What Are You Looking For

[Huey]

I don't want to hijack any thread so I thought it best to start my own. I'm just curious about this ---> When you consider to hire an escort what specifically is the most important 'thing' you look for? What would be an instant deal breaker if it didn't meet your expectations ... this can be anything from looks, cock size, preferences, fee, location or whatever :7 .

[VaHawk]

First off Welcome Back!

 

Now as to your query, the most important thing to me, at least currently, is the "twink" look (19-27, slim not overly muslcled body and good looking face).

 

The only "instant deal breaker" would be attitude. No matter how great the physical looks, if the escort does not come across as intelligent with a "thanks for the interest", friendly, customer oriented tone) in his email communications, then I don't pursue it further. But that's just me, as I don't contact an escort unless he has an email contact, as the way he communicates via the written word will tell me all I need to know about his education level, intelligence, attitude and compatablity.

[Huey]

>First off Welcome Back!

>

Thanks VaHawk, I missed most }( It's good to be back.

[Guest Kenny021]

Agree with the attitude...I don't care how gorgeous you are if you can't be civil, you can't be with me. I prefer to make initial contact by email and expect the escort to respond with answers to whatever question I asked. "Call me" leaves me cold. If everything initially goes well, I like to follow up emails with a telephone call.

Physically, the face is #1. From there, I like to see body and cock shots so I know what to expect. If all the above meet my requirements, I then consider price. I have a certain limit as to what I will spend and no matter WHO it is, if they require more than "my limit", I move on. I hate to negotiate and don't do it.

[+ Axiom2001]

In my seeking the services of an escort-- I think he must first consider himself "attitude free" and willing to communicate on many levels. Stats, fee, and what he's eager to provide all play an integral role, too.

[Guest countryboy76]

Attitude...definately. While a good body and cute face, supported by a recent photo and physical description is what it takes for me and my partner to make initial contact, it ultimately comes down to attitude.

 

For us if by talking to him via e-mail/chat/phone he comes across as personable and relaxed, eager to answer any questions and even ask questions of his own, and is willing to just talk, taking some interest in getting to know us. I think you can get a pretty good feeling about someone through the initial contacts.

 

Personally, the 'I'm looking forward to getting together with you and we're going to have a great time' attitude is always a winner.

 

CB76

[Candyman]

My tastes are varied so looks or build isn't a real problem. Recently I call a escort that works at the Gaiety. We had spoken in the lounge and he was very nice. Of course he was handsome with a perfect body. when I call him a few weeks later to arrange for some fun. I asked just what we could do and what was the price. A price list started with "it depends on what your look like" and then when up. I may not be Ben Affleck but I'm also not Jabba the Hut or FFF. I said thanks and declined. No one is that good looking or built

[LovesYng]

The biggest thing is attitude, communications, intelligence and looks. I like twinks (18-25), but leaning more to older than 25 lately. I'm finding out the older ones are more relax and enjoy what they are getting into and the older ones are better at topping, they do it with class. I'm real BIG into cuddling, kissing and enjoying the guys body (IT'S THE BIGGEST TURN ON FOR ME) then taking it from there, not just show up and Wham bang thank you REALLY HATE QUICKIES. When the escort shows up I like talking and get to know each other first, hate hopping into bed as soon as he gets there.

 

I try to read in between the lines in the e mails. Big turn off in the e mails is when his first couple of questions or comments I love to fuck and get sucked, if he says anything about barebacking I delete the e mail with no more contact. After a couple of e mails is when I like to talk on the phone, I think that is when you really can feel him out better. I always tell them from the start what I like to get into and it must be safe.

 

Before he comes over I make sure what the fee is, it could be for three to four hours or even an overnighter. If I feel ok with the fee I try to set something up. No matter what his fee is I also believe in tipping after our time together:+

[axebahia]

>I'm finding out the older ones are more relax

>and enjoy what they are getting into

 

Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded. I admit that professionalism is a plus, but innocent exuberance has its particular charms.

 

>I try to read in between the lines in the e mails. Big turn

>off in the e mails is when his first couple of questions or

>comments I love to fuck and get sucked, if he says anything

>about barebacking I delete the e mail with no more contact.

>After a couple of e mails is when I like to talk on the phone,

>I think that is when you really can feel him out better. I

>always tell them from the start what I like to get into and it

>must be safe..... No matter what his fee

>is I also believe in tipping after our time together:+

 

That sounds like an awful lot of communication before you transact. Don't you find that some escorts think you are just wasting their time?

[Guest jeffOH]

>Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded.

 

I can say that I've found older escorts to be more experienced. The escort that I've hired for the past 5 years or so is 37 years old. There's nothing I hate more than having to give a top directions. I like a man who can take charge.

