Being helpful vs. crossing a line

[viewing ownly]

There are more than a few guys who have professional looking ads to provide massage without even a hint of sensuality. I am appreciative to those sleuths who discover those same men with an entirely different alias advertising as an escort, and provide that information for us on here.

For some, they are grateful that "the other side" of the provider has been revealed, and are then automatically turned off from wanting to hire them. I'm guessing that for most, this is a pleasant surprise that drastically increases our interest (and potential of a massage session going into "fun" territory).

The downside of publicly providing both is this could possibly irk the advertiser, who may just pull one or both ads entirely due to the unexpected exposure. Often times I'll see people express a great, erotic time was had, and to PM them for more info. This is then followed by countless "Can you please PM me also to divulge the exploits?" "Bump". "Bump", etc. 

[soloyo215]

51 minutes ago, viewing ownly said:

The downside of publicly providing both is this could possibly irk the advertiser, who may just pull one or both ads entirely due to the unexpected exposure. Often times I'll see people express a great, erotic time was had, and to PM them for more info. This is then followed by countless "Can you please PM me also to divulge the exploits?" "Bump". "Bump", etc. 

I fail to see a downside here for any of the parties, provided that the escort is professional enough to (a) know how to professionally administer a massage, and (b) respects the client's wishes and provides only what the client asks for without pushing to up-sell additional services. I have absolutely no problem with good masseurs who are great at massages, and also escort. Why should I? What they do in in addition to what I am paying for is completely out of my scope (aka, none of my business).

Some masseurs have offered additional services for additional money, and I have said yes, not, and maybe, depending on what I need. They get the no when I say no, and the rest of the service resumes without any problems.

I do see how not all providers might not be that professional and/or understanding. That's why I personally advocate for clear communication. Sometimes I have to ask questions, sometimes they have provided me with plenty of information about what they provide.

Communication among clients (I believe) it's encouraged here. I don't give explicit details of what I do or don't do with a provider, but provide yes/no questions about extras or how far he could go. I keep it general, but try to be informative, especially with those who don't advertise as escorts.

Just my thoughts.

Edited July 7, 2024 by soloyo215