Using an alternate email address when emailing an escort

[Guest Billyboy]

I often receive an email from a prospective client, who then tells me to email him back at an email address which is different from the one he used to email me.

 

The discretion issue comes up here, so I usually don't respond at all. If they wanted me to reply to that address, why didn't they email me from that address? I'd hate to end up emailing someone who has no idea what's going on.

 

I understand there may be some situations where a client would do this for a reason. But would it be right for me to respond to an alternate email address or is that just asking for trouble?

 

I have thought of replying to them saying that I only reply to the email address which was used for delivery, but what if it is a legitimate circumstance where the client does not want email address at that address for discretionary measures?

 

This has been a tough one for me and it happens a couple times a month at least.

 

From the client's perspective, what is the best way to handle this?

[Michael]

The best thing to do in this kind of situation is to send a short and completely innocent message to the new email address that they gave you.

 

Something like ...

 

"Hi, I got your message, is this the correct email address that you wanted me to reply to?"

 

... and then resume the discussion once they reply and confirm that they know who you are.

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

I always wondered about folks who ask for this. Why don't they just email you from that address to begin with?

 

IMHO I would not send an email to the alternate. Actually, I have worked for various web sites that have a policy which states for instance that if you post on the message boards, that is the name any emails should go to and you can not post an alternate. Just seems to make sense for discretion and saftey.

[Matt_Vancouver]

I have the same thing happen all of the time, I think the reason is because when someone initially chooses to email me,by clicking on the email me link from a site they found me on, it opens up thier default email program automatically. Most people would prefer not to be emailed at these accounts for privacy issues(wife, roomate etc).

Not everyone is technically knowledgable about shortcuts like, copy and paste, so I usually assume that is the reason (cuz they didn't know how else to email me from the other account)...is this making sense?

Anyhow I answer the email, to the address they ask I send to, and include the entire original message, including the original email address they contacted me from. That way if it is someone screwing with a friend, the friend will also know who started it.

I'm having a hard time explaining this, too confusing and i've had far too much cold medicine today....I'm a bit loopy.

matt(sniffle)

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[Losgatan]

I think there's another reason why AOLers may ask someone to reply to a different AOL screen name.

 

Anyone who frequents the chat rooms soon learns to use a different screen name when chatting. That's because any screen name used while chatting is "picked up" by the spammers who deluge it with unwanted mail. There can be dozens of spam messages per day.

 

Rather than wade through all that junk, I simply delete them all and ask that "legitimate" mail be sent to a different screen name.

[Matt_Vancouver]

Why is anyone still on AOL?

matt(anti-everything)

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[Guest SFJEFF]

77,000 new subscribers signed up for AOL in December (their largest month ever) which brings their total to over 24 million.

[+ deej]

>think the reason is because

>when someone initially chooses to

>email me,by clicking on the

>email me link from a

>site they found me on,

>it opens up thier default

>email program automatically.

 

 

You are absolutely correct, Matt, and it's a very astute observation. Another reason for this is people not knowing how to "drive" their e-mail software. I, myself, have from time to time forgotten to change the "from" address on a new message. But rather than request the *escort* change the reply address I change it myself on the next exchange (with an explanation).

 

You do, of course, have to be careful that someone is not setting up a "friend" or messing with someone's head. There are an awful lot of crazies and sickos out there. That's one reason many newsletters (i.e. Talvin DeMachio and Michael Vincenzo) begin with disclaimers such as "You or someone in your household requested this mailing. To be removed... blah, blah, blah"

[Rod Hagen]

Just when I thought I was "above" these types of mistakes-using the incorrect email address-I REALLY screwed up.

 

A few months ago I was talking to mom on the phone about her computer. She was having troubles so I was going to email some steps to her to fix them. Rather than look her up on Outlook's address book, I asked her to recite her email address to me while I had her on the phone and I would type it in .

 

Earlier I had been reading and responding to "Hagen" mail. Well, I guess I am not the world's best multi-tasker, because I typed and sent the email to her without ceasing our conversation. SENT. Sent from "Rod Hagen" of rodhagen.com SHIT

 

During the next five minutes of panic and distracted conversation I prepared to delete everything on my entire webpage, lest she look it up. Out of habit, I checked my mail. The email I had sent to her bounced back. I had typed her email address incorrectly. Thank Christ. I then resent it from her son the engineer, and not her son the Happy Hooker.

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Guest Consultant_online]

LAST EDITED ON Jan-05-01 AT 10:07PM (EST)[p]I then

>resent it from her son

>the engineer, and not her

>son the Happy Hooker.

>

>http://www.rodhagen.com

 

 

I have also had the multiple e-mail address problem when writing to an escort. I have both personal and business e-mail addresses, as part of my business web site. All my e-mail used to get downloaded into one copy of MS Outlook, which is SUPPOSED to separate things into categories, but sometimes would miss. I suspect I have been "no-responsed" by people when I have accidentally switched addresses in the middle of a discussion. (Yes, I have changed the setup.)

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

The same reason almost everyone has a WINTEL box and Bill Gate's software, an entymologist's dream.... and also why the lemming population takes a 'dive' periodically. :-)

 

Just a misinformed Mac hacker...

[Guest EvilSwine]

Jeez...being sick must suck, especially when you're getting up there in years. I agree with you on the email thing, though. In most cases it's the auto feature on Outlook or whatever that opens up a new email when you click a link. Giving an alternate email is definitely something I'd do if there was anyone around that I had to worry about finding out what I was doing.

 

Damn...you're affected by cough medicine? I can't even get a buzz from Xanax.

[Guest EvilSwine]

You should be careful with any newsletters or other spam you get that wasn't requested, too. Sometimes someone who's purchased a list sends out a test message to see who responds with a "remove" request. That way they are able to update a list and find out what addresses are still good. You never really are removed.....

[Guest N]

Matt hit the nail on the head!! Sometimes others are able to see my e-mail on my default mail. I use the private 2nd mail for more personal correspondence that I would not want anyone else to see. I try now to copy the address and then e-mail on the personal one. It is not always, however, possible.

[Guest piggie]

ANswer the damn message to the address requested. I do it all the time. I may be in one area like msn or yahoo and send an email for that location. But I like all my mail at one address. Really naive and rude not to answer.