Does Your Voice Sound Gay?

[+ Charlie]

One can fall in love with a voice, or be aroused by it, or turned off by it, without having any idea what the speaker looks like. In the old pre-Internet days, when escorts often had only print ads with no photos, I frequently made my decision about whether to hire someone during the first minute of conversation on the phone. I was recently surprised when I attempted to hire someone whose ad with hot photos I had seen, and with whom I had exchanged encouraging emails. When he left a message on my phone, the voice completely changed my perception of the personality, and I realized immediately that I would be disappointed if I went through with the encounter.

 

I have taught public speaking, so I am very sensitive to the impression a voice can make. My own natural speaking voice, especially on a recording, sounds "gay" to me, because it is somewhat high, clear and relatively accentless (although some people say they can hear my New Jersey roots). However, I can modulate it to sound deeper, and I am a very good mimic of accents. I can pronounce words and whole sentences in several languages almost like a native, even if I have no idea exactly what I am saying. A journalist friend once told me that he had interviewed a major international opera diva, and was shocked to realize that she couldn't speak one of the languages in which she sung roles she was famous for. She just had a very good ear and could memorize her part without fully understanding what she was singing. I could probably do the same, but of course, I couldn't sing acceptably.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Mine doesn't sound the least bit gay. But I remember on my trip to Boston in November. I was out to lunch with Bosguy and Doitb4ugo and our waiter introduced himself with the flamiest voice you could possibly imagine. The three of us just looked at each other in amazement. He had everything except the neon sign over his head flashing "GAY GAY GAY".

 

Now what was his name?

[leigh.bess.toad]

Possibly.

 

 

Not at all Epigonos.

[Poolboy21409]

But I remember on my trip to Boston in November. I was out to lunch with Bosguy and Doitb4ugo and our waiter introduced himself with the flamiest voice you could possibly imagine.

 

"Hi, my name is Craig. I am here to flambe your brochette."

 

LBT - your comment reminded me of the funniest waiter line I have ever heard and that is the one above. Spoken at a table where five of us were eating about 35 years ago at Machus's Red Fox in Birmingham, Michigan -- the location of the last known siting of the now presumably deceased Jimmy Hoffa. Now that I remember it, Craig was pretty hot and I would love to have "flambe'd" his brochette

[jjkrkwood]

Mine doesn't sound the least bit gay. But I remember on my trip to Boston in November. I was out to lunch with Bosguy and Doitb4ugo and our waiter introduced himself with the flamiest voice you could possibly imagine. The three of us just looked at each other in amazement. He had everything except the neon sign over his head flashing "GAY GAY GAY".

 

Now what was his name?

 

I think what we all need to remember here is that we really need to embrace the "not so Gay, the Gay, the Gay-Gay, and the flamiest Gay" alike.

 

They may not be your particular cup of Fruit punch, and noone is forcing you to befriend them or have sex with them BUT we should NOT discriminate. Regardless of the window-dressing and sound effects, we are aLL human beings and should be treated respectfully.

[KMEM]

Charlie-

 

Are those NJ roots gray? I know my Southern roots are.

 

This has been an interesting thread. I have a very deep and masculine voice and when ATC hears it, they obey.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[leigh.bess.toad]

I think what we all need to remember here is that we really need to embrace the "not so Gay, the Gay, the Gay-Gay, and the flamiest Gay" alike.

 

They may not be your particular cup of Fruit punch, and noone is forcing you to befriend them or have sex with them BUT we should NOT discriminate. Regardless of the window-dressing and sound effects, we are aLL human beings and should be treated respectfully.

 

I completely agree jj. And we certainly did. But it would have been easier too if he could have remembered one thing we asked for. Flaming is one thing. Complete and total airhead is something entirely different.

[jjkrkwood]

I completely agree jj. And we certainly did. But it would have been easier too if he could have remembered one thing we asked for. Flaming is one thing. Complete and total airhead is something entirely different.

