What's A Guy To Do--Frustration is Nothing New

[JoeyBryant]

My theory is that people are just curious to see WHO they can attract. They really dont wanna meet you. Its just a self-centered excercise.

 

Good answer! It's all about attention in some cases. And not just with men.

 

I was car shopping online earlier this month. I responded to 2 ads of pictures and descriptions of vehicles that were almost TOO good to be true. An immaculate Volvo and an immaculate Lexus with a good price tag. Can you believe that both ads had either a bogus number or the email returned void?

 

Some people are full of shit, and it's nothing to do with you.

 

no one was fingering you as the bad guy. no need for the long explanation. the need to defend yourself is not needed at all. not on this at least.

 

I thought his post came out pretty well I read the whole thing. It definitely made sense.

 

I'll also add...the whole gay guys getting lucky, that's imaginary. I go out to clubs and bars pretty often. And I pay attention to the things around me. I pay even more attention when I know someone who claims to be boyfriends with someone. Then the very next week, you don't see them together anymore. What happened?

 

Like I mentioned, at this point I'm nit-picking every benefit of being single at this point. Too many gay guys my age let their friends influence them too much on every little decision. I'm convinced that most of them lack the ability to think for themselves, and when it comes to a relationship last thing you need is a bunch of chatty bitches making decisions for you.

 

The biggest excuse I hear why guys can't seem to create a time to hangout 1 on 1 with a guy is, "my friends, my friends, my friends." They block out the people who might actually be compatible with them and hide behind their "supposed" friends because they so afraid to show who they really are. Because they think they aren't good enough. Meanwhile, you thinking it's something wrong with you, when really it's them. It's like for fuck's sake, be a man. Even if you're a bottom, still be a man.

[Michael Wayne]

for years we met in the bars. it is real life, real people, real conversations. I fancy the wicked worldwide web so often is NOT real. I ONLY use it to meet good new clients but even then I try to as soon as possible actually talk to them in the most old-fashioned of ways- on the phone! just my thoughts

[Phil_musc]

I am amazed at the level of responses that this thread contains. Gman, you and I communicated via PM's earlier this year, and I see versions of what I wrote to you at that time. The real issue here (as I think most writers would agree) is one of attitude and the possibility of changing one's own thinking. I read somewhere a long time ago about a guy who used to be searching for Mr. Right and then he finally decided to BE Mr. Right. Simplistic, maybe, but there is no doubt that a positive attitude and allowing for the possibility for personal change go a long way. Finally, Mikey, I think your observation is excellent. The internet is fine, but nothing replaces an actual face-to-face conversation. Bars do that, but so do the many other activities that have been mentioned earlier here. Re-write the movie, take charge, assess that situation and make the necessary adjustments. (By the way, David - don't know you, but your writing was caring, intelligent, and made a lot of sense to me. I agree with the poster who said that if Gman does what you suggest, very likely he'll owe you a serious thank you in time.)

[+ Gar1eth]

I probably should just let this thread die--but I'm a glutton for punishment. However--everyone who made helpful suggestions--I'm very appreciative you took the time to write. At least for now--I've pretty much deactivated my ads on the sites--some guys are destined to hook up--or even find their soul mates from those sites--I don't think that's me. On the other hand, I am considering buying a puppy. For those of you who might have been worried about my personal safety--I'm fine. Now that I am not looking at those sites, my frustration level has decreased incredibly.

 

Gman

[josephga]

b4 my little dog passed away id go months even up to 18 months one time without even going out on a date. Getting a puppy might be great for you. I'd like to get me another dog. If I had me another dog id care less about having anything or anyone else around. Years ago I thought I had to have a bf or partner too be happy but as I get older I have no problem with being alone and entertaining myself.

[+ purplekow]

Don't forget shelters have great pets waiting for a forever home. Even if you are looking for a particular breed, local breed rescue groups will likely have just the pet for you. So please stay away from Pet Stores.

[josephga]

pet stores are the worst id never get a dog from pet land or any other pet store. those animals are over priced come from puppy mills and are viewed by those stores as inventory and not a living thing.