How would you know your gay, if.........

[Guest Thunderbuns]

Was watching CNN tonight and saw a discussion about two, deaf from birth, lesbians who were trying to have one of them conceive a deaf baby. This started a wierd train of thought, namely, How would you know your gay, if you had been born BLIND?

 

A huge componant of sexual attraction is the visual. For example, I prefer the rugged jaw line of a masculine male over the softer face of a female. I prefer abs to tits. I prefer tight, rounded bubblebutts to flat and wide female butts. And thick powerful thighs get sighs as opposed to celulite city.

 

Now lets suppose I was born blind. I would be able to see none of the above. Sure, I know that I could touch and discover the differance but initially it is what you see that turns you on and makes you want to explore further.

 

What is it that crystalizes the sexuality for those that can't see?

 

Any thoughts?

 

Thunderbuns

[Guest Ant415]

<What is it that crystalizes the sexuality for those that can't see? >

 

Maybe a nice voice, kindness, nice smell, good heart, gentle touch, intelligence, guidance, and of course a hard cock.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

>Was watching CNN tonight and saw a discussion about two,

>deaf from birth, lesbians who were trying to have one of

>them conceive a deaf baby.

 

That's sick and twisted.

 

Emphatically yours,

 

FFF

[guyinsf]

Does anyone know a gay, blind man? It would be interesting to get a perspective from someone like that.

 

It seems to me, however, that sight is just one aspect of what makes me attracted to a man. I knew I was gay before I started looking at men (or other boys) and finding them attractive. I had my first "boyfriend" in 2nd grade (the minister's son!). Imagine my mom's horror when she found us exchanging Cracker Jack rings, hidden behind a table during a school assembly! This relationship was not overtly sexual, but I think we were on the same wavelength as a boy/girl couple might have been at that same age. I also remember around the same age that I was uncomfortable whenever my family suggested that I must like some particular girl because I knew my feelings towards girls were different than boys. I became friends with many girls and some boys, but the emotional connection with certain males was definitely different than anything I felt toward any girl.

 

Fast forward a couple of years. I remember reading about a male singer/songwriter who was openly gay and whose music reflected that. (No, not Boy George; this was a decade prior to that.) I remember reading that and finally realizing: That's me, that's what seems different to me (about me) than my male friends. (Alas, the minister's family moved away and I hadn't developed that same kind of relationship with another boy.)

 

I came out a few years before I had sex with anyone (at 16 years old), or even kissed anyone. Yes, by this time I was looking at men in a sexual way, but not yet acting on it.

 

So, to get around more specifically to your question, I would think that a blind gay man might come to that realization because of his internal fantasy life and feelings, which could be related to the sound of other men's voices, the quality of his interactions with men versus women, the touch of a man's flesh.

[+ Charlie]

I don't think I'm the only one who is turned on by masculine smells, so it's conceivable that a blind man might be conditioned by them to be attracted to men (especially if sexual orientation does contain a strong genetic programming component, as seems more and more likely).