What's with the attitude? A rant I guess

[Troyster]

I was in NYC recently and with Maximum off line I was looking elsewhere.

 

One very well known and very highly regarded guy in NYC who gets really good comments here is setting me off ....

 

He has an ad on Rentboy so I emailed him off that and said I am going to be in NYC on such and such a date and was wondering if ..... I made it clear he was recommended by someone and that I understood that he had very positive reviews. I made it clear that I was looking for a cool easy going guy and was not too forward for explicit.

 

He took days to reply which I can sort of understand maybe was not in his email. The reply was short and curt basically saying YES.

 

So I went back to him and tried to qualify a bit more on his availability and his posting said face pics available. His reply ... one face pic of himself, distant from the camera, sunglasses and little more info. I went back and said what gives nothing else? He said no. I said LOL .... I have seen more of you online ..... bye

 

Maybe he gets too many inquires. Maybe because I did not spell out exactly the blow by blow of what had to happen when, etc. I turned him off. I was tryingto be respectful and open in my inquiry.

 

But I have to say when he was so unresponsive and aloof I was totally turned off. Maybe some people like that but to me it is never going to get me to hire.

[Bart]

Dear Troyster:

In the past I too have had similar situations with gentlemen. I too felt rebuffed and turned elsewhere. One gentleman in particular who was a very hot commodity on here until he left the scene middle of last year. I was completely perplexed, until I spoke of this to a dear friend of mine who does post on here occassion and another gentleman who works in this field.

 

First my friend suggested that as might be the case here, he may not be very expressive with the written word and handles things much better over the phone. In addition, as much as, we would like to think our requests are special, singular and should be held in the highest regard with no doubts as to our validity, most working guys receive many emails and phone calls which go no where. So to be honest popular guys on here get many requests and in a sense part of the scene is selling yourself.

 

The gentleman who is this field mentioned to me when I explained my frustration over several things including this is one I have to have some patience. If he is a popular guy on here odds are he may busy or potentially on an extended assignment with client. As is always appropriate, contacting new clients while with a regular is not usually good business. Second, emails and requests for pictures are sometimes bad signals to gentlemen as they think you are not real and just want photos to get oof on. As my friend had suggested, my friend in the field said a lot of guys just are not comfortable with just emial they need an actual human voice.

 

So just a few thoughts for you to consider.

[whipped guy]

One very well known and very highly regarded guy in NYC who gets really good comments here is setting me off .... He took days to reply... The reply was short and curt... But I have to say when he was so unresponsive and aloof I was totally turned off. Maybe some people like that but to me it is never going to get me to hire.

Some guys have no business sense, and some have no common sense... some have no sense at all. You seem to imply that this guy has been around the block and has had experience working in the field. Perhaps something rubbed him the wrong way, but from your description of the chain of events that most likely should not have been the case. Simply because you are upset about the situation seems to indicate that you treaded lightly and respectfully. Perhaps he is way too busy, and simply does not care... but I am not at all surprised by the scenario. If he is under 30 he probably has no clue... actually many guys in their 30s have no clue.

 

From an escorts business perspective any inquiry should be treated as having at the very least some potential. If the working guy does not adequately follow up on an query then either he is not really doing his job or for some reason experience dictated that you would not have been compatible...

 

Either way, I say he most likely did you a favor... as either he didn't care (not a good sign), is too full of himself (a common trait unfortunately), or he sensed that things would not have worked out... and you certainly seem to indicate that if you had hooked up with the guy there most likely would not have been a happy meeting of the minds... or other body parts for that matter... so good riddance.

 

I am always grateful when things fall through in the "negotiation stage"… as in the final analysis the session would most likely have been a total bust. Possibly you found yourself sitting in the middle of NYC with nothing to do… better that then wasting hard earned cash on (at least for you) someone who would be a looser.

 

Also, it is often surprising how those who are "high profile" are not exactly as "stellar" as their reputations might imply.

[Boston Guy]

+1 and nicely put.

 

The OP's use of the word "attitude" is spot on. If a salesperson working for me ever used that type of attitude with someone who was even a distant prospect, they wouldn't be working for me very long.