 

>I admit that

>professionalism is a plus, but innocent exuberance has its

>particular charms.

 

If that's what you're into, go for it. Different things turn us all on.

 

JEFF [email protected]

[axebahia]

>>Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded.

>

>I can say that I've found older escorts to be more

>experienced.

 

Agreed, but don't you also find them to be more jaded?

[axebahia]

>>Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded.

>

>I can say that I've found older escorts to be more

>experienced.

 

Agreed, but don't you also find them to be more jaded?

[LovesYng]

>Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded. I admit that

>professionalism is a plus, but innocent exuberance has its

>particular charms.

 

Yes innocent is exuberance and I still will see them also. All depends what mood I'm in at the time, still love my twinks.

 

Never had a problem with the older one jaded. Most last longer than the twinks.

 

>>I try to read in between the lines in the e mails. Big turn

>>off in the e mails is when his first couple of questions or

>>comments I love to fuck and get sucked, if he says anything

>>about barebacking I delete the e mail with no more contact.

>>After a couple of e mails is when I like to talk on the phone,

>>I think that is when you really can feel him out better. I

>>always tell them from the start what I like to get into and it

>>must be safe..... No matter what his fee

>>is I also believe in tipping after our time together:+

>

>That sounds like an awful lot of communication before you

>transact. Don't you find that some escorts think you are just

>wasting their time?

 

If an escorts thinks that so be it, that's is his lost. 99% of the escorts I meet are from Hoo's site so they can read up on me to see if I'm wasting their time or not. The other 1% I use a agency that I been using years and they know my taste. Only had a problem with a agency once and they took care of the problem:+

[Guest jeffOH]

>>>Don't you find the older ones to be more jaded.

>>

>>I can say that I've found older escorts to be more

>>experienced.

>

>Agreed, but don't you also find them to be more jaded?

 

There's one well-reviewed escort I hired in Chicago that I might call "jaded", but I didn't let that one experience color my perception of "older escorts".

 

JEFF [email protected]

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>That sounds like an awful lot of communication before you

>transact. Don't you find that some escorts think you are just

>wasting their time?

 

From my standpoint an extra email or phone call to make a client feel comfortable isn't as big a waste of time as, say, traveling to a client's hotel or residence and discovering that there has been a "dealbreaking" misunderstanding. It's also my experience that clients with whom one has had repeated contact before an appointment are less likely to flake or back out (the contact reinforces a sense of "commitment" to the appointment for both parties). As long as the communications are reasonably brief and respectful of both people's time I don't think it's a problem.

 

But you're right that not all escorts look at it that way, and how they do look at it is probably impacted by what kinds of clients their marketing attracts. I am much more of a schmoozer than many other escorts, and know that that's part of what my client base responds to, so of course I won't mind the extra communication (within reason, of course). I get gruff, bottom-line clients from time to time, but they aren't "staples" for me the way they may be for other escorts whose marketing consists of a few pics and some stats. In the end, it probably all sorts itself out: people who like communication find escorts who don't mind giving it to them, and people who don't like it find escorts who don't either. (Then the rest of us hear about it on the message board later. ;-) )

[axebahia]

>In the end,

>it probably all sorts itself out: people who like

>communication find escorts who don't mind giving it to them,

>and people who don't like it find escorts who don't either.

>(Then the rest of us hear about it on the message board later.

 

Not really, because clients who encourage too much up-front communication and discourage escorts from adopting standard meanings. They threfore facilitate dishonest plausible deniability. These negative externalities impact unnecesarillly on clients who do not want to waste that time unfortunately.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>clients who encourage too much up-front

>communication and discourage escorts from adopting standard

>meanings.

 

Huh? It hasn't been my experience that communicative clients assign different meanings to standard practices than the rest of us.

 

>They threfore facilitate dishonest plausible

>deniability.

 

Well, if an escort's dishonest, he's dishonest. It's not because he was driven to it by clients who wrote too many emails. As for "plausible deniability," I'm going to take a shot in the dark and guess that you're referring to escorts whose definition of "versatile" doesn't mean "douched 24/7 and ready to bottom at a moment's notice." Or are you thinking of something else? I don't think your position on that is likely to change, so I'll move on.

 

>These negative externalities impact

>unnecesarillly on clients who do not want to waste that time

>unfortunately.

 

Mmm. It takes such a long time to say "I'm a top." By the time the words get out of your mouth, your escort will have aged a whopping 1.2 seconds and might already be jaded! :+

[Will]

This is a great thread, because it's obvious that there is no single thing that we're all looking for in an escort. Over and over again, however, I notice that guys are saying "attitude," regardless of whatever else may be important. I suppose the same thing goes for me, though "attitude," like "looks," may mean different things to different people.

