Living Dangerously

[Losgatan]

Although I have been using escorts for nearly 30 years, I've never approached someone who wasn't advertising or hustling. However, I now find myself strongly drawn to a devastatingly attractive Mexican busboy who works at a restaurant just a few miles from my house. He always comes over to our table and chats for a few minutes -- even though I'm almost always there with my BF. "Justin" claims to have a fiancee in Mexico but his overall demeanor is very gay.

 

Should I pop the question?

[Michael]

Well a lot depends on exactly *what* question you were thinking of ...

 

In general, however, I would advise extreme caution in a situation like this. By all means drop some extremely broad hints, but try and get him to make some kind of approach or response to you before you get in too deep. Also try and make sure that if you do "pop the question" you do it in such a way that he has an easy way out in case the answer happens to be "no".

[Guest bluboy]

I have lived dangerously for years with quite a bit of success..waiters and store attendants have been a veritable fountain of hot experiences for me. In the case of waiters, tip very generously or if you are with your boyfriend, slip the waiter some $$$ as you are leaving and say I had a great time, would love to hang out with you sometime and show up the next time/day or whatever alone...based on the reception you get...it will be clear to you if it is a go or a no go. By the way, you can even get straight guys to jack off for you or whatever if the situation is right. Store attendants..since the exchange of cash is not in the transaction it is a little more complicated...but the way to test the waters is to chat for a long time around advice about clothes..etc.. and the offer i usually say is that you give such good advice on shopping, i would love if you would come shopping with me on your day off and who knows I will get you something from your favourite store...if there is even a shadow of a possibility...your message will have been communicated and take it from there...by the way...allude to your affluence..tacky i know but it can help...(and it does not matter if you are really affluent)...go down this path carefully to start but you will get better and better at it..and be able to assess a situtation earlier and earlier...and know whether to move forward or to pull back. The most absurd situation I had was a guy who was doing construction near my apartment who i used to see everyday..i got him up to fix a bunch of things in my place as he was really handy...i spoke to him b/c i took him a donut one day on my way to work...and even though he was completely straight...he did jack off for me and allowed me to massage his muscles...and we did talk about him fucking a bitch in my presence but we never followed up and the construction outside was over...blu

[liubit]

LAST EDITED ON Oct-15-00 AT 10:04AM (EST)[p]Advice from a gay Mexican: if you want to know if "Justin" is gay, ask him:"Are you BUGA?" (pronounced "BOO-ga"). That is the gay Mexican slang for "straight". If he understands the term, it means that he is gay, because "bugas" don't even know they are called that way by us....An even more direct line would be to ask if he sometimes is a "chichifo" (pronounced "Chee-CHEE-faw"), Mexican gay slang for "male escort/whore".

 

This second approach is of course more dangerous: if he isn't an escort or is not willing to have sex for pay (the verb in that case would be "chichifear", or "chee-CHEE-fe-ar"), you might get a punch in the nose.

 

And, general advice: do not pop the question in public, not even in front of your BF. My conationals like to project a macho image (thus his frequent references to a fiancée), and, if at all, are not always willing to come out of the closet in front of more than one stranger...I agree with Michael: exercise caution in any event!

 

Buena suerte. You can e-mail me at <numerito@yahoo.com> if you need further advice....