 

I would far -- far, far, far -- rather hire a nice guy with average looks and a smile on his face than someone with stellar looks who has too high an opinion of himself. I view finding out that an escort has an attitude problem a great gift, for it saves me the likelihood of wasting time and money. But I wonder if these escorts ever stop to consider the future? I don't know how others do it, but I remember the guys I call or email and I remember the ones who were full of attitude last year and the year before and the year before that. Blow me off once (so to speak) and I won't be contacting you again, period. There are simply too many nice guys out there to need to bother with the ones with attitude. And if someone else asks, you can count on me being willing to describe my initial unpleasant experience with you.

 

BG

[whipped guy]

Bart… I don’t mean to sound confrontational with my use of multi quotes here... but it does illustrate your point that sometimes emails… or at least the written word can be misinterpreted.

 

… he may not be very expressive with the written word and handles things much better over the phone.

Well then he had better learn the skills or state as some guys actually do “phone calls preferred…”

 

… we would like to think that our requests are special, singular and should be held in the highest regard with no doubts as to our validity, most working guys receive many emails and phone calls which go no where.

Is not that the job of a working guy to make us feel “special” and “singular”???!!!... and in spite of the fact that we are not... and that it is in reality all a fantasy or an illusion???!!!

 

Second, emails and requests for pictures are sometimes bad signals to gentlemen as they think you are not real and just want photos to get oof on.

However, in this case the working guy offered to send face pics as noted in his ad.

The OP's use of the word "attitude" is spot on. If a salesperson working for me ever used that type of attitude with someone who was even a distant prospect, they wouldn't be working for me very long… There are simply too many nice guys out there to need to bother with the ones with attitude.

Yes! Attitude, attitude, attitude!!!!!!!

 

Unfortunately the word most often has a negative connotation as in this thread… However, there is such a thing as a positive, optimistic, and upbeat attitude as well!

[Boston Guy]

Unfortunately the word most often has a negative connotation as in this thread… However, there is such a thing as a positive, optimistic, and upbeat attitude as well!

 

Yes, there most certainly is. And it's the one thing that above all else will have clients knocking at an escort's door and coming back again and again for repeat appointments.

 

BG

[Guest RyanCade]

I hope the blackberry roller ball is well rested

 

One very well known and very highly regarded guy in NYC who gets really good comments here is setting me off ....

This makes it clear that he is a good escort, you can't just pick up a reputation at your local market. And your much more likely to stumble upon a bad one than a good one.. "very high regard" & "really good comments here" You can be sure that he has earned that.

 

he was recommended by someone and that I understood that he had very positive reviews

Again, good escort, positive reviews and recommendations are not likely door prizes.

 

I would bet a very large amount of money, better yet I guarantee that along with his good reputation comes the unimaginable, never ending and sometimes virtually impossible task of screening and responding to inquiries from all over the country and beyond.

 

I can personally attest to the frustration (all to often taken as attitude) this causes sometimes. It can be so overwhelming... Imagine if you had to be interviewed for a new job every day, where you didn't know the boss, you weren't familiar with his corks, but you have only this brief moment to make your impression and land the deal. Now take away the benefit of eye contact, body language, freshly shined shoes, pressed suit and your million dollar smile.. What does that leave you with to make your impression? ok now take away the benifit of inflection or "tone of voice" Kind of like having your tool belt taken away and then given a time lmit to finish building a house.. Now imagine having to make that impression 10 times a day knowing that 8 of the ten will be a total waste of time.

 

I wouldn't expect this to occur to any potential client nor do I feel their inquiries aren't worthy of personal attention,consideration followed by a proper, polite response in a timely manner. I have been on both sides. and when I hire it's because I want what I want and I want it now, But when thats the case I pick up the phone and I talk to him. I can tell within a few moments if we're likely to get a long and sometimes just 3 seconds to determine that we won't.

 

 

I made it clear that I was looking for a cool easy going guy and was not too forward for explicit.

Now remember that this is coming from a guy who has to make quick decisions and look for the possible disasters before they happen with virtually no information, avoiding the ill matched encounter we are all familiar with; keeping in mind that this very well may be a serious inquiry with the means and intent to follow through.

