Top attracted to top - do you spend the money?

[gtx1]

Another question for our old hands here! What's your advise if you run across a well reviewed top who's look and body really pushes your hot buttons but your a top too? Is it worth the money to go for it and enjoy the other things or do you just come off so frustrated you should have just hired a bottom to start with? Any personal experiences with this conundrum would be appreciated.

 

GTX

[Diverdan]

Two TOPS can have a lot of fun with each other... go for it! You'll be glad you did.

[BaronArtz]

Can't anwer that question in a general way because every situation is different. Arpad Miklos, a well-reviewed top, eagerly volunteered to bottom when we both got naked. And he was damn good at it.

[+ bigjoey]

As Knight pointed out, in a certain situtation with proper "chemistry", a top can flip. Two tops can always hire a great bottom for a three way and sometimes everything gets so elplosive and hot that everyone is doing everything. Even witout a flip/flop or anal, for the limited time of an hour or two, two tops can have great fun and give each other fantastic pleasure.

 

For the almost tewnty years I have been hiring, I have been surprised where a top will bottom or do other things not advertised or listed in reviews.

[josephga]

I knew 2 guys that dated 25 years in a closed relationship and both were tops

[ChiTown]

What's your advise if you run across a well reviewed top who's look and body really pushes your hot buttons but you're a top too?GTX

 

GTX,

 

With your quick recovery time, why am I not surprised to learn that you're a top! I'd say if there's a strong attraction, which there obviously is, go for it. There are plenty of other things that you can find to do with a hot naked man.

[Bart]

Mathematics are irrefutable:

 

$$=Never

$$$= Maybe

$$$$=How soon can we meet

[JT Brooklyn]

IF your that "Turned On and Horned Up" by a Guy and Unfortunately not "Versatile" which by the way is the BEST Sex..He's gonna have you cumming any which way ANYWAYS!

 

Worrying about Who does or does not Bend over sure isn't great Sex for ME!

[Michael Wayne]

many of my best clients are also tops. The energy between two tops is amazing: the stories our dicks tell each other, the sword fights, the hot oral, the teasing, the mutual-masculinity. Sometimes the client flips and trys out the dark side of the force with me on top but alot of times the sex is very fulfilling without anal. I find also that tops in general are highly stressed individuals that really love my massages. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1 ATLANTA Feb 7th-12th!!!

[jawjateck]

Years ago, I was quite versatile, but now I generally stick with the top bunk. I have had great fun with many top guys where no bottom side action happened, and as others have stated, I have had the pleasure to nail some escorts who tout their "top" credentials. Ain't Hooville great?

[Guest Spanker01]

Some of my best scenes over the years have been with other tops. Conversly, some of the worst have been with bottoms. So if this guy really turns you on go for it!!

[+ Gar1eth]

I am a strict top-- in case you couldn't tell from all my posts. I make no claims to being a great top-- as I'm a 50 year old out of shape male-- so sometimes it's the oft told tale of the spirit being willing and the flesh being weak-- and occasionally even the spirit ain't willing-- I just want to sleep. Also if a guy can't relax enough to take me-and I'm ramming against a closed hole-- I have a tendency to lose my erection ( ramming against a closed hole hurts ).

 

That being said-- there have been guys I have just about dropped my eye teeth for they have been so attractive- but if they are tops only-- I regretfully pass them by. While I may not always be able to ' get it up due to age' or other circumstances, I like to at least attempt it. If I had no shot at all of topping---I just don't think I would like it. I know I am not pleased if I can't top someone I expected to. So I've regretfully had to pass up several guys I would love to spend time with like Jon Ramsey of Boston or possibly Robert Van Damme. This hobby is just too expensive for me not to get what I want. In similar fashion-- unless I have no choice, I also steer clear of versatile or bottom guys who don't kiss. An example of this would be former porn star Jason Land. He seemed like a friendly guy when I called him, and he had an incredible physique and what looked like a tallywacker of death ( even though I'm a top I like looking at 'healthy' tallywackers). I was so close to bringing him to me multiple times, but at the last minute I would refrain. I just couldn't get past the fact that he wasn't into kissing.

 

Gman

[RockCreekRunr]

It ultimately all depends on how important fucking is to you. If you can have a great time and enjoy busting your nuts without topping then I'd say go for IT and hire that Hot Top today! Enjoy.

[seeker630]

It ultimately all depends on how important fucking is to you. If you can have a great time and enjoy busting your nuts without topping then I'd say go for IT and hire that Hot Top today! Enjoy.

I think RockCreekRunr has it right - with an emphasis on the 'to you'. We all have our preferences & priorities.

 

But I also think it's critical that that you communicate this to your escort beforehand. Although I'm a top, I seldom go as far as anal with an escort. However, I tend to be aggressive and sometimes dominant in the interactions, and I have encountered tops who were not comfortable with someone else taking charge or being the aggressor, so I always explain this beforehand. And sometimes I can tell that the escort isn't going to comfortable with that.

