Your advise on a no-show

[CT Dick]

Guys, what do you think:

Via email I made arrangements for an appt. with an established escort, well reviewed on this site. We were set for 10pm Saturday in his city.

 

At 4pm on Friday I call to confirm the appointment, leaving my message and hotel phone number on his answering machine. (The phone number worked - others used it to call me.)

 

At 4pm on Saturday, same thing. I also call at 9pm, 10pm, and 10:30.

 

Monday I email him to find out what happened. On Tuesday I get the email response: "My roommate was mugged and hospitalized. Sorry I missed your call."

 

I was disappointed about missing this escort and pissed about sitting alone in my hotel room at 10pm on a Saturday night.

 

Was I stood up and fed a line? Does the story sound legit? I'm interested in your reading of it.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

LAST EDITED ON Feb-23-01 AT 10:36PM (EST)[p]LAST EDITED ON Feb-23-01 AT 10:34 PM (EST)

 

>

>Was I stood up and fed

>a line? Does the

>story sound legit?

 

In the end it comes down to your judgment of his credibility.

The story maybe plausible -- I don't really know the circumstances necessary to make a judgment. If there is enough to warrant it, I give them the benefit of the doubt. In addition to their story and forthrightness, their track record (reviews), if they have one, should be taken into consideration to obtain some perspective on their credibility.

 

IMHO a no-show for no good reason deserves a negative review... but if there is a good reason then no real problem -- disappointment sure -- but shit happens. And if it happened to me, I would hope the escort would be understanding.

 

My standard might let someone off the hook who did not deserve it, but I'd rather that than give a bad rap to an honest guy who had an unfortunate situation occur.

[Guest SFJEFF]

I agree that a no-show for no good reason deserves a bad review. I was also stood up in San Fran last Friday and the escort didn't call, didn't send an EMail, nothing. And I have a confirmation only 2 hours before the appointment from him that it was confirmed. And I'm ALWAYS good to escorts. So he'll get a bad review. And I've only done 1 so so review and the rest have been great, because I'm choosey.

 

Since he had a story, let it go once, but not the second time.

[Guest Shooter]

While compassion and understanding are probably in order, two things strike me as odd if the details are complete as presented.

 

1) From 4 p.m. Friday (your first call) 'til Tuesday (his e response), he had NO opportunity to call/contact you?! :-( Must have been some mugging!

 

2) He doesn't seem to offer any recompense for, not so much his failure to show, but his failure to make a reasonable attempt to contact you. Even if he was at the hospital the entire time, phones are everywhere!

 

Just my thoughts! Shooter :-)

[Guest reed]

AMEN!!!!!

[Guest MrB]

I agree with Shooter... what's the likelihood of his story being true? If you do decide to write a review, deliver the whole story... anyone who reads it will make up their own mind

 

 

MrB

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

CT Dick, and Shooter

 

 

CT Dick,

 

Upon further reflection on my original post, it occurred to me that it is also possible that your escort may have had a genuine emergency that he did not feel comfortable explaining to you and opted for the mugging story (of course the mugging story may be a true). I can conceive of possible events ocurring that would leave him unable to communicate for a period of time (in response to shooters objection) and that he might not want to publicize. In the end you have to judge his credibility as I mentioned in the first post.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Hmmm... must be going around. I had a no show last week in Colorado Springs. Been waiting to hear from the fellow for a week but nothing... I'm just about ready to pull the trigger on a negative review since I haven't heard from him.

[Justice]

IF his story is true, then I'm not that surprised that he didn't call you. A couple of years ago, my dad was rushed to the hospital because of what turned out to be a medication reaction. (His symptoms resembled those of a heart attack and his doctor told my mom to call 911.) He was hospitalized for over 10 days and I didn't even think about checking my answering machine or voice mail at work until we knew that he was out of danger. (I did leave a message on my boss' voice mail -- at 3:00 a.m. as I was driving to the hospital -- but only because I knew her number by heart.) Escorts normally give clients their cell phone number. Since you can't use cell phones at hospitals, it wasn't that easy for him to check his voice mail.