 

That being said, your above statement might indicate that you are easily turned off, and depending the gentleman's personality he may or may not be able to contain his behavior.. Some Escorts can be very forward and explicit. Though we may be sweet and friendly and all kinds of other good things. We may even know a few preachers (but we didn't meet them at church) This guy may not have felt he could pull off innocent for more than a few seconds.. I mean he didn't earn that reputation selling girl sdcout cookies either... LOL thats a long shot in the dark, but plausible.

 

He took days to reply which I can sort of understand maybe was not in his email. The reply was short and curt basically saying YES.

The rock and a hard place analogy fits here. With all the inquiries you either shorten your answers (short and curt) giving up the only tool you have to make that impression. (your words) or you become a slave to the seemingly insatiable demands of your new master emails and text messages, giving them every last second of your time... yes I am wearing the key board out, I have trouble shortening my words, as you can tell..

 

 

So I went back to him and tried to qualify a bit more on his availability and his posting said face pics available. His reply ... one face pic of himself, distant from the camera, sunglasses and little more info. I went back and said what gives nothing else?

 

I have a policy to never send my pictures through email or text. they can be used to misrepresent me and they have in the past.. And to be honest, it's usually an indication that you will never actually meet the person requesting them. I would apologize, but deny the request respectfully and ask for your understanding.

 

 

He said no. I said LOL .... I have seen more of you online ..... bye

 

Not to offend you, but that is exactly how I would expect this inquiry to end, it is very common.. I could probably find 5 emails in the last month that ended with "LOL.... Bye"

 

Maybe he gets too many inquires. Maybe because I did not spell out exactly the blow by blow of what had to happen when, etc. I turned him off. I was trying to be respectful and open in my inquiry.

But I have to say when he was so unresponsive and aloof I was totally turned off. Maybe some people like that but to me it is never going to get me to hire.

If you had a clearer understanding would you still be turned off? and would you still end it on the same note? and would you consider giving this guy another look.

 

Do you find this info useful or offensive?

 

Respectfully

[Guest RyanCade]

The OP's use of the word "attitude" is spot on. If a salesperson working for me ever used that type of attitude with someone who was even a distant prospect, they wouldn't be working for me very long.

 

As the manager over sales you would be aware of the call volume, your employees ability to handle the calls, and they would likely have many advantages over this guy.. even just the advantage of using your voice is paramount. I really think his position should be given a bit more consideration.

 

I would far -- far, far, far -- rather hire a nice guy with average looks and a smile on his face than someone with stellar looks who has too high an opinion of himself. I view finding out that an escort has an attitude problem a great gift, for it saves me the likelihood of wasting time and money. But I wonder if these escorts ever stop to consider the future? I don't know how others do it, but I remember the guys I call or email and I remember the ones who were full of attitude last year and the year before and the year before that. Blow me off once (so to speak) and I won't be contacting you again, period. There are simply too many nice guys out there to need to bother with the ones with attitude. And if someone else asks, you can count on me being willing to describe my initial unpleasant experience with you. BG

 

His reviews reccomendation should speak volumes ofhis in person performance and charm. Looking at my phone bill my work phone alone transmitted 1937 text messages, that doesn't include the emails and phone calls... That has got to be worthy consideration... That is 64 text messages a day..... The poor guy is busy and apparently satisfying somebody... and such harsh judgment...

[Boston Guy]

Many of us receive a very large number of emails per day. Somehow, we manage to answer them in a way that is cordial and professional.

 

No matter how busy someone is, there is always a way to answer an email or a call in a way that is friendly and free of attitude. If an escort does not want to answer emails, then that person should not publish an email address. If they do not want to receive phone calls, then they should not list a phone number.

 

The best defense may well be the one used by many businesses: a web site. Many escorts use web sites or blogs as a way to communicate information to prospective clients. I have often received an email from an escort that went something like this:

 

Hi! Thank you very much for contacting me. I appreciate your interest and hope that we will have an opportunity to meet.

