"Boy Friend Experience"

[Epigonos]

First I would like to apologize for the stupidity of this question. I am sure that someone who has been around this site as long as I have should know the answer but I'm afraid I don't

 

Would some of you guys please exlplain to me, in some detail, exactly what one should expect from a "boy friend expierience".

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I think an escort acting like his client's boyfriend is what bfe means. It is very a subjective thing because everybody has a different definition on what a boy friend is. I rarely have that because escorts have to act really hard to make it real. I only had one escort who gave me a boy friend experience. However, after our time was over he went back to his life and that was the end of it. I think escorts have to really like their clients to this to happen.

[+ nycman]

I think an escort acting like his client's boyfriend is what bfe means.

 

You mean he's gonna snore, steal the covers, leave the cap off the toothpaste,

wear my Parda shoes in the rain, come home late for dinner, forget my birthday

and be a cold fish in bed?

 

Fuck that shit!

[Guest TBinCHI]

You mean he's gonna snore, steal the covers, leave the cap off the toothpaste,

wear my Parda shoes in the rain, come home late for dinner, forget my birthday

and be a cold fish in bed?

 

Fuck that shit!

 

Yikes! I guess having a boyfriend ain't all it's cracked up to be!

[Txpaytoplay]

That's a classic NYCMAN

 

Roflmao!!!!!!

[Guest greatness]

lol

 

That's right.... Did we have the same bf?? lol...

 

wear my Parda shoes in the rain, forget my birthday

and be a cold fish in bed?

 

Fuck that shit!

[Rod Hagen]

You mean he's gonna snore, steal the covers, leave the cap off the toothpaste,

wear my Parda shoes in the rain, come home late for dinner, forget my birthday

and be a cold fish in bed?

 

Fuck that shit!

 

You are a funny man. No wonder I've liked you so much these 10 years.

[NYTomcat]

that's it Anton. You just did it. That's the bfe. Its that wanting to share time. Wanting to share a moment in place together. Its the smiles the inside jokes the touching of hands the patting of an arm. Its building an instant comfort level that put two people in sync.

 

The bfe is about feeling connection to another man. On an emotional level. Yes it risks blurred lines but it also heightens the joys. Its dating foreplay. Its why I hire since my life does not allow an actual bfe. Yet.

 

Hi Epigonos,

 

(Although this is "an area to discuss escorts", I hope you don't mind that I chime in.)

 

First of all I like the fact that this expression of "The Boyfriend Experience" pops up more and more.

 

I checked older versons of my website and I first had it there in March 2006. I recently took it off, because I passed 40, and LOL, although I still do the silliest things, I wouldn't call myself "boy" anymore ... :-)

 

Probably the meaning of this expression is different from person to person and I can only give you mine. To me "boyfriend experience" means that the time a client spends with an escort comes close to being with a real boyfriend.

 

LOL, without the fights, quarrels and drama of course.

 

(Ooohhh, my hair isn't right, I can't possibly go out tonight ... :-) )

 

Making it look like a real boyfriend may sound simple, but it's not. A real boyfriend will know the sensitive strings that his partner has (since they have been partners for a while).

Just as an example, imagine that a sensitive string of a client is that he's short and that he hates it (just as an example). A real boyfriend will know that and will avoid any remark about his partner being short. An escort doesn't, he has to be alert and needs to figure out which topics to avoid when with a client, even if the client is new to the escort.

 

With some clients it could be being short, with others it may be not enough hair "on top", again others may really want to be slimmer, then there are some who think they're unattractive, a number of them would really want a different size or shape of their "tool", others had surgery and hate their scars, and so on and so on and so on ...

 

Anyway, more specific "the boyfriend experience" also means to me that sitting on a bench with a nice view over the ocean and sitting against each other, or even the client against the chest of the escort (or vice versa) can easily be part of it.

 

To me, another really important part of it is that the escort doesn't think "OMG" when seeing the client for the first time. I genuinly think that if this thought goes through an escort's mind, even if he's doing his very best not to let it show, the client will pick up something and the experience will be less.

 

On this point another example is the client who wrote my first review. He wrote "I took the elevator down to meet him - the door opened and there stood one hot man. He had one of the most brillant smiles I had ever seen."

 

When I read that I thought "oh, did I really smile that bright?". I actually couldn't remember if I had this broad smile or not when seeing the client for the first time. Nevertheless the client and his review told me that every second is important when spending time together, the first minute not in the least.

 

Anyway, my perception of the BFE is that it's not just about sex, but that it comes close to being with a real boyfriend for the client (for the time being).

 

I hope this gives an additional perception on it.

 

Warmest, Anton/Amsterdam.

 

ps : Yes, I have been absent a while on this board. I had some turbulent times in my life (where "turbulent" doesn't always means "negative").