What's with the attitude? A rant I guess

[firsttimer]

I also probably don't get many replies because I must be saying the wrong things like I do ask for a recent picture or a face picture, especially if the ad looks sketchy. I have already had three bad encounters all of whom had pictures on rentboy which were NOT real. So I've become defensive when I first email. I'm sure this turns off many escorts (since I don't get replies sometimes sadly) but I don't know how to balance it well. I think I'm a nice guy and I think would be an easy client (I'm in my twenties and have very little sexual experience with guys) who really just wants company with a hot guy. So you'd think I should have tons of choices, but as you all know I am pretty picky too which is my own fault

 

So what do you think the best way to make first contact with an escort without coming across defensive and wary of the escort's ad?

[Lookin]

My take is that it's best for both clients and escorts to be themselves in their communications, whether it's a patient and charming self, or a gruff and surly self. That way, they're more likely to have a good experience when they do get together, or avoid a bad one if they don't. If an escort is really a frog, he doesn't do me any favors by coming across as a prince in his emails. And if a client is very demanding in person, I think it's best if he's demanding in his emails too, so that an escort who hates demanding people doesn't show up at his door. I'd much rather read "Whatever." in an email than to hear it in person.

 

I believe that escorts who have been in the business awhile develop pretty good instincts about what works for them and what doesn't. An escort who torpedoes his chance at meeting a client may be doing so because of something negative he's picking up from the client. Or possibly because of something negative he knows about himself, at least as it pertains to a particular potential client.

 

If a client is new to hiring, and wary about the outcome, it seems like a good thing to express that openly and without feeling defensive. True, he may cut down on his list of potential hires, but I think he increases his chances of finding a good one.

 

Last I heard, there were plenty of fish in the sea.

 

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[Guest RyanCade]

iT'S aLL

 

If you are referring to any comment that I have made, then there has been a misunderstanding. I thought that we were discussing the general subject of email communications between an escort and a client. As I stated above, I was not at any time referring to any action or communication that you have made.

 

If I have offended you in any way, then I apologize and ask only that you tell me how I have offended you.

 

BG

 

Have you considered that you might be reading into responses here that which is not there? Since you have not responded to my post, I assume that you were referring to me when you said that "there are mean people here." Yet, I have apologized twice for any inadvertent offense that I may have given you, for none was or is intended.

 

 

 

When all communication is through words, one must constantly be alert to the possibility that one is misinterpreting what another poster is writing. If you feel that you have received a slight or that someone has been acting "mean", may I kindly suggest that before taking it to heart, you ask the other poster if you are understanding their comment correctly.

BG

 

GOOD.....

 

Guys

 

I thought were done with this, I had other things going on, but I would not intentionally ignore an attempt to rectify a situation of misunderstanding. and I thought I posted this last night but I guess I didn't

 

Honestly, I just thought it was a little harsh for the nature of the offense and the reason for it has so many variables, that none of us were in a position to reach any definite conclusions... I just felt you were s bit rigid and were closed to any other idea than the escort was rude and inadequate. Who knows what was going on in his life at the time of contact Everybody deserves a little wiggle room...

 

Thank you whip and BG for clarifying. I may tend take things personal as well as over analyze, but the energy did seem to be in rapid escalation, I did not want to be part of that.

 

I believe the last few posts by the the threads author would have been the same no matter what we filled the middle with, which is btw what my last comments were about. the same holding true for his interaction with the escort, now vindicated in my eyes.

 

Frankly I have become quite interested in learning about this escort I think with the information already provided I might be able to find him. I am even more interested in reading his reviews. After all I will be visiting NY this summer and I may need a little extra company..

 

No Worries

Repectfully