 

Unfortunately, I receive hundreds of emails per day so it's very hard for me to answer each one with the care that I feel I should devote in order to respect the person who has communicated with me. To help us both take the first step, I have created a website that shows some pictures and answers many of the questions that I am frequently asked. I hope this web site will help you determine if you would like to continue discussing getting together. After you have viewed the web site, if you would still like to get together, please call me at 555-123-4567.

 

Thank you again for contacting me. I really hope that we can get a chance to meet.

 

Etc., etc., etc. An email response like that is clear, to the point, respectful, friendly and explains why the escort is responding with a generic email. If the escort truly is receiving hundreds of requests from prospects, then he can afford to turn off the clients who might find the generic email off-putting. I know that I, for one, am never turned off by a respectful communication like this, even if it is a generic one, because it gives me the information that I need to take the next step. I can choose to do so or not but I'm not hung up waiting for days for an answer only to get -- finally!! -- a one-word email that consists solely of the word "No."

 

Just one client's point of view.

 

BG-

[whipped guy]

No matter how busy someone is, there is always a way to answer an email or a call in a way that is friendly and free of attitude.

Exactly... it just takes some effort.

This makes it clear that he is a good escort… "very high regard" & "really good comments here" You can be sure that he has earned that… Again, good escort, positive reviews and recommendations are not likely door prizes.

Ryan it is interesting to get a feeling of what it is like on the other side... and while I understand from where you are coming, the aspects of the job are not unlike many other business ventures.

 

Well, I have found that good reviews are not necessarily indicative of the best service… some of us can tolerate “attitude” in the worst sense better than others… and (guess what!) some can be blinded by the sexual aspects of the encounter. Many clients unquestionably require more.

I guarantee that along with his good reputation comes the unimaginable, never ending and sometimes virtually impossible task of screening and responding to inquiries from all over the country and beyond. I can personally attest to the frustration (all to often taken as attitude) this causes sometimes. It can be so overwhelming... Imagine if you had to be interviewed for a new job every day, where you didn't know the boss…

Unimaginable?! No way by any stretch of the imagination! Indeed I have been told that the scheduling aspects and dealing with clients and potential clients is the most difficult and frustrating aspect of the job. That is precisely the reason many guys prefer to work for an agency. But guess what?! That is true of any business that deals with the public on an appointment basis and requires a meeting of the minds prior to the setting up of an appointment… so it goes with the territory and should not be seen as an excuse. Actually, the most successful escorts out there are the ones who are well organized, best prepared, and have the patience to deal with the "other" more difficult aspects of the profession. Nothing is easy and it does take a special talent to know when to "hold 'em and when the fold'em" so to speak and do it in a respectful manner that won't turn off an individual and potentially harm future business. As the saying goes, "One dissatisfied customer can do more harm that 100 satisfied customers..." It is a balancing act that must be practiced every day in virtually every business.

Now remember that this is coming from a guy who has to make quick decisions and look for the possible disasters before they happen with virtually no information, avoiding the ill matched encounter we are all familiar with; keeping in mind that this very well may be a serious inquiry with the means and intent to follow through.

Again… welcome to the business world! Imagine all the individuals that walk into every establishment every day 365 days of the year… They are the boss, they waste peoples time, they demand the most, and very often no sale is ever made… exact same situation… It’s the nature of the beast!

 

Welcome to the real world!

[Guest RyanCade]

Many of us receive a very large number of emails per day. Somehow, we manage to answer them in a way that is cordial and professional.

 

No matter how busy someone is, there is always a way to answer an email or a call in a way that is friendly and free of attitude. If an escort does not want to answer emails, then that person should not publish an email address. If they do not want to receive phone calls, then they should not list a phone number.

 

I did not completely excuse the gentleman, and I personally don't know if he had a bad attitude or not.. i don't have enough informatiion to know for sure, but from experience i can see a need to at least withhold judgment. and the fact that he is apparently a very good looking stud with good reviews, high regard in the MC I would afford him the same type of tolerance his mother would when she found his trousers in the floor... Boys will be boys shed say as she shook her head and picked his trousers up. I would still go after him, after all I am not asking his hand in marriage.. My point was that there too many variables and evidence of quality to consider here to hall off and pass such harsh judgment. and a clients perspective is of utmost importance i welcome and appreciate your contribution.... Exchanging opinions, even very strong ones is a good thing..

