hiring an escort

[Guest daricous]

I'm considering a hiring an escort....

Not sure how to go about it? .I'm very formal and professional guy, also its going to be my fisrt time with one on one ,

any tip?;-)

[Boston Guy]

Hi,

 

Welcome to M4M! Your first step -- to ask questions here -- was a good one. :-)

 

I suspect you'll get a fair number of responses right here, but I'd suggest also searching the archives when you have a chance. There's a fair amount of information buried in there on this topic. It might take a little while to find everything relevant, but it's really a gold mine.

 

To take a quick stab at an answer:

 

1. Decide why you want to hire an escort. Are you just looking for some good sex (nothing wrong with that!)? Are you looking for companionship? Are you looking for something that might end up like a date? There are lots of different answers. Try to figure out what you're looking for.

 

2. Decide what kind of escort you're hoping to hire. Young or Old? Top or bottom? Aggressive or passive? Hairy or a twink? How does that fit into the answer to #1?

 

3. Decide where you want to hire the escort. Will it be in your hometown? Or on the road? Will you want to go to the escort or have them come to you? Lots of guys find hotels a good place to meet escorts but just as many like going to the escort's place. You might want to think seriously about if you were planning on having the escort come to your home, at least until you have a little more experience.

 

4. Look at the escorts reviewed here or available on rentboy.com or other similar sites. Are there guys who seem to fit what you're looking for? You can also check the AOL M4M chatrooms for the city or cities you're looking at; there are usually escorts online there.

 

5. Try to narrow your search down to one or two guys. Drop them an email and explain your situation. Do tell them that you've never hired an escort before -- this will be important information for them. Without writing a book, explain what you're looking for: a sentence or two about you and a sentence or two about what you're looking for is probably enough.

 

6. Be patient. Wait for replies. Don't send 200 more messages while waiting. Hopefully you'll get a response back from at least one of the guys you've selected. If his response makes sense, email him back and tell him you're interested and would like to talk. Either have him call you or call him and talk a little about it. Tell him you're nervous -- you will be.

 

7. Realize this isn't like plotting World War III. Hiring escorts is easy and should be fun. I get the impression that lots of guys anguish over it. Try to avoid that. It's only $200, give or take.

 

8. Make an appointment and get together with him.

 

Have fun!

 

BG

[Cooper]

>I'm considering hiring an escort....

>Not sure how to go about it? .I'm a very formal and

>professional guy, also it's going to be my fisrt time with

>one on one ,

>any tips?;-)

 

Hey "Daricous", Welcome aboard!

First off, no need to be formal or professional around here. Last time I used the term "professional" to describe an escort I was told to call him a "whore"...

 

Boston Guy gave you some great advice in making your decision. When you become more comfortable with hiring an escort try some of the escort sites. After "M4M", I like Rentboy.com You get a picture, description, contact info., what they are in to, etc.

 

E-mailing the escort would probably be the most comfortable for you. The escort will take it from there. Also, since you are among friends here, write a post and ask for escort advice in your town. You'll be surprised as to how many responses you'll get.

 

Good luck, and don't forget to write a review when it's over. Also, if you have any specific questions, just ask.

[Chuck50]

The biggest thing you need to do is your homework. What sounds good to others may not to you. If a guy is consistent on "this hot bed" he will most likely pass the test. Although some guys have a bad day just like we have in our lives too. I like a work up to a relationship myself. Calling,emailing, you can get a good picture from both. I didn't start till I was 48 and wow what a good 2 yrs I have had and have had some of the best at least in my book. With some I have become friends but still deep down under I know it's about the Client/Escort thing and try not to forget that. I look at this board everyday and do my homework and make my lists. I guess I have been spoiled cause I keep coming back to the same 3 LOL. Pick out the type you like; twink, swimmer,muscualar,older and then focus in on that on here as you can look at pics and go on. I can honestly tell you. I don't read any reviews that don't have pics. It's just me but I wanna see what I am getting or think I am getting LOL. Good luck most of these guys will put you at ease. If your 21 and studly or 45 and sporting the tire most really seem to care about you as the person and that is important to me. Ask yourself what is the most important things I want? Maybe in the beginng Vanilla, Oral, Kissing, Cuddling and then move on to Anal and whatever else comes up. I have taken trips and spent time with 2 of them now so figure out what you like and go for it. I will be surprised if your sorry if you do your homework and they (Most will make you feel) like it's not your first time HUGS Chuck

[Guest]

Since you're new to this site, I'll give you some pointers I've learned from experience.

 

(1) There are hundreds of escorts reviewed on this site. There is little reason to hire an escort who doesn't have predominantly good reviews on this site. It's fine to look at other sites, but I see little reason in hiring someone who isn't listed here, in a positive light.

(2) Don't hire an escort whose face and body you can't see beforehand, unless you don't care about a guy's facial features and/or body. If you in fact don't care, you should be paying quite a bit less than you would for an escort who shows his face and body. There are just too many escorts who show both these days, making the risk of the unknown unnecessary (and when something isn't being shown, there's a good reason more often than not).

(3) Be very careful reading reviews. I may be blasted for saying this, but take my word for it: most reviews written by first-time reviewers are fake. Be especially careful of escorts who have many rave reviews by multiple first-time reviewers, and little else. A review by a 5-time reviewer is worth more than five reviews by a first-time reviewer.