 

I tend to like things that are "light and frothy"....

[raife]

Does it matter what my voice sounds like if all I hear is you screaming "Oh God!"?

 

From 0 to OH GHOD!! without uttering a word? Please tell me of your wondrous Jedi-like seduction technique, Master!

[jjkrkwood]

Does it matter what my voice sounds like if all I hear is you screaming "Oh God!"?

 

Well, it could also be interpretted as "OH GOD, THE HORROR" !!!! OH GOD tends to be subjective.....

[+ Gar1eth]

In many cases- I'm talking in general here- not just me- it's not how high or deep your voice is- it's the inflections. The valley girl habit of ending sentences on a rising note can sound gay. There are other characteristics that, to me at least sound gay, that I can't accurately describe not being a linguist, voice coach, or a speech pathologist.

 

I know that when I hear a male voice that is both on the higher side and combines a speech pattern which is very similar to the way someone with moderately severe attention deficit disorder who is not on medications talks, that can sound 'stereotypically gay' to me.

 

I'm not sure about how my inflections sound- but I have a small Adam's Apple( along with other small body parts darn it)- it couldn't be seen in my neck even before I gained my weight- and consequently a fairly high voice for a male. Even at the age of 50- callers still sometimes think I'm a woman. So I think while mine is not the 'gayest' voice out there, I probably do sound slightly gay.

 

Gman

[raife]

I really wish I were more flexible (I'd have had a lot more sex...), but the guy's voice totally makes or breaks the date. Nothing sexier to me than a low-register rumbly bass purrr, preferably with a nice spicy regional accent to get the engines fired up, but answer the phone with a screechy, overinflected, singsongy Richard Simmons tonal barrage and my cock wilts faster than a 50 cent rose in the desert.

 

I have some great friends with flaming Ru Paul style voices and I love 'em to death, but there is no sexual attraction there. I'm more than happy to pay for the masculine-voiced alpha males, just so I can hear them grunt and growl that nasty ol' dirty talk at me with their deep resonant booming tones like the low down sexy beasts they are!

[Toulouse]

Interesting thread. I have always disliked the way my recorded voice sounded and cringed at the idea that my actual voice was the same way, but I have started to notice that most guys sound different on voice mail, etc. than in person. I may not sound like Robert DiNiro or James Earl Jones, but I don't think I sound like the love-child of Harvey Fierstein & Nathan Lane either, and I sure don't use "shebonics."

[Lookin]

"Hi, my name is Craig. I am here to flambe your brochette."

Truly a line for all the ages! http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/thumbsup.png Thanks for sharing.

[TopAz]

This thread reminds me of this story i read about a gay man suing his bank for mistaking his voice for woman's voice...

 

http://www.xtra.ca/public/Vancouver/Gay_mans_bank_card_cancelled_because_he_sounds_like_a_woman-10380.aspx

[RockHard]

How many s's in hello?

 

So, you think that a "gay voice" is one that sounds female?

 

I'm trying to imagine Barry White with a lisp. Dennis Basso sounds "really gay," and his voice registers quite low.

 

damn stereotypes again. What does gay sound like?

 

Trust me, everyone knows it when they hear it. No one knows what they truly sound like until they hear their voice recorded. And the recording device can vary the sound dramatically.

 

Pitch can be a "gay" giveaway sometimes. But inflection, usually hyper dramatic without realizing it, can draw stronger attention.

 

I can't have sex with a hot guy who has a sissy-Mary voice. I like verbal sex and there's no way my cock will stay hard if I'm sharing my bed with a Fran Drescher wannabee. I don't need a bass or a even a baritone, but if you're a tenor, you have to sound like a masculine man.

 

I did commercials and voice overs at an early age. Some people assume I still do that kind of work today. I consider myself a chameleon. My voice can never pass as a woman's, but I'm capable of doing a mean Marlene Deitrich or Lauren Bacall when a drag moment strikes.

[+ Gar1eth]

I had no idea at all who Dennnis Basso was until I googled him just now.