[Boston Guy]

You are correct in that it can be difficult to know exactly how a situation unfolded and exactly how one would have reacted in that situation. However, having said that, I have received my fair share of email responses from escorts that arrive days after my initial inquiry and which consist of one or two words. Following up on these emails generally results in yet another fairly unfriendly email; it's the exception by far for the communication to improve on the second go-around.

 

Recently, I sent an email to an escort several days prior to my arrival in Los Angeles. The email was simple, short, polite and to the point. It stated that I would be arriving on Friday afternoon, was interested in meeting, would be staying at such and such hotel, etc. I received no reply so I made other plans for my stay on the west coast. About ten days later, I received a one-word email from the escort: "Yes". I had no idea what the "yes" was in response to. Nevertheless, I sent back an email explaining that I was no longer on the west coast but thanking him for his reply and telling him that I'd try to contact him again in advance of my next trip to LA, which would likely be in a month. Several days later I again received a one-word email from him: "Whatever".

 

Need I say more?

 

BG

[Troyster]

If you don't have time or interest .....

 

Don't reply

 

No reply is better than a short one without any sense of any interest.

 

And sending one lousy picture does not help .... and when you are called out on it don't say that's all you got. Big turn off.

 

Shows you are just a little prick indisguise!

[Guest RyanCade]

wow

 

Exactly... it just takes some effort.

 

i am aware of the effort it takes , as I am a believer in business and the imperative need to be professional and well mannered in ANY situation.

 

 

… It’s the nature of the beast!

 

Welcome to the real world!

 

 

Am I misinterpreting or does this inflect a bit of sarcasm and or hostility? if invoked by me I'll apologize now, as I was simply sharing my opinion and point of view.. i have no attachment to this guy hiring the guy or for that matter how he walks away feeling about the very limited interaction that has been followed by this overreaction.

[Troyster]

Sorry meant to say thank you to everyone who did reply and the spirit of the replies.

 

I am very tempted to call out the guy and make him "respond" for his behavoir but I will not stoop to his level.

 

Simply I will say he is a guy who gets good reviews in NYC, was recommended by a friend who had hired him and is a name that pops up here fairly regularly. I don't think he is actually on this board ... maybe he can not read and that was the problem with his emails. ..... ouch low blow

 

PS I don't think I kept the messages but I don't think he offered his phone number either. I just don't think he was into it ....... I emailed a second guy off the board and he never replied and I simply said oh well he must be busy. As I said no reply is better than a meaningless one.

[Guest RyanCade]

You are correct in that it can be difficult to know exactly how a situation unfolded and exactly how one would have reacted in that situation. However, having said that, I have received my fair share of email responses from escorts that arrive days after my initial inquiry and which consist of one or two words. Following up on these emails generally results in yet another fairly unfriendly email; it's the exception by far for the communication to improve on the second go-around.

 

Recently, I sent an email to an escort several days prior to my arrival in Los Angeles. The email was simple, short, polite and to the point. It stated that I would be arriving on Friday afternoon, was interested in meeting, would be staying at such and such hotel, etc. I received no reply so I made other plans for my stay on the west coast. About ten days later, I received a one-word email from the escort: "Yes". I had no idea what the "yes" was in response to. Nevertheless, I sent back an email explaining that I was no longer on the west coast but thanking him for his reply and telling him that I'd try to contact him again in advance of my next trip to LA, which would likely be in a month. Several days later I again received a one-word email from him: "Whatever".

 

Need I say more?

 

BG

 

Sounds VERY familiar however I do not recall nor do I find any reason from what you just said that I would have responded that way even in my worst moments.. I don't often find myself able to simply send a on e word reply.. I do know my emails got out of control but don't recall feeling any angst at all during my trip that would warrant such a response. if you would private me with your email address and I will research and publicly hold myself accountable if indeed such an email was sent (without provocation).. so the answer is yes I would like public clarity and closure on this, maybe just maybe I am guilty of some misinterpretation I feel this thread is the result of.. However, I wouldn't see one sharing his opinion reason for a public attack as you have ensued.. as of this moment I do not recall and why would I be hostile for no reason....