 

Just my two cents worth.

[gtx1]

Top as Dominant

 

Interesting post - draws a pretty likely generalizaion that a part of what makes a top is dominance. Hadn't really thought about that because I'm a top but I don't think it is about domination - to me it is about fucking. But I can see how it is a very short step between top and dominate and how that could make a power top not comfortable. Best advice is to let the escort know in advance that this is a top / top and make sure he's comfortable with the situation in whatever role he plays.

 

Given me a lot of stuff to consider.

 

I think RockCreekRunr has it right - with an emphasis on the 'to you'. We all have our preferences & priorities.

 

But I also think it's critical that that you communicate this to your escort beforehand. Although I'm a top, I seldom go as far as anal with an escort. However, I tend to be aggressive and sometimes dominant in the interactions, and I have encountered tops who were not comfortable with someone else taking charge or being the aggressor, so I always explain this beforehand. And sometimes I can tell that the escort isn't going to comfortable with that.

 

Just my two cents worth.

[Guest Spanker01]

What I generally do is once the guy has arrived we sit down, and I make sure he understands what I expect of him, and that I am the dominate party. If he is obviously uncomfortable with what we are going to do, I offer him some money for his time and trouble and send him on his way. If everything is cool, it has been my experience that tops do better then bottoms for me much of the time. Not always, and I've had bottoms who were grrrreat!

Spanker

[seeker630]

Interesting post - draws a pretty likely generalizaion that a part of what makes a top is dominance. Hadn't really thought about that because I'm a top but I don't think it is about domination - to me it is about fucking. But I can see how it is a very short step between top and dominate and how that could make a power top not comfortable. Best advice is to let the escort know in advance that this is a top / top and make sure he's comfortable with the situation in whatever role he plays.

 

Given me a lot of stuff to consider.

 

gtx1, I suspect there is some correlation but it's certainly far from universal. Certainly a bottom can be dominant, and some tops enjoy another dominant man. But SOME people DO equate the 2, and some men are unwilling to or uncomfortable with yielding power/control. Also, I think some escorts 'get into character' and may not be prepared to step outisde the role without warning - prior communication can

I have a feeling that more experienced and mature escorts can more comfortably be flexible than many novices or guys struggling with the escort identity. But that's just my theory.

[adriano46]

This is a great post and very interesting on the different perspectives.

 

As I have noted elsewhere, I am NOT a bottom. Back when I first came out (to myself that is...), and began hiring guys, I tried it. Once in Germany in a famous male bordello, I was more than willing to flip for a beautiful Brazilian guy, but even with poppers (first time I had even tried them), I could not loosen enough to let the guy inside. I found the whole experience painful and embarrassing, and truth be told, hated the headache from the poppers. So I stuck to hiring bottoms or versatile guys.

 

Later I went and hired a famous west coast escort who advertises as a power TOP. I was attracted to his body, and above all, his interesting postings here seeing him as witty, funny, erudite, a guy for a more complete overnight experience. He knew I did not bottom, but kept insisting he was going to do it -- drove me nuts as I was NOT interested, insisted I was not interested, and despite his feelings to this day that he NAILED me, I know he did not get inside the golden ring. His insistance on the topping more or less ruined the date for me, and I never saw him again.

 

So jump ahead a decade or so - I hire guys who interest ME and who also know what I expect from sex. I want guys who definately can kiss passionately, are skilled in oral work, and have bodies that I find attractive. I like a full-package for a date, a guy who is not only handsome outside, but who is mature, can hold a conversation, who has a sense of humor, and one with whom I would enjoy more than a hot session under the sheets (the BFE I guess), though, truth be told, like some here, I like my sleep and so not too interested in the overnight experience these days, though I do have them occasionally.

 

I find that if I am really drawn to a total TOP, and want to have a good time with him, I lay out all my own expectations and let him call the shots - "Yes, I can do that!" or "No, that may be a problem." I also do NOT lay out $300 or more for a quickie that will leave me, well, feeling somehow I missed something.

 

If a guy really is turning on all my buttons, I will suggest that I also hire a HOT AGGRESSIVE INSATIABLE BOTTOM, and I get off watching him - and them - as I get my oral satisfaction from both, and they each get their own thrills.

[gtx1]

Gar1eth,

 

My friend, reading your posts tell me that you still have the appetite maybe not the physical ability sometime. May I suggest you give the little blue magic pill a try. I have no problem (yet thank god) in the erection department, however, I love the quality of hard on that the blue pill provides - feels like I'm 20 again. So for me it is a quality thing. Used to buy them out of country, but I finally just told my urologist what I wanted and he said NO PROBLEM, what do you want. And in fact he increased the dose so I could cut them in half and get double my money. And they are covered under many medical plans as quality of life drugs. So if youve done it sorry, but if you havent I strongly encourage you to give it a try!