Escorts who ask you to call back

[pierrot]

I have frequently called to arrange a date with an escort, and he asks me to call back about an hour before I come. Only at that point will he confirm the appointment and give me his address. What is this about?

I assume it's a way to prevent entrapment by the police, but I don't see why a policeman couldn't call back and do everything a legitimate client can.

[+ Tygerscent]

I think that it may have more to do with guys canceling at the last minute and general safety. Some guys don't have apts with secruity entrance ways or locked front lobbies... some Escorts live in houses with easy access. I myself have had some bizarre circumstances where phone stalkers have made threats against me, or when I first strted Escorting I did a few incalls and then the clients started coming to the house randomly to visit without scheduling. Imagine a client coming up to your door to visit while you are expecting a scheduled client at that time. That happened once and that was the second to last incall I ever did at my home. I've had one since but was very, very reluctant to do it.

When I am staying in a Hotel I really don't worry as much and have had incalls there. Just not at my personal residence.

[Juan Vancouver]

Safety comes first... and it is more fun!

 

Hey Pierrot,

 

I am definitely one of those escorts that you talk about.

 

When I began escorting I decided that I would only do it if I was totally sure that I did everything in my power to ensure my personal safety and the privacy of my life. I was very lucky to be able to talk with a few male and female escorts and by paying close attention to their horror stories I was able to find out what to do to avoid having to live those horror stories myself.

 

Here go a few:

 

A client calls to see you tomorrow, you give him your adress... and 15 minutes later you see this creepy guy standing in front of your door, and stays there for 12 hours in a row. If you call him back, you can see how he answers his phone while he is stalking you. He never shows to the appointment.

 

If you meet clients at home, you often get knocks on the door (or the buzzer) at four o'clock in the morning and when you hurriedly answer you only hear a drunken: "Hey sweetie, it's me... are you taking calls?"

 

A client calls for an aptt, and you give him your adress. He never shows up. Days after that, a very "accidental" encounter outside your door makes you get acquainted with this very servile gentleman... after he gets freaky and needy and odd (you became friends with him) you realize that it is your client/stalker just wanting to make you fall in love with him.

 

I sat at an escort agency's lobby listening to these horror stories that all this men and women had to tell... they all had gome through the same in one way or another. I decided that I would do things differently.

 

For example:

 

I do not meet people at my own home.

 

I only confirm an appointment if I can call back to his (or her) number.

 

I never give the meeting's adress (or the hotel room number) in advance. I only mention the hotel name, (or the crossroads) and ask people to call me 10 mins before the appointment for the room number.

 

I only stay in hotels that wont volunteer my personal information to sneeky people. Like for example the front desk people saying" "Oh, you are looking for our guest in room 122? Unfortunately Mr Jones is not in his room right now."

 

I have aproximately 15 points check list to be able to feel safe in a call. If one of those points is not checked, I wont see the client.

A friend was telling me that perhaps I was overdoing it: "You have been escorting for two years and nothing has hapenned yet.", He said.

 

I believe that nothing ugly has hapenned, because I have been very careful. (Knock on woddy.)

 

So if your escort is polite, communicative, open and direct, If you feel that he is a nice guy, but you don't understand his safety rules, I fully recommend to play along with them. His life, his freedom (in some countries), his physical wellbeing and peace of mind depend on those rules. And as long as he is not demanding something preposterous or disrispectful, be sure that he is doing that not to make it hard for you.

 

It is just to make it safe for him.

 

Good luck in your adventures... and let's keep it safe!

[+ Tygerscent]

RE: Safety comes first... and it is more fun!

 

I can see where some Clients may feel that they have to worry as well and I completely respect it when a client does not want me to call them back or disclose their phone number or gives me their addie at the last minutes before an appointment. The consideration should go both ways. I confir with Juan about the horror stories of stalkers and unexpected guests, etc... Majoratively, Clients are fine outstandy Citizens who just happen to have hard dicks and are looking for another one to play with and some comaradary and companionship. But... there are those few who have deeper more complex agendas and you definately want to keep those surly sorts at bay~

There is always the potential for a little uncertainty in these affairs and good communication can allow for the necessary trust. I freely offer pix of myself, my phone number is listed, my email addie, my website. I am happy to communicate with whatever my Clients may wish to discuss. In scheduling I ask them to either leave me a phone number or an email addie and a specific confirmation time and date.

