Grindr meetups

[Starlight77]

So I am getting my feet wet in initiating contact with some Grindr college guys to see who would be up for an arrangement.  I've never done this before outside of rentmen so not sure what the "rules" are...if there are any.    I am talking to one cute guy - we haven't set a first meet up yet but it will get there soon.   But he did ask me how much donation he will get for our first meeting.   I was able to dodge the question saying it depends on how long we meet for.  What would be an acceptable donation for this kind of situation?  Would it be comparable to a provider on rentmen?   It's not like I want to lowball him but I don't want him to take advantage either so just figuring it all out.   you can DM me if you want.  

[56harrisond]

This answer was in a discussion about an overnight with a provider who wouldn't disclose his fee, applies here too.

On 2/22/2025 at 5:26 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

To me, it says a lot about an escort who doesn't know his rates right off the bat.

They ask, you answer.  It should be a black & white discussion.  

If you have to play games or jump through hoops to get a number, that's a red flag.

 

[Starlight77]

6 minutes ago, 56harrisond said:

This answer was in a discussion about an overnight with a provider who wouldn't disclose his fee, applies here too.

 

Thanks for this.   I get it but at the same time he's not a regular provider.  Just a college dude off Grindr.   But at the same time you are right.  I can give him a number and see how he responds to that and maybe a negotiation can happen.   There's something about him not being an experience provider that makes me not want to give him what I would give to regular from rentmen until I discover our chemistry and see what I feel what the meetings will be worth.   

[jackcali]

There are differences in the circumstances of professionals and of college kids that cause the acceptable range of pricing outcomes to expand greatly.  A pro knows what the market is and, if he's trying to make a living out of escorting, he is somewhat constrained by market economics.  On the other hand, the guys you're talking to on Grindr are likely trying to address a temporary cash shortage (temporary could mean while he's in school) and they may not be looking for "market rates" per meeting.  This is particularly true given that an arrangement likely means regular meetings (and payments), which is not necessarily the  case with escorts.  Think of buying retail versus wholesale.  

I've had several such arrangements in the past (and have one currently).  The financial discussion often goes to the aggregate cash needs (the provider is looking for $X a month) and a fee per meeting gets calculated based on that.  One bit of advice.  If you go down this path, keep with a fee per meeting until the arrangement is well-established so that the provider is still incentivized to meet.  A monthly payment makes it easy for the provider to be too busy with school (or whatever) to meet as often as you agreed on. 

Good luck with your efforts.  I've never used Grindr for this purpose, but if I'm in the market again I may ask you for some advice based on your experience.