Crush on friend

[soccerbutt]

I hope this is the right place to post this but I wanted to share this. I recently reunited with a friend of mine through facebook that i have not seen in twenty years. For the past couple of months we have been posting on facebook and met up a few times for drinks. By the way, he still looks hot as ever. We always have a great time and we enjoy a lot of the same things. The more I get reacquanited with him, the more I am falling for him. He is currently single and I know exactly what his type of guy is. I am not looking for a relationship, but I am looking just to be more affectionate. I really enjoy our friendship but I dont want to continue a false hope that he will give in. Just needed to vent. thanks

[+ Gar1eth]

I hope this is the right place to post this but I wanted to share this. I recently reunited with a friend of mine through facebook that i have not seen in twenty years. For the past couple of months we have been posting on facebook and met up a few times for drinks. By the way, he still looks hot as ever. We always have a great time and we enjoy a lot of the same things. The more I get reacquanited with him, the more I am falling for him. He is currently single and I know exactly what his type of guy is. I am not looking for a relationship, but I am looking just to be more affectionate. I really enjoy our friendship but I dont want to continue a false hope that he will give in. Just needed to vent. thanks

 

In my experience crushes on friends are difficult, so I feel for you. At least in this case it sounds as if he is gay--it's much harder if your friend is straight. I wish you well and hope everything turns out for the best.

 

Gman

[+ purplekow]

Sometimes the direct approach is best: ask him straight out. Failing that, the drunk direct approach: get sloppy drunk and try coming on to him. These are also known as the adult approach and the adolescent approach. Since you know him as an adult and knew him as an adolescent, I would go with the one that makes you less uncomfortable.

[Guest Rich.]

Go for it, KoQ!

 

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."

 

Attributed to Mark Twain.

 

Richard

[Guy Fawkes]

Tell your friend about the crush!

 

I hope this is the right place to post this but I wanted to share this. I recently reunited with a friend of mine through facebook that i have not seen in twenty years. For the past couple of months we have been posting on facebook and met up a few times for drinks. By the way, he still looks hot as ever. We always have a great time and we enjoy a lot of the same things. The more I get reacquanited with him, the more I am falling for him. He is currently single and I know exactly what his type of guy is. I am not looking for a relationship, but I am looking just to be more affectionate. I really enjoy our friendship but I dont want to continue a false hope that he will give in. Just needed to vent. thanks

[+ purplekow]

http://youtu.be/WHcnpOQitR8 Send him this.

[Mark Gordon]

I will take a differing stance on this. You say you know exactly what his type of guy is. Are you that guy? In my experience, you can almost always tell if the other guy is giving off signals that he's interested. I have had several friends over the years make passes at me without encouragement. It has always been a problem and in some cases the friendship has not recovered. I have also had crushes on friends. I have usually sensed when those feelings were inappropriate or unreciprocated. I can think of one instance where I made a pass when inebriated and soon regretted it. In the cases where I said nothing, the crush eventually passed as the friendship evolved. IMHO, you should be fairly certain that there are signs that the interest is mutual before taking any action.

[+ friendofsheila]

I hear mixed messages here about what you want from him and what he means to you.

 

Does "be affectionate" just mean hugging him every so often? Does "give in" mean "have sex"?

 

I get the feeling that it might not be clear to you want the crush is aiming towards.

 

I'm going to side with Mark G. and point toward waiting to see if it passes as the friendship progresses.

 

 

I hope this is the right place to post this but I wanted to share this. I recently reunited with a friend of mine through facebook that i have not seen in twenty years. For the past couple of months we have been posting on facebook and met up a few times for drinks. By the way, he still looks hot as ever. We always have a great time and we enjoy a lot of the same things. The more I get reacquanited with him, the more I am falling for him. He is currently single and I know exactly what his type of guy is. I am not looking for a relationship, but I am looking just to be more affectionate. I really enjoy our friendship but I dont want to continue a false hope that he will give in. Just needed to vent. thanks

[Diverdan]

I also agree with Mark Gordon... watch for the signals, and make sure your signals are discrete. An affectionate hug under certain circumstances would not be out of line, whether he is straight or gay. Also, do you ever talk about mutual friends? That may also be a clue as to his way of dealing with more intimate situations with you. Being overly aggressive runs the real risk that a potential relationship could cease, and that would be the worst possible result. Go slow and it will evolve one way or another. At least that means you will have a great friend, and possibly a friend with benefits as well. Go fast, and you could lose everything. Good luck!

[MichiganMan]

What started out as a crush of mine back in 1984 turned into the love of my like.....16 years together until he was killed in a car accident....I wouldn't trade those years for ANYTHING...go with your heart......

[soccerbutt]

Thanks for the feedback. I probably will take it slow and watch the signs. So, my nect question is how does it turn into a "friends with benefits"...

[Diverdan]

Ahh... isn't that what we all want? !! As others have said, if you take it slow and easy, you have the best chance of it evolving in this way. If you are too aggressive, you might scare him away, especially if he is not sure of the feelings he has for you. Let your heart, your eyes and your actions speak for you.

[JT Brooklyn]

Tell your friend about the crush!

 

Totally Agree with Daddy on this one! Tell him how you feel NOW!

 

IF you wait and time passes he's just gonna think you were into the "Renewed" Friendship for a Friends with Benefits deal only.