Following up With a Client After a Session

[Guest countryboywny]

Properly? ... Anyway who on Earth would want to have a repeat with you? ...

 

I was wondering why I never hear from you... hmmm. And here, I thought you lost my email address.. LOL

[Keenan]

How do you like to follow up with a client?

I can get pretty excited after a particularly nice session and will want to follow up with

an e-mail or text message; essentially, letting a client know I had a great time with

them. Sometimes I'll want to say more, telling a client I'd be happy to see them again

without seeming pushy.

I'm curious to know what's acceptable to other escorts and clients. Am I crossing

unspoken boundaries by contacting a client after our exchange? Or is my level of

sentiment out of hand?

 

I feel an e-mail follow up with a client is fine. It shows that you care about how the client felt and want to continue communication with the client. If the client calls and you don't have an e-mail either text or call him once whichever you feel more comfortable with. Customer service can go a long way.

 

Keenan

[Michael Wayne]

Let me answer this from my old school perspective: At the end of a session I have a short conversation with a new client explaining to him my definition of discretion which is bigger and broader than some. I tell him face to face how much I enjoyed him and how much I appreciate his business. I invite him to contact me again and tell him that I will NOT contact him under any circumstances. I also tell him that if I see him in public I will not speak or approach and that if anyone asks me about him I will deny knowing him. This is for the protection of the client. Discretion is still the PRIME DIRECTIVE in this biz and I try to teach and train young escorts to conduct themselves accordingly. My way however is no longer the way things are done. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

[Atomicshawn]

For myself during the session, I get a sense of what his comfort/discretion level is and decide how to proceed based on that. If he gives me his business card and he tells me I can text him then I will. If I get a sense that he's a one-off client and does not offer up that information then I won't ask. Pretty simple, really.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Let me answer this from my old school perspective: At the end of a session I have a short conversation with a new client explaining to him my definition of discretion which is bigger and broader than some. I tell him face to face how much I enjoyed him and how much I appreciate his business. I invite him to contact me again and tell him that I will NOT contact him under any circumstances. I also tell him that if I see him in public I will not speak or approach and that if anyone asks me about him I will deny knowing him. This is for the protection of the client. Discretion is still the PRIME DIRECTIVE in this biz and I try to teach and train young escorts to conduct themselves accordingly. My way however is no longer the way things are done. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

 

Mikey -- as a general rule, that is good practice. But what of a client who you know is in a position to receive phone calls or emails or texts? There is nothing I love better than hearing from one of my escorts, just checking in, to see how I'm doing, to fill me in a bit on their lives. Just to say hello. It's one way that I've gotten to be so close with virtually every guy I've ever hired. I'm interested in their life, they are interested and concerned in mine. The perfect example? The always incredible Ace. Ace was the first person among all my friends to text me after we had our "massive" earthquake in 2011, just to make sure I was okay. I thought it was sweet and very kind. And showed me again what an amazing man and friend he is. I'll drop an occasional note to them too, just to say hi. I don't expect an answer within any time frame, because I know they could be hired and with a client, possibly for an extended trip. One benefit of this is that we become close personally. We know each other very well. And that knowledge, that intimacy makes the sex between us all the hotter. I've been very surprised during my couple of years of hiring how incredibly much hotter the sex gets the more you know and truly are concerned about each other.

 

My escorts and I have gotten very close, individually and as a group. All I know is that if I can ever convince that muleheaded stubborn cuss of a partner (whom I love more than anything) to say yes and marry me, I am going to have the best looking groomsmen as my ushers and wedding party. Escorts all (after PS, my partner will have met every one of them). And I think that is at it should be. They have gotten me to this point in my life. They have shared everything from coming out to finding love. I have been there for them, through illness, finding their own partners, breakups, and the rest of lives joys and sorrows. I would have missed out on so much if they had strictly stuck to your post. And I think that they would have missed out as well.

 

You know I respect the professional that you are and I'd love to hear any comments you have.

[bjluver80]

I'm not sure there is a definitive answer for this question. For me, I like a short note via email or text, not so much to say thank you as to say he had a good time. (I just hope they are being honest!) I certainly can understand those who don't want a note afterwards, I'm just not one of them. It might be good policy to ask before leaving whether they would be offended by a note. Actual phone calls should be limited to those who you know well. I have a few regulars who are comfortable with back and forth messages, but I think that's the atmosphere we established naturally.

[sfguy]

I agree with Charlie. Generally, I do not want follow up from an escort. It usually comes off as insincere and an attempt to drum up business.

 

I don't have any problem with an escort saying "I enjoyed our time together. I hope to hear from you again" prior to leaving. And I don't mind a short text or email (depending on how we made arrangements) saying the same thing if it sent right after or very shortly after. To me, that's just being courteous. It's the equivalent of a restaurant waiter saying, "Hope you enjoyed your meal. Come see us again." as your make your way out. It's nice and feels sincere.

 

But if days or weeks go by and then I get that sort of message, I don't appreciate it. It feels insincere to say "I had fun with you" days later but not at the time. And it comes off as a business advertisement. I'm sure we've all received emails or direct mailings from companies that say "We miss you! Come back and visit us again!" Follow up from an escort days or weeks later feels like the same type of advertising.

 

I've received texts from escorts a week after an appointment that have said "Hey bud. Was fun with you. I am horny and available tonight. If you want to meet up." Thanks, but no thanks. I imagine escorts that post here know better than to send that sort of follow up. But non-contemporaneous follow up pretty much sounds just like that text, no matter how well thought out is.

