Question for experienced clients

[justaguy]

Hi. I'm new to hiring escorts. So far I've stuck to those who are well reviewed. I've noticed in a few of the threads references to rip offs, muggings, and police stings. Are these really a problem? If so, how do you avoid them when the guy isn't reviewed? Thanks.

[Businessguy]

Daddy's is your best insurance

 

You've already given yourself the answer. Stick with escorts who have been positively reviewed by clients who have posted more than one review. Daddy's provides an invaluable service - a clearing house of sorts - and there are many guys to chose from. Hiring someone who has never been reviewed makes the risks go up.

If you choose to go the unreviewed route, find a guy who is listed on more than one of the escort sites, meet first in a public place for extra security and always take the advice of that little voice in your head that is saying "something about this doesn't add up" and head for the door. Better to suck another day.....

[josephga]

Don't hire anyone off the craigslist unless they can show you ads from other sites they advertise with. Avoid the craiglist exclusives. Don't talk about services and money in the same conversation what they charge and offer should be listed on their site.

[+ Charlie]

Rip-offs, muggings and police stings

 

I started hiring more than thirty years ago, before there were reviews or websites about escorts (because there was no Internet!), and I have never experienced any of the problems you asked about. That doesn't mean they don't happen, but I don't think they are commonplace. Police stings may still take place in smaller towns, but are rarely an issue anymore in large cities, where most escorts--as opposed to hustlers--do business. You are probably more likely to get mugged in the parking lot at Wal-Mart than in your bedroom or hotel room by an escort, since escorts nowadays have a financial investment in their business, and are too easy to trace after a crime, as opposed to a street hustler or a free bar pick-up. The rip-off, which is somewhat harder to define and is often in the eye of the beholder, is the real problem. If someone takes the money but doesn't perform at all, that is clearly a rip-off, but many clients feel cheated if the escort is not as he represents himself (i.e., doesn't look like his photos or written description), does not do what he is expected to do sexually or doesn't do it well, or is in and out in less time than he contracted for (the latter is probably the most common complaint). The best compensation for that is to write a review detailing your complaints.

 

The best way to avoid problems is to hire well-reviewed escorts; to speak with any escort beforehand about your expectations (don't just go by what a reviewer said he did); to stop the appointment right at the beginning if he doesn't look like the guy you thought you were hiring, or he appears drunk or high (and YOU should not be drunk or high, either); and to trust your gut if it tells you that something isn't right. Don't have more money or valuables with you than you can afford to lose. Don't pay upfront unless you are sure you are with someone reliable. If you are nervous, meet him in a neutral public place first to make sure you are comfortable with him, and with the situation.

 

There are probably several other cautions I could give, but you get the picture: if you are sensible, there is not much to fear.

[justaguy]

Thanks for your comments.

 

Thanks. Sometimes even common sense needs to be validated. Now that I actually have time to do somthing other than work, I was feeling like the kid in the candy store until the negatives started cropping up. Ouch. Kinda of like losing your innocence, again. Thanks again for your comments. Time to get back to shopping.

[Guest greatness]

I would also go well reviewed guys here

 

If you are hiring for the first time go with the well reviewed escorts here. You can also post here about the person who lacks reviews and other posters will provide you with their thoughts. Good luck! I had a couple of bad experiences but I think it happens to everybody no matter what.

 

Hi. I'm new to hiring escorts. So far I've stuck to those who are well reviewed. I've noticed in a few of the threads references to rip offs, muggings, and police stings. Are these really a problem? If so, how do you avoid them when the guy isn't reviewed? Thanks.

[Boston Guy]

I think Charlie has it just about right, which is no surprise -- he usually does.

 

I'll only add that I do hire guys from Craigslist, especially in cities where I haven't found someone else I want to hire. I do so carefully and listen to my gut. If something doesn't feel right, then I just assume that it isn't and move on. But I've been quite lucky and have never yet had a problem with someone I've hired from Craigslist.

 

BG

[Bart]

The least of the concerns should be a police situation provided you use good common sense. Not paying up front usually helps here as most cops wont go through the actual sex.

 

Scammers common sense is really the best solution, dont pay up front unless well known guy. Follow you own set of rules. As soon as you deviate that's when you have your best chance to be taken.

 

Theft dont take valuables with you or personal identification.

 

Rip-off if guy does not match the pictures or appears drunk or on drugs ask him to leave.

 

I would say your biggest problem on the first hire is a bad experience. The guy is real and performs but you are left unsatisfied. This is mostly from your inexperience and inability to express your want desires effectively upfront. This is part of the learning curve. I would say try to be consise and clear to the gentleman what you want and be sure to get a clear answer from him that he will provide what you desire.

 

Reviews are not foolproof. There was just a thread on this subject. Be clear on what you desire. I would temper your expectations first time through. You will be nervous and best guys will be very helpful but you may be working off of a fantasy rather than an actual experience which may not turn out exactly as planned just be prepared to make applesauce to get the most enjoyment. Also consider a two hour appt for first time. This will allow you some get to know time that you may not need otherwise. You would be amazed how fast an hour can go.

[Edward]

Reviews are not always reflective

 

Escorts are human. Just because an escort reacted favorable to one client does not mean they will reacte to you the same. However, the review is the best we have. Don't be afraid to ask questions up front as to what services the escort will provide and the service fee involved.

[Epigonos]

Damn Justaguy can I relate to what you are currently experiencing. I never ventured into the world of escorting or even, for that matter, into the open gay world. I taught for many years in an extremely conservative school district and was concerned about jeopardizing both my job and my pension. Once I retired, in 2002, I went through a period where I was traveling from the East Coast to the West Coast and from the Canadian Border to the Mexican border playing with escorts of every age and color as long as they had bodies to dies for. Like you I felt exactly like a kid in a candy store.

 

I was also, like you, extremely fortunate to discover this web site. With the information I found here I can honestly say I have NEVER has a bad experience. I have had some experiences that were less than outstanding but they weren’t really bad. I recommend you use sites like rentboy and menforrentnow for eye candy and, if and when, you find a guy who interests you there you make certain to cross reference him here. I would recommend that you start out with well establish escorts who have multiple POSITIVE reviews. As you gain experience you will become more adventuresome and I guarantee you are going to have some fantastic experiences.

[justaguy]

LOL I'm not sure I'm ready to go coast to coast. While I like the idea of an all you can eat buffet, I've also kinda maybe accepted the wisdom of moderation. Now that I'm not a 20 something anymore, the focus has shifted from quantity to quality. Luckily, thanks in large part to this place, I know there's lots of great quality out there. I won't be going hungry any time soon.

[bobchitown]

One more piece of advise - if something doesn't feel right don't go through with the session. Obviously, cancel politely, but sometimes you can just tell from the tone of the e-mail of phone conversation that something isn't right. I'm sure escorts have this same experience in reverse - sometime they can tell the client is a creep, or high, or whatever.