How to introduce a 3-way?

[Mark450]

Hello guys, I have a question. I am in a long term relationship and would like to hire an escort to join the two of us for an evening. Nothing like this has ever been discussed between us before.

I'm wondering if anyone can shed some light on bringing up the subject or relate any experiences that may prove helpful.

Thank you

[dfw2sfo]

It could be the best thing you've ever done or it could damage your relationship. You could take a temperature by saying you heard a couple talking about it at Starbucks and see what your partner's reaction is. Let us know what happens...

[Mark450]

Great idea. See I never thought of that. Keep 'm coming.

[nate_sf]

You could take a temperature by saying you heard a couple talking about it at Starbucks and see what your partner's reaction is. Let us know what happens...

 

I like this approach. I was thinking of something similar but wasn't sure how to put it. So I'd just add that you should be prepared for whichever reaction you get. If your partner is interested, then you can talk about options. As an escort I am biased, but the advantage of arranging an escort as opposed to a date on manhunt or somehere like that is that the escort will not threaten the relationship. We're here to provide an intimate service, but otherwise not intrude on your lives. Someone you meet on a hookup site could have any number of motives, from innocent to meddling. But again, that's my biased opinion!

 

On the other hand, if your parter opposes the idea, be prepared for him to go the next step and be concerned about your interest in getting together with other guys. You may need to be prepared to offer strong assurances that you are commiteed to him, and to make agreements to what the terms of your relationship should be with regards to playing with others. In the long run this would be good to discuss and come to an understanding with, as every couple needs to set the ground rules at some point and revisit them from time to time. But it can be awkward, so just have yourself together and be ready to offer assurance to your partner regardless of whether he is intrigued or opposed to a 3-way.

[Mark450]

Wow Nate, thank you so much for the great food for thought. I knew this would be a good web site to explore this issue.

[gtx1]

How about you give him the escort for his birthday and you just happen to be there to make sure he enjoys the gift!!!

[Mark450]

Now THAT is a great birthday gift.

[Mark450]

So close

 

Well I got very close to bring up the subject this weekend but stopped short at the last minute. Damn nerves!

[Lookin]

You might also imagine the shoe on the other foot and think about what you'd like to hear if he came to you with the same idea.

 

Would you want him to reassure you that you're the one, that he still finds you desirable, and that he wants to try this as a way of strengthening the relationship between the two of you?

 

When you've got that sorted out, then you can move to the really fun discussion of how to send that escort away with not only his fee, but a big smile on his face and an offer to play with you two boys off the clock, any time, any place.

[Mark450]

You might also imagine the shoe on the other foot and think about what you'd like to hear if he came to you with the same idea.

 

Would you want him to reassure you that you're the one, that he still finds you desirable, and that he wants to try this as a way of strengthening the relationship between the two of you?

 

Excellent advice. Thanks so much.

[Diverdan]

I have a friend, actually both of the partners are my friends. A few years ago, one of them gave his partner a "masseur" for a birthday present. The masseur was skilled in erotic massage, but the first session did not progress beyond to a full escort experience. However, it opened the door to some lively discussion which they eventually shared with me. As a result, they have hired this masseur a few times for dual erotic massage and after a few months decided to go further and hire an escort. It went well, and now they do it once or twice a year. Both guys have told me privately that they think it has strengthened their relationship. However, I also know of friends for whom it was not successfu. I think you need to be prepared for it to go either way, as has already been stated here, but going the erotic massage as a present may be less a less threatening way to start. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

[Mark450]

The massage route could very well do it since he already likes to go for massages. And you are so right about the possibility of this harming our relationship. I could never forgive myself if something bad happened.

[dane michaels]

Hi Mark450

 

I was just up in Michigan working and visiting my family and one of my close family members have been talking about opening their marriage to a third. This to me was a bit alarming, but I am close to this person, so I gave them all I could on this topic (being I have been in a lot of 3 ways). By no means is this a deterant, but in the throws of things, one got very jealous that the other had so much attention from the third party. They have expressed and were very open with each other on terms and understood that this was a possibility that could happen. Out of this, they both re discovered each other and their love. I am not saying that its wrong, and honestly I think sometimes we forget what we have, hopefully it wont always come to this, but it is what they needed. I suppose it just depends on what kind of relationship we find ourselves in... I am just trying to say be vulnerably open and honest in all you and your significant other talk about in this situation, as it was said earlier, it could be the best, or even the worst thing for a LTR.

 

The best to you and your significant other..

[Mark450]

A very honest and thought provoking response. Thank you so much for sharing. Food for thought definitely.

[Guest Wetnwildbear]

Honeyyyyyyyyyyy! Look what I found!

 

Hello guys, I have a question. I am in a long term relationship and would like to hire an escort to join the two of us for an evening. Nothing like this has ever been discussed between us before.

I'm wondering if anyone can shed some light on bringing up the subject or relate any experiences that may prove helpful.

Thank you

 

Honeyyyyyyyyyyy! Look what I found!

 

I was at the store and he just started dry humping me in the pet section so I bought a leash and collar for him

 

and brought him home - He appears to play well with others - Can we keep him? At least for the night - We couldn't

 

throw him out into the cold . . . Oh look how he's curled up on the bed - and he brought his own bone to play with!

[seeker630]

Hello guys, I have a question. I am in a long term relationship and would like to hire an escort to join the two of us for an evening. Nothing like this has ever been discussed between us before.

I'm wondering if anyone can shed some light on bringing up the subject or relate any experiences that may prove helpful.

Thank you

Hi Mark,

I've been following this thread since it began, but I just realized that you didn't say 'why' you want to hire an escort for 3-way.

 

I think you need to have a clear and honest answer to the question. I'm NOT trying to dissuade (or persuade) you. But I would expect there's a good chance the question will be asked and your partner's attitude toward the event is likely to be colored by your answer.

[MsGuy]

Hi Mark,

I just realized that you didn't say 'why' you want to hire an escort for 3-way.

 

I think you need to have a clear and honest answer to the question... your partner's attitude toward the event is likely to be colored by your answer.

 

Best piece of advice yet.

[Mark450]

Not taken lightly

 

Hi Mark,

I've been following this thread since it began, but I just realized that you didn't say 'why' you want to hire an escort for 3-way.

 

I think you need to have a clear and honest answer to the question. I'm NOT trying to dissuade (or persuade) you. But I would expect there's a good chance the question will be asked and your partner's attitude toward the event is likely to be colored by your answer.

 

Excellent question, yes I failed to include that important information. I will certainly do some soul searching and have the appropriate, honest answer to that question ready if/when the time comes. Thank you so much for adding to the great discussion we are having. There have been several posts with some very important topics discussed. Every reply is appreciated. Great group of guys here.