 

On thinking about those escorts whom I've hired more than once, and about whom I've had good things to say on this board, and with whom I swap the occasional "how-are-you?" e-mail, it's clear to me that I look for: (1) an affectionate nature and personality; (2) maturity, which need not be chronological, though usually it is; (3) an articulate conversationalist who's interested in exchanging feelings and opinions as well as thoughts and ideas; (4) a non-stop sense of humor; (5) a relaxed, affable attitude towards sex, coupled with the unmistakable evidence that he really enjoys his work, and enjoys it a lot.

 

Escorts who fit that bill and who frequently post here are JeffOH, Jim in NYC, and Rick Munroe. There are others whom I haven't met because, unfortunately, I don't go to the West Coast very often. (I'm thinking especially of Devon in San Francisco and Dan Dare in Los Angeles, but that's not all.)

 

For me, there's nothing about an "escort" that makes him any different from any other man who'd interest me in that way. I'm not looking for muscle studs (first, I don't want to be bruised and, second, I don't want to feel like a mountain of marshmallow cream any more than I already do), or for twinks (with whom I'd feel like a Dirty Old Man for sure), or for self-styled Jet-Set escorts (who are both tacky and bad-mannered), or for "types," like punk rockers, thugs, papis, etc.

 

Why? My basic fantasy -- THE thing I'm looking for when I hire an escort -- is that this is real. So I want to be with an escort who looks, behaves, and talks as though he wants to be with me, which is to say a big-hearted, generous, outspoken, distinguished middle-aged intellectual with a huge sense of humor and a taste for "high" art and culture, and who also detests all forms of preciousness and pretension.

[axebahia]

>Mmm. It takes such a long time to say "I'm a top." By the

>time the words get out of your mouth, your escort will have

>aged a whopping 1.2 seconds and might already be jaded! :+

 

Actually, I was thinking of the versatile issue as well as the weekend/daily rate issue that I raised on another thread. As for jaded, I think the tone (not substance) of your recent posts on bottoming are a good example of what I mean by jaded. I find that there is just far too much negotiation about practices necessary with older escorts. If I want that I can get that without having to pay for it.

[+ Axiom2001]

Will, you articulated your sentiments and interests quite, quite succinctly. I concur and wish I'd been as articulate. There is only one escort-- Ricardo, the gorgeous Paulistano from Sao Paulo, who resides in SF whom I have seen more than four times. He seems to possess those qualities which you mention, and I think that is why I desire to see him often and why we connect so well. We have developed a friendship of sorts; plus his exuberance has always been great which has added to the sexual and nonsexual communication.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>As for jaded, I think the tone (not substance) of your recent

>posts on bottoming are a good example of what I mean by jaded.

> I find that there is just far too much negotiation about

>practices necessary with older escorts. If I want that I can

>get that without having to pay for it.

 

I'm beginning to think that what you mean by "jaded" is simply that a person wants to assert his own boundaries. And yes, that trait is probably to be found more frequently in older escorts. A younger escort is more likely, I suppose, to just obediently do whatever you tell him, until he gets jaded and realizes he has a say in what happens too.

[Rick Munroe]

>I don't want to feel like a mountain of

>marshmallow cream any more than I already do

 

Mmmm...but some of us love mountains of marshmallow cream. When I was a kid, my happiest school days were when I looked in my Snoopy lunchbox and saw a Fluffernutter on Wonder Bread staring back at me. :9

http://www.marshmallowfluff.com/img/sandwich2.jpg

 

>I want to be with

>an escort who looks, behaves, and talks

>as though he wants to be with me

 

That can't be hard to find, Will. You're easy (and a joy) to be with (I know I should say "with which to be" but that would sound so pretentious & I know you detest that).

[Guest jeffOH]

>Escorts who fit that bill and who frequently post here are

>JeffOH

 

Thanks Will!:-)

 

>an escort who looks, behaves, and talks as though he wants to

>be with me, which is to say a big-hearted, generous,

>outspoken, distinguished middle-aged intellectual with a huge

>sense of humor and a taste for "high" art and culture, and who

>also detests all forms of preciousness and pretension.

 

Please tell me that you don't "detest" your own "preciousness"(not affected, but "beloved" or "dear").

You're a sweetheart!

 

JEFF [email protected]

[axebahia]

No, I said tone, not necessarilly substance, but your recent tone here is indicative of the phenomenon.

[+ deej]

I've experienced Devon's "tone". It was an awesome experience.

 

Perhaps something in your posting style attracts a specific tone.

 

Devon is welcome in my home any time. I can't say the same about you.