 

As a marketing strategy, I'd say the best approach to follow up is a brief statement as you or he leaves or a brief email (to minimize intrusiveneess) that says "Hey, I had a great time with you. I'll hope you'll call me again." That makes the client feel valuable. It feels genuine since it is said when the client and escort are feeling the bliss/euphoria/fulfillment from the appointment. And it is the least intrusive.

 

Of course, with regular clients, the approach would be different and vary based on the interactions between the client and escort.

[Michael Wayne]

certain clients over time become client/friends and with those there is freedom to communicate when I am SURE they are single and WANT it. So many clients tell you they are single but in fact they are quite MARRIED! lol

[Rusty Blue]

Thank you all for your responses. Its been super helpful. I feel like I've got a more lucid perspective on the dynamics of escort/client relationships. Everyone had great input

There is nothing I love better than hearing from one of my escorts, just checking in, to see how I'm doing, to fill me in a bit on their lives...I've been very surprised during my couple of years of hiring how incredibly much hotter the sex gets the more you know and truly are concerned about each other.

 

 

Lee, I know your comment wasn't for me directly but your description of an ideal client/escort relationship was moving to say the least. In an already convoluted and stigmatized industry, these are properties in a working relationship I hold as ideals as well. Its true! Sex gets surprisingly hotter the more I connect and share concern with an already sexy dude. Yet, I hope it goes without saying that I enjoy a one-off or the thrill of a spontaneous anonymous quickie! Thanks for sharing!

[Rod Hagen]

I've used the following system for thank you notes with a client: If he contacted me by email, I always send the thank you via email. If he contacted me by phone, I do nothing. If he contacted via text in advance and there was a rapport established, then I thank him via text; if it was just a quick text to set up the appointment, then I do nothing.

 

What an excellently concise 'graph.

[Daverwr]

I realize this is an older thread, but I'm new to the site and want to catch up. (Plus, I'm bored with nothing to do!)

 

As a client, I would love to receive a quick note, email or text from an escort. We have just spend some, possibly significant, time together, been intimate, and exchanged cash. A note of appreciation only seems appropriate. A vmail would also work, but a live phone call may become awkward.

[Becket]

Yes, yes, yes. I always enjoy a follow up text or email. Especially if we have both had an enjoyable time. I love the thought that I have made a new buddy. But even if it is just business, it's good business to say "thank you" to your "customers." Doesn't have to be involved. Flowers and chocolate not required. But just say something like, "had a great time, hope to see you soon", etc is great for me.

[dannyboynyc]

I always enjoy getting an email from an escort. It tells me he enjoyed the experience and values me as more than a client - he's interested in my being more than a source of funds.

[JoeyBryant]

I have developed a sense whereas I can tell whether a client would appreciate me contacting them again or not. Of course, I never do it by direct phone calls, that's their part. But I know certain clients expect an email from me whenever I'm in the area. It's usually someone who I kept in regular contact with anyway prior to meeting thru emails or texts. We may have exchanged several emails prior to meeting and then they hit me up FIRST after the appointment. I wouldn't recommend it with clients who contacted you last minute or out the blue (no pun intended, Rusty Blue . Maybe spontaneity is their style. The times I have done it, they were friendly and happy that I contacted them, but then cancelled moments prior to the appointment.

 

I was once really bold with a client (which I don't recommend) whereas we had such a good time, I asked if I could take a photo of his body (torso) from neck down to prove a friend that clients aren't necessary who they 'think' the stereotypical client is. Unfortunently he declined, but we had a good laugh and he agreed to let me do so next time.

 

When I have clients tell me their S/O check their emails and texts, I just never know if perhaps there is a client who doesn't tell me his S/O reads his messages.

[Rusty Blue]

When I have clients tell me their S/O check their emails and texts, I just never know if perhaps there is a client who doesn't tell me his S/O reads his messages.

 

Hi Joey! =)

I tend to assume a client prefers discretion.

XXX

[Becket]

On second thought, I want flowers.

[MikeCruiseNYC]

Hey Guyz,

I always send a "thank you" text or email, depending on the mode of communication the client prefers. I do this almost always with the exception of those few clients that want to have the illicit experience like it never happened. Those clients want an absolute minimum of communication either because they get off on the naughtiness of hiring an escort or are deeply profoundly closeted and may want to pretend just didn't happen ever. They will often call back... ;-)

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

They will often call back... ;-)

 

Yup.

[MrBigTL]

I personally will always let the escort know if I have had a good experience and often will follow up with a text or e-mail; whichever way we have primarily communicated will be the method that I use to contact him. I would love it if the escort honestly let me know what he enjoyed and if he did.

[zenm]

From a clients pov; I tend to agree with MrBigTL... I had the most amazing time in NYC a few years ago with a guy and he sent a nice thank you email back to me afterwards, turned out to be a friendship that lasted years and was one of the best experiences i think i ever had was with him. so i'm in favor of the followup's. just my thoughts

[Daverwr]

Gee, I never thought of doing it as a client...

[down_to_business]

Gee, I never thought of doing it as a client...

 

Well (IMO), if you are the type of client that sends thank you notes to your plumber, gardener, housekeeper, lawyer, doctor, CPA, etc. etc. then you should send your thank you email to your escort too.

 

I would only send a thank you email/text to an escort if I was using it to segue into a second appointment. I wouldn't under any circumstance call an escort to say thank you for your service.

 

But hey, if it really floats your boat to do this, go for it.