[Boston Guy]

I'm very sorry if I implied that the escort in question was yourself; it was not. I was simply trying to relate a recent email experience from a client's point of view. The experience I related was recent but by no means the only example of poor-to-non-existent email responses from escorts.

 

At this point, I expect a poor response when emailing an escort. Consequently, when an escorts responds with a friendly, helpful email I am immediately inclined to like the guy.

 

BG

[Guest RyanCade]

I respectfully withdraw,there are mean people here, the end of this thread should have been as predictable as the end of the inquiry... and I bit the hook.. I would love to share with you how this really makes me feel, but someone advised me

 

 

Never wallow in the mud with _disrespectful people_cause you get

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dirty and the __disrespectful person__ likes it

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Peace

[Boston Guy]

If you are referring to any comment that I have made, then there has been a misunderstanding. I thought that we were discussing the general subject of email communications between an escort and a client. As I stated above, I was not at any time referring to any action or communication that you have made.

 

If I have offended you in any way, then I apologize and ask only that you tell me how I have offended you.

 

BG

[whipped guy]

Exactly... it just takes some effort.

i am aware of the effort it takes , as I am a believer in business and the imperative need to be professional and well mannered in ANY situation.

… It’s the nature of the beast! Welcome to the real world!

Am I misinterpreting or does this inflect a bit of sarcasm and or hostility? if invoked by me I'll apologize now, as I was simply sharing my opinion and point of view.. i have no attachment to this guy hiring the guy or for that matter how he walks away feeling about the very limited interaction that has been followed by this overreaction.

Shoot Ryan! Nothing personal and really no sarcasm or hostility involved!!! Really!!! That's not my style! I am sorry if you took things personally as that was not my intention. I was simply speaking from experience… and certainly was not implying anything about you personally. It is just that you happened to be the guy with the guts to respond… and as I mentioned above that is a good thing… Plus, as I also noted above it is good to get the perspective from the “other side”.

 

It is just that everything that you mention applies to many other professions and businesses… and hence is part of the real world that customers and businesses deal with drudgingly on a daily basis... not just members of the oldest profession... and at times it is frustrating, and difficult to deal with… worse than pulling teeth... believe me when I say that. Trying to strike a happy medium and not loose potential business is a difficult thing... Not all potential customers are desirable or a perfect match... and that is a two way street. In many instances the client should for his own benefit look elsewhere... That’s why in the final analysis I noted that it was most likely all for the best that the meeting never came to fruition. It is just that a skilled and more perceptive working guy would have done so in a manner that would have not left a bad taste in a potential client’s mouth.

 

Just to see where I am coming from, this past year I submitted a lengthy review where I spent more time extolling the virtues of the escorts email correspondence and the intelligence of his writing than I spent on the seemingly more important aspects of the session. His cogent, coherent, and logical style all neatly arranged into paragraphs is what actually sealed the deal for me… It was in fact so refreshing that it literally blew my mind… and insured the guy actually cared and shared my philosophy that one should treat a client better than they would expect to be treated. Interestingly, by having such a reasoned discussion we both realized that this basically vanilla escort and this "unconventional" client would be compatible… and believe you me when I say that I have scared away an escort or two… or even three... and have been on the receiving end of many one word rejections!!!

 

Now you Ryan (of all people!) who has quoted Schopenhauer and Einstein in this forum would be the last person I would suspect to treat someone badly and or communicate in one word replies… at times one might need to get firm… but I see you as a guy who knows the meaning of respect. I also see you sharing articulate and reasoned thoughts with potential clients to ensure a successful meeting.

That you expressed your frustrations simply means that you are a real guy who is part of the real world… really!!