Some prospective Clients don't want to give out their phone number, email addie, and want to keep the date and time of meeting a perplexing mystery, meaning the Escort has to try and keep potentially an entire day, evening or week open for the Client. Obviously, Escorts are trying to earn a living as well and so those requests are impractical~

I've talked about this, as Juan has, with other Escorts as well as Clients. The over-all opinion is that the Escort really is at greater risk for safety concerns: personal, physical, legal.

You have to allow for some trust in this most Intimate of Industries... but respect each other's safty as well~

[playboy]

>I have frequently called to arrange a date with an escort,

>and he asks me to call back about an hour before I come. Only

>at that point will he confirm the appointment and give me his

>address. What is this about?

>I assume it's a way to prevent entrapment by the police, but I

>don't see why a policeman couldn't call back and do everything

>a legitimate client can.

 

 

This is done to separate the fakers/timewasters from the genuine clients. I've heard from other escorts that the percentage of real clients received from daily phone calls is 10% so believe me when I tell you we deal with an abundance of phonies.

[TJM]

I agree that everyone's safety is paramount. As a client I totally understand and support the escort's desire not to give out an address or location until right before the scheduled appointment. In fact I usually tell them that I will call them right before I'm ready to leave to meet them and get directions. I think they actually appreciate the fact that I offer this "suggestion" so they don't have to bring it up themselves. It's worked in my favor too. One time I was going to hire a very well reviewed guy...everything was set up...I called when I was ready to leave as agreed upon, about an hour beforehand, and got no answer...tried for an hour then gave up...it saved me a lot of grief...so this whole idea of calling within an hour prior to meeting can work to everyone's advantage.:9

[augustman]

One I always have contact with escort the day before to reconfirm.

 

Second, escort is coming to me I ask they phone me as they get on the transportation to get her or call me in route, (two hours, drive 1 20 min by train) and call when they have arrived at the hotel.

 

Third if I am going to him (I am driving to Chicago, two hours) I call when I arrive at the exit ramp usually 15 min prior to getting to their place or hotel and check to make sure everything is cool and get the room number if it is a new guy, if it is one I have met before he usually emails the number to me. Note once two years ago I went to Chicago to meet a guy who had arrived from west coast the night before. I was 20 minutes late and I did not have a cell phone at the time. I was embrassed as I knocked on the door. The escort openned the door I said I was so sorry for being late and he said we are not suppose to meet for almost two hours and I said no it is 10:20 and he looked at me strange and he realized he forgot to change his watch. He asked for 15 minutes to get ready. So now I call to make sure everything is good and that is usually when I get the room number too.

[augustman]

One I always have contact with escort the day before to reconfirm.

 

Second, escort is coming to me I ask they phone me as they get on the transportation to get her or call me in route, (two hours, drive 1 20 min by train) and call when they have arrived at the hotel.

 

Third if I am going to him (I am driving to Chicago, two hours) I call when I arrive at the exit ramp usually 15 min prior to getting to their place or hotel and check to make sure everything is cool and get the room number if it is a new guy, if it is one I have met before he usually emails the number to me. Note once two years ago I went to Chicago to meet a guy who had arrived from west coast the night before. I was 20 minutes late and I did not have a cell phone at the time. I was embrassed as I knocked on the door. The escort openned the door I said I was so sorry for being late and he said we are not suppose to meet for almost two hours and I said no it is 10:20 and he looked at me strange and he realized he forgot to change his watch. He asked for 15 minutes to get ready. So now I call to make sure everything is good and that is usually when I get the room number too.

[Juan Vancouver]

Glad you posted it two times... I only understood it on the second read. :+

 

(Just kidding)

[augustman]

did not mean to post it twice but computer kicked out on me as I hit post, I checked a few seconds later and I thought it had not posted and hit post again. Of course it went twice and look like a fool.

 

Thanks Juan for piling on! Sorry winter has finally come back to upper midwest, but we have sun. Can't wait to have you "pile on" again on me.