first time

[Guest topguy8344]

I am considering using an escort for the first time, but I have a question: Do you pay upfront or when the evening is over?

[Boston Guy]

Someplace that's now buried, I created a post called something like 'A client's advice to client's.' It was maybe a week ago and I think it was in the lounge -- you may be able to find it if you are interested. If you haven't hired escorts yet, there might be a tidbit or two there that will help.

 

More specifically, to answer your questions, escorts often ask to be paid up front, especially with new clients. It's often a prelude to a rip-off. I virtually never go along with that, but I do usually have the money visible someplace so it's clear I'm not about to rip anyone off either. It's a fine line.

 

Good luck. I hope you have fun.

[liubit]

I NEVER, EVER, pay up front. I do as Boston Guy: I leave the money on the dresser, plainly visible to the escort, so he knows it's there. Works for me!

[CT Dick]

But, sometimes the escort asks for the money up front and I don't think it is worth setting a negative tone to argue the point.

 

I do believe that by so doing, he is denying the chance for me to add anything extra to the envelope (and I ALWAYS use an envelope). It is probably guaranteeing that I will not use him again either.

 

BTW, Boston Guy's thread on the Lounge entitled "A client's advice for clients" and the companion piece "...for escorts" are must reading, especially for newbies.

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

I recently hired my first escort, and have been with two more since. The first escort told me on the phone when we spoke, that the money should be visible, and that he would take it when he left. He said he tells folks that over the phone so that the session doesn't end with him saying "Gee I need my money."

 

As for the second two I hired, they never mentioned the cash. I simply handed it to them at the very end of the session as they were about to leave.

 

I owuld agree with Boston that sometimes if paid up front you run the risk of being ripped off. From what i have read here, this often happens with SOME agencies where the escort doesn't deliver what was promised, or says it costs more etc.

 

I would suggest you read the reviews here and I think you will find some truly great guys out there. You could even post what town you are in and you will priobably get some great input who might be even better for a first timer.

[Guest regulation]

No reputable escort will ask you to pay up front. If you have any doubts about the custom -- or about any other aspect of the encounter -- it's best to ask the escort about it when you first make the appointment. If you hear anything that makes you uncomfortable during that conversation, don't make the appointment. If when the escort shows up he behaves differently from what was discussed beforehand, show him the door immediately. As you can see from reading reviews by people who were ripped off by escorts in one way or another, virtually all of them chose to disregard such warning signs and proceed with the appointment anyway -- and they ended up regretting it. The whole point of this site is to help you avoid similar mistakes.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

>I NEVER, EVER, pay up front.

>I do as Boston Guy:

>I leave the money on

>the dresser, plainly visible to

>the escort, so he knows

>it's there. Works for me!

>

 

 

But what do you do if he goes over and picks it up before anything begins?

 

I have never paid first and would refuse to do so if asked. I don't pay for my meal before being served.

 

FFF

[Guest LG320126]

Have only once been asked for money up front by an escort in a chat room. After telling him that I would not do that, he said it was acceptable to him if I would at least put it on a table in the room in plain sight and I had no problem with that. I ended up paying him for 2 hours when he only stayed 1 due to the fact that he drove about 45 minutes each way at 1AM to make the appointment. We were both happy campers.

[+ deej]

>No reputable escort will ask you

>to pay up front.

 

That's not quite true, and it's a bad generalization. One of last year's top four on this board usually asks for the money up front. (Particularly with a new client.)

 

I told him I generally don't like that but it led to a fascinating discussion about the times *he's* been ripped off. Including one established client who not only ripped him off for his time (a full weekend), but also for the hotel room. Needless to say THAT relationship is in the dumpster. ;-)

 

The discussion helped us get to know each other better and led to a better experience overall. And, yes, I will hire him again and gladly fork over the cash as I come through the door.

 

There are clients who are as bad as the worst escort and I don't mind easing the escort's comfort level if it's his preferred way of doing business.

 

Now if an escort who DOES NOT have an established reputation asked for it, I might balk.

[Boston Guy]

>But what do you do if

>he goes over and picks

>it up before anything begins?

>

 

It only happened once, with an escort who has a terrible reputation for ripping guys off here. His reputation was so bad that I became intrigued and decided to hire him just for the hell of it. I figured it was worth the chance of getting nothing in return for the money just to satisfy my curiosity.

 

He saw the money and walked over to take it. Because of his reputation, I was ready for this and intervened. Politely but very firmly I told him he could take the money when the hour was up and not before. He smiled kind of sheepishly, as if to acknowledge the game was up, and said ok.

 

I have to say the next hour was well worth the risk and I had a blast. But if I had allowed him to take the money first, I'm not at all certain he wouldn't have left right then.

 

Your question is a good one and displaying the money up-front can pose a risk. But Ann Landers says that no one can take advantage of you without your permission and I think that sort of generally applies here. If someone appeared dangerous or deranged, I'd certainly tell him to take the money and run. But, even in that case, I'd rather have the money readily available just to get of the guy as quickly as possible.

[lokki]

I agree with most of the comments here. Few legitimate escorts ask for the money up front, but one did and he was great and I've seen him many times since. I rarely use an agency any more, because, of the few times I was ripped off, all but one were with an agency. Twice, i ntwo different cities, the money was passed to an associate waiting outside the door, after which the escort did his best to extract more money and left when he felt the well was dry. Once, the guy fooled around for a few minutes,excused himself to "make a call" and disappeared. The nicest and hotest escorts I have eeb with were all independent. Agnecy rip-offs turned me totally against agencies, whereas I started out thinking they would be safer. The only ones I would ever consider using are those continually reviewed positively here.

 

My experience: if you pay up front, prepare to be ripped off and be pleasantly surprised if you're not.