What the escort likes

[Epigonos]

It is equally important to me that the escort with whom I am spending time enjoys what I am doing to him as much as I enjoy what he is doing to me. Is this a legitimate expectation and if so how does one convey ones sincerity regarding this matter? Sometimes I get the feeling when I mention this that the escort isn't really convinced of my sincerity.

[Guest zipperzone]

>It is equally important to me that the escort with whom I am

>spending time enjoys what I am doing to him as much as I enjoy

>what he is doing to me. Is this a legitimate expectation and

>if so how does one convey ones sincerity regarding this

>matter? Sometimes I get the feeling when I mention this that

>the escort isn't really convinced of my sincerity.

 

I feel the say way. Funny, but I seem to get satisfaction by GIVING satisfaction more so than RECEIVING it, Go figure......

[guptasa1]

I'm the same way. Love to make the guy I'm with happy and satisfied.

 

Personally, I think the best way to convince them is to just try your best to do it and make sure they're happy (sexually and otherwise). Mentioning that's important to you when you contact 'em can't hurt, but showing them should be the real clincher. LOL.

[+ Axiom2001]

Men, I haven't had too many problems in enjoying myself sexually when I am with an escort. When I've made my email or telephone appointments, I usually convey at that time what I am interested in. And thus far, this has worked.

 

During my last date, while the scort and I were in bed in a tight embrace and kissing deeply and intermittently, the guy asked me what I liked and/or liked to do. I relayed my desires and wishes to him, but in return, I told him (as seductively as possible) that I'd really like to fuck him (Although the guy purports to be a versatile top and has NEVER been fucked.)! I think that got him hotter.

 

But to make a long response shorter-- I'd just state my desires (if necessary) in advance and hope for the better. My last two dates have really been into it, thus pleasing me! I hope that I did likewise! Both consented in seeing me again, and both fellows wrote some hot emails afterwards!

[Juan Vancouver]

Giving pleasure is almost as alluring as receving it...

 

ONe of the best lessons that I learnt as an escort, was sometime before becoming one...

I was horny as hell, and I called this marvelous escort back home. From the moment he walked into the room, till the moment he left, he made me feel like such an amazing lover... I was absolutely sure that he liked what I was doing, and when he didnt, he would advise trying this or that... until he was moaning like a cat! That totally changed my view about escorting.

 

Now, being an escort, as soon as I meet a client, I try to find the things that turn me on about him. (His eyes, his hands, his cock, his passion, his intelligence... there is always really hot in everyone of us) I instruct him how to give me more pleasure, and I focus on HIS enjoyment as if it was my own.

 

I know how there are escorts who say that they will never "enjoy" with a client, because that makes them feel that they are "protecting" their soul. They go to amazing expenses to fake it, and make them believe that they too are enjoying.

Personally, I believe that if I am not enjoying my work, I should stop doing it right now and find something that I love. I LOVE to have good sex... I LOVE to give pleasure... I LOVE to receive it, and I LOVE to be able to (even for a second) be vulnerable and show my real ability to enjoy, love and passionately be alive.

 

It is good to read that there are clients out there who focus also on the escort's enjoyment. After all, real passion and enjoyment can only occur when both partners are mantaining that fine balance; focusing in the other's as well as in one's pleasure.

 

Happy pleasing!

[orlandoguy]

RE: Giving pleasure is almost as alluring as receving it...

 

>Personally, I believe that if I am not enjoying my work, I

>should stop doing it right now and find something that I love.

> I LOVE to have good sex... I LOVE to give pleasure... I LOVE

>to receive it, and I LOVE to be able to (even for a second) be

>vulnerable and show my real ability to enjoy, love and

>passionately be alive.

>

>It is good to read that there are clients out there who focus

>also on the escort's enjoyment. After all, real passion and

>enjoyment can only occur when both partners are mantaining

>that fine balance; focusing in the other's as well as in one's

>pleasure.

>

>Happy pleasing!

>

>

Juan's reply is one of the most touching I've read in a long time. If I were in Vancouver, I'd make a point to hire him this very minute, and give him all the pleasure I possibly could. What a wonderful attitude! On behalf of clients who appreciate escorts and who appreciate giving pleasure to escorts as part of the whole experience, THANK YOU!

 

I've always believed in trying to have the escort enjoy himself as well -- and, generally I truly believe practically every one I've been with has. I enjoy giving pleasure -- and, I always make it clear upfront that I want the escort to have a good time...because, if he's not having a good time, then I'm not either. There's only been a few who have made it clear they're strictly there for the business, "passive" to get me off and that's it. Needless to say, I've never gone with them again. We need more with attitudes like Juan in Vancouver. Thanks again, Juan for a great reply.

 

Wayne in Orlando, FL

[seeker630]

RE: Giving pleasure is almost as alluring as receving it...

 

Nothing ruins the experince for me faster than the feeling that the escort isn't enjoying the experience too.

 

I've always felt that good escort can appear to have fun with anyone; a *great* escort CAN have fun with anyone.

 

Hmm - looks like Juan is approaching greatness!

[arthur]

I agree in general with the essence of the previous replies to this posting. I try to let the escort know in advance at least in general terms what I like and use his initial response and its tone as kind of an initial screening process. If this seems promising, I may go ahead and book a definite appointment.

 

Without question, if the escort at least seems to be enjoying our time together, I definitely feel much more satisfied myself even though I'm paying him for his time and services. For this reason, I am more inclined to book return appointments with escorts I've already been with and with whom I've already had a great time rather than to look for somebody new.

 

I especially enjoy checking the "Escorts Travels" section of this messageboard to see if any of my favorites might be visiting my city again sometime soon.

ag

[Juan Vancouver]

RE: Giving pleasure is almost as alluring as receving it...

 

Hey guys;

Thanks for your kind comments. That's what makes this work worth it. This in itself is the best encouragement one can dream to get. :-)

[Guest rohale]

This is a really nice thread. In all honesty, when I meet an escort, I never really have any expectaions or guidelines, other than to make sure it's safe sex. Just making the arrangements of a meeting place and once that is complete, then to stay on top of things is a very tough task, to the say the least. I dont walk in with any pre-conceived notions. For me, improvisation seems to work best. The irony is that with this type of approach, everything just seems to fall into place.

 

Even before I meet the person I'm seeing, I never think about what we'll talk about or what things I plan on doing. It just never crosses my mind, I'm more worried about making sure that I'm on time to pick up the person I'll be seeing, as opposed to being giddy. Even when there is that level of excitement of seeing the escort, simultaneously, I worry about did I leave any unfinished business at home. Did I forget to run an errand, or was there a friend or family that I was supposed to call back, but forget to do so. It's only when that moment of seeing the escort, then everything else becomes secondary or forgotten and the person I'm seeing has 100% my attention.

 

It's a very strange way of doing things, I suppose I've gone a little bit off topic, but then that's always been me. Going against the grain.

 

Rohale

[Epigonos]

Thanks to you all, both escorts and clients, for your well thought out responses to my question. It is great to know that there are other clients out there who agree with me and escorts who appreciate the concept of a client wanting to please and escort.

Thanks again