 

Gman

[jjkrkwood]

I had no idea at all who Dennnis Basso was until I googled him just now.

 

Gman

 

He makes beautiful Fur and faux-fur coats. AND he claims to be str8 as an arrow, and has been married MANY years, with a few kids

[GoodFella69]

Nah, my Dad beat the "cliche gayvoice" out of me at a very early age.

 

My sons tell me I speak with a serious "news anchor's" voice, and occasionally accuse me of sounding more like a drill sergeant...but, then again, doesn't every father of teenagers?

 

Though with enough liquor in me I could easily pick up a little lisp.

 

Goodfella

[RexAll]

He makes beautiful Fur and faux-fur coats. AND he claims to be str8 as an arrow, and has been married MANY years, with a few kids

 

Are you sure about this? I just came across an article where he married what sounded like his male lover of many years.

 

http://www.wwd.com/eye/people/dennis-basso-ties-the-knot-5388580

 

Rex

[gallahadesquire]

When I speak, I only hear my lowest or fundamental tone. I'm a first tenor, and I've overtones that go all over the place when I speak (and worse, incidentally, when I sing).

 

so I have a kinda straight baritone voice in the bottom, and then all these overtones that are kinda breathy and lord only knows what people think.

 

I DO know that my voice is so distinctive that I don't introduce myself by name after the third phone call. They already know the voice, and I guess it's sort of distinctive.

The fact that I have to "buttons" on my desktop - if you remember the "That was easy" button you could get form staples - that say the following:

 

Scar, from THE LION KING: "I'm surrounded by idiots!"

The Red Queen, from Alice in Wonderland (Disney animation, 1951): "Off with your head!"

 

Sometime I just use those to announce my presence.

[RexAll]

My voice is unfortunately high. A few years ago I was taking voice lessons- to see if I might ever develop a passable singing voice ( didn't work unfortunately :-( ). My voice teacher at the time thought that I was pitching my speaking voice too low for my natural register. I never tried changing it though. I was afraid if I pitched my voice any higher only dogs and cats would be able to hear it.

 

 

Rex

[ChiTown]

My voice is unfortunately high. A few years ago I was taking voice lessons- to see if I might ever develop a passable singing voice ( didn't work unfortunately :-( ). My voice teacher at the time thought that I was pitching my speaking voice too low for my natural register. I never tried changing it though. I was afraid if I pitched my voice any higher only dogs and cats would be able to hear it.

 

 

Rex

 

Rex,

 

I think that you have a great (and sexy) voice. Not too high at all!

[Bosguy]

Rex,

 

I think that you have a great (and sexy) voice. Not too high at all!

 

Many times I wonder what the person behind the voice looks like and acts like in their personal life.

 

A perfect example would be ChiTown. From my beginnings on the Forum, I was impressed with his written skills. As time progressed, we spoke fairly regularly on the phone and his vocal presentation was absolutely alluring. Well, voice does reflect the person. I had the privilege of having lunch with him in Chicago and, sure enough, the man behind the voice was a mature, professional, enjoyable man as his voice had indicated.

As long as I'm paying compliments. He's also a very handsome, sexy MAN

 

Now I just have to wait for him to call and yell at me

 

Boston Bill

[ChiTown]

Many times I wonder what the person behind the voice looks like and acts like in their personal life.

 

A perfect example would be ChiTown. From my beginnings on the Forum, I was impressed with his written skills. As time progressed, we spoke fairly regularly on the phone and his vocal presentation was absolutely alluring. Well, voice does reflect the person. I had the privilege of having lunch with him in Chicago and, sure enough, the man behind the voice was a mature, professional, enjoyable man as his voice had indicated.

As long as I'm paying compliments. He's also a very handsome, sexy MAN

 

Now I just have to wait for him to call and yell at me

 

Boston Bill

 

Bill,

 

Thanks for the very kind compliment, you sexy man. I'd only yell at you if you're into it!