I've Lost Another 'Buddy' And Didn't Even Know It

[+ Gar1eth]

Ok the story-I met Edgar (a nom de Message Center) in December 2019 off of Growlr.  He was a tall athletic guy. He did competitive cycling. I think he made the 1st contact unless I 'woofed' him first. He was one of the relatively few that even  though he was athletic, he was into  chubby guys like me.
 

Going thru this now I'm looking at old texts from Growlr and old texts on my phone. 
 

Edgar was some type of VP in his company. He would spend part of the year in Arizona and part of the year in New England. He had one of those big trailers like the rockstars travel in. 
 

When we 1st met it must have been a few months before Covid. But then once Covid hit we he still traveled to Texas several times. We mainly talked (texted) around the time of his visits. We probably met 4 or 5 times in 2019/2020, a few times in 2021c and a few times in 2022.
 

Then I hadn't heard from him for several months in 2022c and I contacted him late June 2022. I find out he had had a spontaneous bowel perforation and had been hospitalized. 
 

Then I didn't hear from him for two months. And that August find out he had complications and was back in the hospital. 
 

We texted intermittently after that. Always pretty much instigated by me. Turns out he kept having complications. Our final text was October 2023. He said he had been in the hospital all together 5 months and had had 9 surgeries. I texted again in November of 2023. But I never heard back. 
 

In the meantime I've thought of him-obviously not all the time-but repeatedly. I looked several times on Growlr to see if I could find a new profile. I'm sure I also put his name in a search engine once or twice to see if it popped up that he was working for a new company (his company was being sold at one point, and he wasn't sure about his position being safe).

 

I had thought there was a good chance that he had gotten a new position at a new company, wasn't traveling to Dallas anymore, and saw no real reason to contact me. I mean we texted a bit but mainly he contacted me when he was planning a visit. And once he got ill, there were times he didn't answer back. 
 

Well tonight I was looking at my saved 'friends' on Growlr. I seldom erase people even if I don't see them anymore. And I just decided to put his name in Google Search. It turns out Edgar died in December of 2023 about two months after we last texted. He was supposed to have more surgery either that November or December. I'm assuming either something happened before surgery or maybe complications from the surgery. 
 

I'm just very sad. We weren't friends friends. But oh I don't know.  He was a nice guy. I only knew him peripherally on his visits here to Dallas. But we met multiple times from late 2019 to early 2022, and it's  just a shock. 

Edited Tuesday at 06:07 PM by Gar1eth

[+ purplekow]

Sorry for your loss. As we age, the losses become more frequent and the ability to make new friends or even fwb is limited so each one hits a bit harder.  Once again condolences.  

Edited Saturday at 02:07 AM by purplekow