Communication Problems

[clive101]

I just need to ask an escort or a client if they continue to engage a client or escort after realizing you cannot meet. Since I cannot host for personal reasons I will look for escorts that offer an incall. If it is not stated in their ad I will e-mail, call or inquire in a manner that directly states my intent. Often the escort will just say they don't have that option and I move on to another person. Then there are those tell me maybe and give me all their info and tell me to respond back. Eventually, when I try to set a date they never seem to be able do to an incall. Why lead me along? I let them know I can't host at my home or hotel in order to be discreet yet they still try and it wastes my time and theirs. Does this happen to others? And does anybody have any insight of what I might be doing wrong?

[Guest greatness]

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I don't think it's you. Do not take it personally. Just as I am sensitive about my privacy, they are too. I have nosy neighbors so I rarely ask escorts come to my place. Maybe the escort you are referring to has the same problem. There are escorts who do incalls while they are staying at hotels so look for them.

 

I just need to ask an escort or a client if they continue to engage a client or escort after realizing you cannot meet. Since I cannot host for personal reasons I will look for escorts that offer an incall. If it is not stated in their ad I will e-mail, call or inquire in a manner that directly states my intent. Often the escort will just say they don't have that option and I move on to another person. Then there are those tell me maybe and give me all their info and tell me to respond back. Eventually, when I try to set a date they never seem to be able do to an incall. Why lead me along? I let them know I can't host at my home or hotel in order to be discreet yet they still try and it wastes my time and theirs. Does this happen to others? And does anybody have any insight of what I might be doing wrong?

[Romann]

Clive101-

 

First off, I'm sorry that such situations have happened to you and also others on and off the forum as well. If a potential client is clearly stating their full desire to have an In Call but at the end of the day an In Call isn't an option then everyone loses.

 

Honestly, I don't think it's you based on the information you have provided. I can only speak for myself but I will clearly state in my ads that I accept both In and Out Calls. Though that's under the assumption that everything advertised is accurate... The best advise I would give you is to keep stating in your initial email your full intent as you have been and reiterate it one or two times in future correspondence.

 

I hope this helps.

[jackcali]

Yes, this happens to me often, especially with less experienced escorts. I always tell escorts in the first communication that I'm looking for them to host. (I don't ever host because of nosy doormen and neighbors, worries about a new guy being a thief, etc.). I don't think they're thinking that they're wasting time. Instead, they're engaging in a bit of magical thinking that somehow I'll change my mind or their roommates (who don't know they escort) will decide to leave town at exactly the time that I want to meet. Yes, it's annoying, but it's just part of the territory.

[clive101]

Thanks guys for your input it'll help in the future. I tend to go for traveling guys because they can host but my type don't tend to travel here much. Unfortunately, the guys I go for tend to only do outcalls.

 

I made that post thinking maybe others go through the same experience and can use the same advice or would like to vent.

[BaronArtz]

I do also prefer working with escorts who offer incalls. Have you tried finding a hotel or a motel near you that offers discounted rates for a short term stay? It may add $50-60 to the overall cost, but it could be worth it ...

 

I don't know where you live, but if you happen to be in NYC, I recommend the St Marks Hotel for this purpose. It's clean and discrete. And by all means, always pay cash if discretion is a must.