his pictures, and he worked hard for the 1 hour session I had booked and I had a good time. I think the repeated cancellations only made him more attractive to me, like trying to capture a unicorn, and the actuality of the experience killed the mystique and thrill of the chase. I would definitely recommend him to anyone into muscle worship and/or likes to fuck muscle studs; from his reviews, Nick is reportedly a superb bottom.

[marylander1940]

I can't be the first guy on this board who thought with his dick, can I?

 

No you're not, but you have so much to choose from in NYC.

[JT Brooklyn]

I wrote Nicks First Review on Daddys a long time ago when I was referred to as JT Brooklyn and have hung out several times. We have kept in touch from time to time over the Year's.

 

He does contribute quite a bit over on Muscle Service. My question would be did he give a reason for the last minute cancel?

 

IF the answer is Yes then I would take it to be the truth. IF he gave No reason that's a different story?

[TruHart1]

Having spent time with Nick only once, I may not really be qualified to chime in on this. However, that one time was a two hour session that stretched (he was definitely no clock watcher with me!) to over three hours and we basically tried everything BUT him topping me. That thick meat he has looked pretty impossible for me to take. I got the impression that he would have been happy to let me bottom if I had desired that. In fact, we finished the sexual part of our session in about two hours but then talked about U.S. and German politics among other things for another hour or so.

 

I must agree that his body is a muscle worshiper’s dream and Nick has a wonderful personality! I have no idea what might have caused him to cancel in the case of nynakedtop or the 3 times in the case of chelseanyc. Granted, at 3 hours, you don’t really KNOW someone but from our conversation and from his enthusiasm in the bedroom, he seemed like the type of guy who would probably have a good reason if he canceled. I had a well-reviewed guy “flake” on me once and I figured out eventually that he was most likely going through a crisis of some sort in his personal life at the time. You never really know, though.

 

TruHart1:cool:

[whipped guy]

I just got this thought regarding Nick. When I first contacted him he was training for a bodybuilding competition... and during that period he was not prompt (or very competent regarding to whom he was replying for that matter) as far as returning messages was concerned. Consequently I almost gave up. However, I was advised to wait until his competition was over and he suddenly was a different person and had his act totally together. I am not sure if that was a factor in this latest incident, but I did mention it to him and he blamed his crazy dieting and the other crazy things that competitive bodybuilders do that actually puts a great deal of stress on their brains as well as their bodies. Not sure if that might have been the reason, but it might be something to factor into the equation

[JT Brooklyn]

Nynakedtop..We still haven't heard the reason given for the Cancellation?

 

Nick is known around here and I am sure by now has heard about your Cancel Thread.

 

So we just might be hearing his side of the story which is only Fair .

[nynakedtop]

Nynakedtop..We still haven't heard the reason given for the Cancellation?

 

Nick is known around here and I am sure by now has heard about your Cancel Thread.

 

So we just might be hearing his side of the story which is only Fair .

 

apologies - at 4am he texted to confirm the appointment for 1pm the following day. at 12 noon, he wrote saying that he had a "soar" (sic) throat and needed to cancel.

[operalover21]

What if he was in a traffic accident?

 

So if he were in a traffic accident, it's okay to text one hour before?

[instudiocity]

So if he were in a traffic accident, it's okay to text one hour before?

If he was in a traffic accident, it's OK to text whenever he finds the chance.

 

But apparently, at 4 AM he was a go, and at 12 Noon, one hour before the appointment his throat SOARed (sic).

apologies - at 4am he texted to confirm the appointment for 1pm the following day. at 12 noon' date=' he wrote saying that he had a "soar" (sic) throat and needed to cancel.[/color']

[seeker630]

apologies - at 4am he texted to confirm the appointment for 1pm the following day. at 12 noon, he wrote saying that he had a "soar" (sic) throat and needed to cancel.

 

If he had a sore throat, cancelling the appointment was the right thing to do, IMO - unless you had booked strictly muscle worship. Sort throat = no kissing & no oral, as far as I'm concerned. Sort throats are often symptomatic of infections.

 

More notice would have been preferable, but if was up at 4 am that morning, then his noon text might have come shortly after he awoke.

 

of course, I'm only offering theories - only Nick knows all the details.

 

And I do sympathize with your situation. NYC may be the great 'candy store' but the entire selection is NOT available at a moment's notice, and finding a quality guy on short notice is NOT always easy.

[down_to_business]

Escorts.. please chirp in on this one. Juan, Steven, Mikey, others??

 

So I confirm an appointment with you for tomorrow. 1 hour before the appointment I text you to tell you that I am cancelling the appointment because I have a sore throat. Is this acceptable for your clients to do??

 

Chris I am not asking you because you would probably say yes and show up at the clients home to bring him chicken soup. But seriously.. is this acceptable?

[uwsman2]

I've had one or two situations where I booked time with an escort a day or two in advance and suddenly experienced an unexpected head cold or sore throat. I felt duty-bound to cancel, because I would be exposing the escort to whatever bug had hit me, and he could just as well pass it on to the next guy. (Besides, when my nose is dripping and my throat is sore I don't really feel like having sex.) And, I would hope that if an escort with whom I booked time suddenly felt the beginnings of a bad cold, he would call me to cancel, since I wouldn't want to catch what he's suffering from. And my experience is that sometimes colds develop quickly with little advance notice. If Nick said he had a "soar" throat (and we all know that English spelling can be a challenge for somebody who's not a native English speaker - indeed, to judge by student writing I've seen over the years, plenty of American college students and grads commonly misspell the simplest words, especially in email messages), he was doing a favor in calling to cancel.

[whipped guy]

I am not defending Nick in any way... but he is a very intelligent guy... and English is his not his first langauge... and I have confused soar and sore (not to mention here and hear plus there and their etc.) and the gods only know what else when texting and typing. So that should not be an issue.

 

However, I can recall instances when I suddenly felt as though a viral or bacterial bug suddenly grabbed hold of my throat with a vengeance and without warning. If such were the case he did all concerned a favor by canceling... plus being under the weather he might not have been up to being very "talkative" about his explaination... we've all been there at one time or another when we just want to sleep it off... or run to the doctor...

 

I always say that everything happens for the best in the final analysis and in retrospect that usually tends to be the case... and things really are never as bad as they first seem.

 

Stuff happens... and sometimes it ain't good... but it still happens and we deal with it... and move on... and attempt to make the best out of the situation...

 

So the bottom line... someone saved some money... and no diseases were transmitted... an nobody was sick for several days which would have further ruined the potential client's trip.

 

That ain't the end of the world...

[JT Brooklyn]

apologies - at 4am he texted to confirm the appointment for 1pm the following day. at 12 noon, he wrote saying that he had a "soar" (sic) throat and needed to cancel.

 

You've left out the part about Nick offering to meet at 3 PM even though he thought for YOUR Friends Health it was not A VERY GOOD IDEA?

 

 

I don't know how much your friend knows about Body Building but being suseptible to Colds etc is not all that rare.

[nynakedtop]

You've left out the part about Nick offering to meet at 3 PM even though he thought for YOUR Friends Health it was not A VERY GOOD IDEA?

 

first i heard about that offer, and a bit curious as to how you are privy to it!

[JT Brooklyn]

Surprised you weren't "Privy" to it before you started the thread? I ain't a "Peer" for nothing!