Initially Contacting an Escort

[nice guy]

Why is it that some escorts do not reply to an initial email or phone call saying I'm interested in hiring them for escort? I'm surprised at the number of inquiries I've made where I just never heard back -- that is lost business. Because when I initially contact an escort, I've already read the reviews here and have seen their pictures and websites, and at that point am ready to hire them. Or sometimes, the escort will email or call back many days or weeks later, at which point I've usually already traveled to and returned from the city in which I'd hope to hire the escort.

 

If I don't get a reply from a call and an email within a few days, even if they do reply a week later, I lose interest because it tells me something about their professionalism. Of course, if they apologize and give a sensible reason (e.g., being out of the country), then I don't hold that against them.

 

Do other clients find that this happens and get frustrated at it too? Escorts, are my expectations too high to expect a reply within a few days? I know sometimes addesses and phone numbers change, so I'm not talking about situations like that. Or I don't expect an escort to reply to me while they are having a weekend stay with another client. I know there are reasons not to always expect an immediate reply. And you know how we clients are...when we want sex, we want it NOW! I acknowledge that there is some of that element to it.

 

Thanks guys!

[noviceny]

What up nice guy,

 

Yup, have had the same problem, but I usually think its because they receive so many emails and calls that they dont have enough time to return them all. Many escorts have other jobs too. I know that when I come home from work, at times I dont want to talk to anyone. Might be the same with other people too.

 

I also think that sometimes an escort might think that you are not serious. This happened to me very recently. I sent an escort an email saying that I was very serious about hiring, short scenario and (since he had 5 pics up of him in 5 different types of shape)I asked him about his current shape. Well, he responded, "No problem, call me when you are ready." First red flag, he never answered my questions specifically about the disparity in photos. I sent him back an email saying thanks and I was still interested in knowing which photo most accurately reflected his current condition. His response was, "Look buddy, call me when you are serious."

 

I wish there was some kind of code phrase or even a rating that would let the escort know that we are not playing games, that we are normal and are serious customers. If that existed, then more escorts might return calls if they knew it was closer to a sure thing.

[nice guy]

Excellent point. I have been told by escorts that they get a lot of email and calls, often from clients that probably aren't interested in hiring. Maybe some clients get off from just communicating with the escort. Well, that's not me. Like you, if I contact an escort, I'm ready to hire! Unless they say something in a reply that raises a flag. Your example of the escort not answering a question has happened to me as well. To miss it once might be an oversight from reading so many emails, but to not answer after the second asking, seems intentional.

 

I like your idea of having some way to let the escort know that we're really serious about hiring them, not interesting in dicking around (not yet, anyway!), just want to settle on a date/time. Can HooBoy give us good clients a Good Housekeeping Seal or something?

[noviceny]

Nice Guy,

 

I swear that I am gonna print up a resume with the escorts Ive been with and their contact numbers, as references !!!

 

Shit, I can understand if a guy is busy but it sucks for us to be looked over just cause a lot of other guys can be dicks. I would never have realized this if I had not started going to the Gaiety. Some guys (clients) are just normal guys, but others are creepy as hell!!! Its not because they are older or whatever, it is the way they talk to escorts. No human being can go through life and not be affected by their experiences. If these escorts have enough experiences with weird people, they may be on guard at first until they have a reason to believe otherwise.

 

Something I have done recently when hiring people who are familiar with these boards :

 

1) Ive given them my screen name so they can see that I am a real person and maybe even see what I have written. I know that I cant expect someone to take all of that time and effort, but it should provide some sense of commitment and comfort.

 

2) I will include my home phone number. This may not be a possibility for everyone, but it makes your email more realistic by showing that you are willing to put out personal info.

 

My final plan (That I have not put in to action yet) is to attach a pic of myself...shit its almost like I have to sell myself, but if thats what I have to do to have a great experience Ill do it. After all, it is a considerable amount of money to spend and not have a good time.

[nice guy]

It shouldn't have to be this hard! Not as the one paying the money! All your points are great. I've tried the same things you've done, especially if it's an escort I am very excited about meeting, and still sometimes no reply. It's even happened with a few escorts that post here on the site. Frankly, I'm perplexed as to why someone who is in business as an escort would not respond to every initial email inquiring about their service. Thanks!