[Guest RyanCade]

 

 

 

Shoot Ryan! Nothing personal and really no sarcasm or hostility involved!!! Really!!! That's not my style! I am sorry if you took things personally as that was not my intention. I was simply speaking from experience… and certainly was not implying anything about you personally. It is just that you happened to be the guy with the guts to respond… and as I mentioned above that is a good thing… Plus, as I also noted above it is good to get the perspective from the “other side”.

 

It is just that everything that you mention applies to many other professions and businesses… and hence is part of the real world that customers and businesses deal with drudgingly on a daily basis... not just members of the oldest profession... and at times it is frustrating, and difficult to deal with… worse than pulling teeth... believe me when I say that. Trying to strike a happy medium and not loose potential business is a difficult thing... Not all potential customers are desirable or a perfect match... and that is a two way street. In many instances the client should for his own benefit look elsewhere... That’s why in the final analysis I noted that it was most likely all for the best that the meeting never came to fruition. It is just that a skilled and more perceptive working guy would have done so in a manner that would have not left a bad taste in a potential client’s mouth.

 

Just to see where I am coming from, this past year I submitted a lengthy review where I spent more time extolling the virtues of the escorts email correspondence and the intelligence of his writing than I spent on the seemingly more important aspects of the session. His cogent, coherent, and logical style all neatly arranged into paragraphs is what actually sealed the deal for me… It was in fact so refreshing that it literally blew my mind… and insured the guy actually cared and shared my philosophy that one should treat a client better than they would expect to be treated. Interestingly, by having such a reasoned discussion we both realized that this basically vanilla escort and this "unconventional" client would be compatible… and believe you me when I say that I have scared away an escort or two… or even three... and have been on the receiving end of many one word rejections!!!

 

Now you Ryan (of all people!) who has quoted Schopenhauer and Einstein in this forum would be the last person I would suspect to treat someone badly and or communicate in one word replies… at times one might need to get firm… but I see you as a guy who knows the meaning of respect. I also see you sharing articulate and reasoned thoughts with potential clients to ensure a successful meeting.

 

That you expressed your frustrations simply means that you are a real guy who is part of the real world… really!!

 

I was pretty sure I should not expect that from you either. Thank you, and you are correct that's not like me and I am prepared to make clear if indeed i did which will shock will completely suprize me... and considering the wide range of possibilities I will leave it alone... I wanna go to bed... the mc can really be hard on the heart for escorts...

[whipped guy]

the mc can really be hard on the heart for escorts...

Well it has always been obvious that you have a heart!!!

[Boston Guy]

I was pretty sure I should not expect that from you either. Thank you, and you are correct that's not like me and I am prepared to make clear if indeed i did which will shock will completely suprize me... and considering the wide range of possibilities I will leave it alone... I wanna go to bed... the mc can really be hard on the heart for escorts...

 

Have you considered that you might be reading into responses here that which is not there? Since you have not responded to my post, I assume that you were referring to me when you said that "there are mean people here." Yet, I have apologized twice for any inadvertent offense that I may have given you, for none was or is intended.

 

When all communication is through words, one must constantly be alert to the possibility that one is misinterpreting what another poster is writing. If you feel that you have received a slight or that someone has been acting "mean", may I kindly suggest that before taking it to heart, you ask the other poster if you are understanding their comment correctly.

 

BG

[Guest RyanCade]

THANK you and I apologize, maybe I have come to expect an attack.. but I did have an exchange very similar actually mirror image with the exception of the "whatever" and my "yes" was followed with please check out my web page you will find useful information there.. I am really going to bed now..

 

Respectfully

[Boston Guy]

Ryan, I hope you have a good night. Perhaps tomorrow will be a better day.

 

I see no reason for any of us to attack each other here in the MC. Whether escorts or clients, we have many reasons to support each other and much to gain from offering each other that support. This community is comprised of many different people with many differing points of view but that is a strength and not a weakness. We need to be able to discuss any subject and agree or disagree without resorting to personal attacks, for personal attacks weaken us all and are almost always unfair and unwarranted.

 

I'll apologize yet again for anything that I said that may have led you to believe that I was attacking you. Nothing was further from my mind. I found your posts thoughtful and I enjoyed reading what you had to say.

 

BG