Coupla things

[chrismac]

OK - first just to update everyone: I went to court today to make the restraining order against my ex-friend into a 3-year deal. Since the sheriff's dept couldn't find him (they were slow to act and he moved out of the hotel he'd been living in for the past two years - ran out of money, I guess), the court just moved the whole deal forward for 3 weeks for a new hearing. Just what I wanted - to drag this thing out. I don't know where he is now - so the restraining order will probably not go into effect. At least I'm not getting any more calls (lately).

 

Now, another (not really bad) situation: I met this guy online here locally who seems really nice, professional, etc. We had some bedtime fun a couple of times already. He told me upfront that he has a boyfriend, and I said that was his deal and fine with me (I could tell right away that I couldn't see us in a long-term relationship). He contacts me rather regularly and wants to see me every week. The lust thing has kinda worn off for me, but I go ahead and see him because he is nice-looking, professional, all that, and he really wants to see me. I'm basically neutral on it. I don't want to lie and say I have a steady boyfriend to turn him away, but not sure how to, well, reject him I suppose. I think he's getting it both ways (live-in boyfriend - however that works, and casual sex with other guys), but he seems to want me to be his "mistress" or whatever you'd call what I am to him.

 

Kind of a weird situation, but not uncommon I'm sure. Ah, the pitfalls of online dating...

[guyinsf]

As to the latter issue, just say "no" when he calls asking to come over. If he presses for an explanation, you can say something general (but truthful) like "I've decided I don't want to take this any further."

[catnip]

>As to the latter issue, just say "no" when he calls asking

>to come over. If he presses for an explanation, you can say

>something general (but truthful) like "I've decided I don't

>want to take this any further."

 

That is excellent advice - nothin' like the truth!

[bluenix]

Your experience with your former friend is totally beyond my ken. But you seem like a fine guy and I wish you the best.

 

Meanwhile, the other question is a kick. Your new acquaintance is cheating on his lover, yet you're worried about being rude. My suggestion is, in fact, my grandmother's: Never complain, never explain.

 

If that's not self-explanatory, let me know.

 

Good luck.

[Chuck50]

Should we re-title this " out of the frying pan into the fire"? HUgs Chuck

[chrismac]

I agree with all of you.

 

I think I'm moving to India. It seems far away enough.

[Bilbo]

"Where ever you go, there you are."