Doms and Submissives

[Hrothgar]

I've played both roles and have always found this to be a lot of fun, but I'm not into anything seriously painful, dangerous, or indiscreet. I'm interested in any thoughts, ideas, or suggestions regarding this.

 

As a dom, I usually make the sub strip first while I leave my clothes on, so I can "inspect" him. He must stand with his hands behind his back while I play with his nipples, cock, balls. Next I have him kneel with his head down so I get a good view of the ass, and might use a butt plug.

 

If I'm using bondage, I'll tie the sub, and then strip in front of him, followed by more touching and fondling. Tying the sub on his back on a bed allows me to use his mouth.

 

Other times I just get lazy and sit back and relax and have the sub use his mouth everywhere.

[guptasa1]

Mmm...hot.

 

I, like you, now consider myself switch.

 

Historically I've only been a sub, but unfortunately my "thing" is to be with hot boys (twinky ones) who like to be in control, and that's very difficult to find - only experienced a little bit of that a few times. (I like sweet but sensuously sadistic doms...not the real rough stuff - doms who like to show whose boss but comfort afterwards). Still looking for more experiences like that - I have a lot of fantasies I'd like to explore in being a submissive, but I really need to find the right person and my specific type to be comfortable and turned on by it (one escort was exceptional at this with me, but he retired).

 

So lately, I've also been wanting to try out being a dom with more submissive twinky bois, which seem a lot easier to find. I don't have a very assertive personality and I'm actually a very gentle person, but I think I could do pretty well as long as I knew up front that the other person was turned on by being submissive. I'd be best at being a sensually sadistic but sweet dom.

 

I like things (on both ends) like humiliation (verbal), lots of teasing and touching, tickling, spanking, toys, and cum control games (probably also watersports, though I haven't tried that yet and would only be interested if both parties were into it). It's a huge turn on for me to work someone up and keep 'em nice and horny for a while without letting them release until the very end. Sadly I have a nice flogger, nipple clamps, and some bondage equipment I haven't gotten to use yet, but I'm hopeful. *grins* I also think it'd be really hot to comfort and snuggle after a hot session as well.

[johnnybrk25]

I've found a lot of guys who really love being dominated by a "twinky" type of guy. There seems to be an extra erotic charge in a sort of flip scenario. Where the sub looking guy turns the tables on the dom. Its also a sort of social rule breaking. The bigger guy is supposed to be in charge, when he isn't its almost subversive. I find this adds a little bit more zing to the entire scene.

[Hrothgar]

I'm an older guy (54), and it's not as easy for me to picture being a submissive to a twink. I picture the dom being older than the sub and very experienced at his craft, expert with his touch, and with his dildos, plugs, whips, clamps, etc., using a combination of seduction and control to put the submissive totally in his power. He speaks quietly, but with authority while instructing the sub, as if knowing the sub has no choice but obedience.

 

And I can easily submit to a dom like this, though I haven't had many chances.

[Guest rover]

OK bois, you're talking my game! I have trained several hott twinks to dominate me and we've taken it very far. They really tell me it's hot for them to dominate an older, defined guy. I've been seeing this 5'8" undergrad from LA since May and have bought him 2 pairs of motorcycle boots and armbands, etc. These guys usually posted an ad for a week or so and ended up not enjoying escorting as much as they thought so I haven't reviewed them at their request. There's nothing, for me at least, as hot as being under the boot, literally, of a lean, smooth twink with a riding crop in one hand and his hard cock in the other. They've even bought toys on their own to use in our sessions. Like you, I just can't get interested in the older, muscled masters. They're a real turn-off. I guess that's why I do this, so I can get exactly what I want.

 

I wouldn't broach this the first time you meet a twink, other than to say that you like role play and being a bottom. Last week I actually had a guy go pretty far and gave him a pair of brand new 16" Cherokee boots as a tip.

 

There are two hot blond bois (one from ATL and one from PHX) that I plan to fly in for dom training. I'm hopelessly addicted LOL

 

BTW--normally I'm a top, so the role-reversal is a fairly new thing for me.

[guptasa1]

Hehe - lucky! I have to use some restraint for financial reasons in flying guys to me. I found a really cute and sweet (though top) boi who's really good to be with not far from me, though I'm not sure yet if he's open to being dom - my first time with him was vanilla. I may try and broach the subject a bit more next time since hopefully he's now comfy with me and knows I'm for real. Nice to know I'm not alone in my particular fantasy tho'.