 

That being said however, his reaction to your messages and e-mails is very odd to say the least. Part of me says that he was worried about his friend and part of me says that he was just feeding you a line. A good escort -- like any other service provider -- normally does just about everything to keep a client happy. I'm VERY surprised that he didn't offer to see you again -- at a reduced rate to make up for you inconvenience. The fact that he didn't is very suspicious.

[Guest Kenny]

"A good escort -- like any other service

provider -- normally does just about everything to keep a client

happy"

 

EXACTLY.From Friday to Saturday night is enough time to make one tel call. I'm a pessimist so, under the circumstances that you described, I wouldn't give him the benefit of the doubt. As a client, if something prevented me from keeping an appointment, I certainly would notify the escort of this as soon as possible. I expect the same from them. As mentioned in a previous posting above, write the review, giving all the details and let the jury decide for themselves.

[+ deej]

>EXACTLY.From Friday to Saturday night is

>enough time to make one

>tel call.

 

IF the escort happens to have your phone number handy. I can see situations where they might not. How many escorts carry their entire phone book everywhere?

 

>I'm a pessimist

>so, under the circumstances that

>you described, I wouldn't give

>him the benefit of the

>doubt.

 

I don't think any of us knows the situation well enough at this point to pass judgement. :-)

 

I find the responses on this thread fascinating. I'm facing a very similar situation only it's an escort I've enjoyed (and reviewed) a couple of times. It's not the first time he's no-showed. The first time he had a damn fine excuse and e-mailed me very apologetically without prompting from me.

 

This time, I had to e-mail him and his excuse is questionable.

 

Will I give him the benefit of the doubt? Yep. He's too cute to stay mad at, and he makes my head spin when we do get together. (And he did Matt's too. ;-))

 

In the end, whether to overlook an occasional no-show is an individual decision and will be different in each situation.

[CT Dick]

Guys, thanks for all your advice.

 

Honestly, those were pretty much the thoughts that bounced around in my head as I debated the incident.

 

I have decided that I will let it drop. I am really pissed that this guy didn't at least call my motel with a message; he had 30 hours. And I resented sitting in my room watching the phone.

 

But, attacking a guy whose partner/roommate was mugged is too low. So, he earns the benefit of my doubt.

 

I appreciate your opinions - it is good to get input on something like this before I make a hasty decision.

[Guest Traveler]

>Guys, what do you think:

>Via email I made arrangements for

>an appt. with an established

>escort, well reviewed on this

>site. We were set

>for 10pm Saturday in his

>city.

>

>At 4pm on Friday I call

>to confirm the appointment, leaving

>my message and hotel phone

>number on his answering machine.

>(The phone number worked -

>others used it to call

>me.)

>

>At 4pm on Saturday, same thing.

> I also call at

>9pm, 10pm, and 10:30.

>

>Monday I email him to find

>out what happened

 

I know I'm responding to this posting a little late, but here's my opinion. This guy had all week-end to contact you with an explanation. Whether his story is true or not, he was rude in not contacting you. If an emergency popped up on your side, wouldn't you have contacted him?

The only excuses I can think of for not contacting you involve not being able to reach a telephone: unconsciousness, incarceration, or being on a life support machine. So either he's rude and telling the truth, or he's rude and lying. If everybody gives the escort the benefit of the doubt, no one will ever be the wiser if he keeps up from the behavior. In addition, the escort may learn something from a bad review--treat your customers like you'd like them to treat you (a simple phone call), and you'll keep up your customer's good will.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Finally heard from the guy after another email query from me...

 

Well, I ve got to say that his reason was very different from any I've seen before. And it also accounts for why I heard nothing for over a week. If it is not truthful then I give him high marks for creativity. My gut feel is that it is a pile of bullshit. The problem is that there is a very very outside chance it might be true but I have no way to even begin to verify it. Yes, very creative....