(4) Keep in mind that a majority of escorts lie about their age. Of course, it may not matter. Nevertheless, it really irks me when a guy claims to have aged only one year when three have passed. He doesn't even keep his lies consistent!

(5) Of course, tastes can vary. However, my advice would be to go with an established escort who's consistently rated highly by established reviewers. Also read what they say carefully, and see if what the reviewer finds important is what you find important.

 

Remember, there's plenty of great fish in the sea!! :9

[Guest daricous]

thanx guys for the advice,wonna thank you all for your responses.mainly i'm looking for one time thing nothing more,Although as a to me escort i think should be someone profesional well manered,and have his head on his shoulders.I was thinking to bring him over to my place since is my first time ,I'll feel more comfortable,but if its not advisable , I will try to make some hotel arragements..As to the escort I'm thinking of a guy who has similar body shape as I do ,well spoken and mannered.

I 'm thinking would be good idea to invite him for lunch and get to know what he might be all about.

 

On one occasion had a chance to browse some escort side and can find many very hot guys out there.lets say I have initiated first contact how would i do that,like out of the blue?

daricous.. ;-)

[CT Dick]

Unicorn has given you some excellent advice.

 

I disagree with the other posters who suggested RentBoy or AOL. Those are good sites to get the blood running but you have no way of knowing if they are scams or personality-deprived.

 

Using the reviews here (and heed Unicorn's comments about first time posters) is the most likely to give you a good experience.

 

Also, if you hire one reviewed here it is pretty safe to have him come to your home. I agree with you that it would be more comfortable.

 

Please let us know how this works out.

 

Dick

[Boston Guy]

>Unicorn has given you some excellent advice.

>

>I disagree with the other posters who suggested RentBoy or

>AOL. Those are good sites to get the blood running but you

>have no way of knowing if they are scams or

>personality-deprived.

>

>Using the reviews here (and heed Unicorn's comments about

>first time posters) is the most likely to give you a good

>experience.

>

>Also, if you hire one reviewed here it is pretty safe to

>have him come to your home. I agree with you that it would

>be more comfortable.

>

>Please let us know how this works out.

>

>Dick

 

 

Hey Dick,

 

I respect your opinion and your point of view. You've been hanging around here for a long time and clearly have a lot to offer.

 

A lot of guys would agree with you re: AOL or even possibly Rentboy. It's pretty common to find people putting down AOL for any one of a variety of reasons. However, in fairness, I felt it was worth mentioning to the gentleman who posed the original question.

 

I've been hanging around this board since its very beginning and my views about the review process are known and on record and don't need to be rehashed here. But I'm also on record as valuing highly the give-and-take offered in this Message Center and I always try to tell it as I see it.

 

Frankly, to advise someone to only go with guys who are reviewed here would not be the best advice I could give someone. Nor would I encourage a new client to do more than take the reviews of potential clients here with a huge grain of salt.

 

Out of curiousity, I recently looked through the entire set of reviews in the Southern California section. There are so many errors there it's almost unbelievable -- and I'm not talking about in the text of the reviews themselves, but in the "factual" portion that accompanies them. And that's not to mention that there are many guys listed there who haven't been escorting for a year or more. The fact that they are listed exactly like all of the others could lead a new client to try to contact them and get very frustrated when he gets no response.

 

When you add to that the strong suspicions of most of us that lots of reviews -- by first time reviewers and by others -- are inaccurate at best and completely false in many cases, it's hard to steer someone new to this to those reviews and say "depend on these."

 

That's the negative. The positive of AOL, in my opinion, comes from having hired lots of guys from AOL. HB likes to talk about "trolling" for guys on AOL and has disparaged escorts who are on AOL. But it's been my experience that lots of the guys people like to rave about here are on AOL or have been and that AOL is simply another marketing vehicle. There are good guys there and there are others who aren't so good.

 

But I've found that a lot of the young guys who are just finishing college or just out of it are best found on AOL. A lot of these guys are smart, interesting and just escorting part-time while they get their careers going and can be fun to meet.

 

Some clients don't like AOL or won't use the chatrooms or even email or IM an escort who's online or listed. That's fine; there are other options for them and I certainly won't put them down for choosing those options. But I've met a fair number of very decent guys, usually in their early 20's, on AOL.

 

The process of meeting someone on AOL is very interactive. It's possible for someone to send you an old picture, of course, but I'd suggest that the chances of someone sending you an old pic on AOL are lower than of seeing an old pic here or on rentboy. Then, if you're interested in someone, you can either exchange emails or chat online. I've found that to be a good way of finding out if someone is likely to be worth meeting.

 

It's not 100%, of course -- nothing is. But if someone is rude online or inconsiderate, that's a good indication. On the other hand, guys who are willing to take the time to chat a bit with someone who's a serious potential client have a chance to show that they're decent guys.

 

Then there's the fact that there are lots of escorts on AOL who are never reviewed here or even mentioned. Just disregarding AOL completely means never even having the chance to consider these guys.

 

As far the original poster's question goes, since he's new to this, if he's in a location where he can meet a well-known reputable escort who rings his bells, well, that's what I'd recommend.

 

But suppose he's located someplace where that's not real possible. There may well be guys in his area who are on AOL and, in that case, not suggesting that he at least check it out would be deriving him of the chance to make his own choice.

 

As I said at the top, I respect your opinion. You're definitely one of the good guys. We just have different ways of going about this. :-)

 

BG