[AaronScottDC]

Just contact me, I promise that I will get back with you VERY soon! :-)

 

And, you're right, it is quite difficult to get a hold of certain escorts. I have tried to contact a few to inquire about their willingness/availability to do 3-ways for when some of my other clients are interested in such activities. And, just like you have mentioned, many do not ever respond, and the ones that do, do it several days/weeks/months later.

 

Oh well, I guess there could be many reasons for their failure to get back to potential clients. None of which can be fixed by anyone but the particular escorts themselves. All I can do is try my best not to follow in their foot steps!

 

So, if you are looking for someone in the DC area, be sure to drop me an email or a phone call! :-) :*

 

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[DelawareGuy]

I have also experienced the frustration of e-mailing an escort and not getting a response. I live in an area bereft of local escorts, so my choices are the nearest cities (Baltimore, DC, Philly). I initially ask if where I live is within his range of travel. I guess I have to assume that no answer means that I'm not?

[AaronScottDC]

Hey Delaware Guy, I can see how it might be a bit difficult to get a 'scort to make the journey from DC/Baltimore/Philly to the nether regions of Delaware. I used to have a day job which really kept me pretty busy and limited the amount of traveling that I could do. However, things are a changin' and I am now able to travel a lot more. So, if you are interested in getting together sometime, and I fit your idea of someone you would like to meet, then give me a shout! :-)

 

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[+ deej]

>Can HooBoy give us good clients a Good

>Housekeeping Seal or something?

 

He actually used to give the "Hooboy Seal of Approval" to reviewers with a history of credibility. It was retired (although you may still find the occasional circus seal on some of the older review pages). With people using different handles, it's of no value. How does an escort know you are "that" reviewer?

[Flower]

I didn't think the purpose was to let the escort know, but rather to let other clients know that the review wasn't bogus

[Vincent_Michael]

Ditto! I totally agree with you! I have contacted several escorts about hiring them and time after time they either never e-mail me back or take FOREVER to respond!

 

I suppose there doing that well that they can ignore the new business, now as for me I try to respond to all my e-mails and Phone calls ASAP but sometimes I slip up.

[Vincent_Michael]

I find it odd so many escorts are rude and act as if the e-mail is not serious, I personally address the questions for any e-mail as if it were serious and it might pan out and it might not that’s part of life. If you wanted more pictures sure thing I don’t mind, it is not hard to attach.

[nice guy]

So even ESCORTS experience this when contacting other escorts?!?! That is very surprising to hear. I figured that you escorts would always get the premier treatment amongst your peers, like a doctor always taking another call from another doctor.

 

So maybe this unresponsiveness comes down to the fact that certain escorts (like certain non-escorts) leave a lot to be desired in terms of being professional and courteous in following up. Escorts are just people, after all. But I figured that since this is a livelihood for the escort, they would realize how important the initial contact is.

 

In my business, a client or potential client will always get a call-back or email within 24 hours. Or else they'll go elsewhere. In any service business, the service aspect (how you treat the client, the effort you put into it) can be as important as the final product (how satisfying was the sex for the client). I find it hard to believe that any escort is doing so well that they don't need some new clients. Afterall, every escort, like any business, will experience the loss of some regular clients for various reasons.

 

I would be interested in hearing from more escorts about why they think an escort does not reply promptly or at all, and what we potential clients can do to reach an escort in which we're very interested.

 

Thanks guys!

[Johninpdx]

I try to respond to all emails within 24 hours and phone messages within 2 hours (unless I am with a client). Over the last few months, however, I have received many responses to my Men4Rent ad with invalid email addresses. Also, so many of the phone calls I have received lately are from blocked numbers and either there was no message left or the caller did not leave a telephone number where he could be reached. Unfortunately, in these cases, I cannot respond.

 

This is not a blanket statement about all escorts, only my personal experience and a possible explanation of why some of the emails and phone calls are not returned.

[nice guy]

Thanks John. I'm glad you respond to inquiries promptly, and I find that the majority of escorts do (maybe 75%). So I don't mean to imply that it's universal. The reasons you cited that could lead to a return call/email not being received are all valid. However, I always both send an email and call the phone number provided when contacting an escort, and I also have only contacted recently reviewed escorts so their contact information is more likely to be current. Thanks for being so prompt. I realize there must be a lot of emails to sift through, hopefully not as many as Bill Gates who reportedly receives 4 million emails per day. I can't find any reviews here on the site for him though.

[AaronScottDC]

>So even ESCORTS experience this when contacting other

>escorts?!?! That is very surprising to hear. I figured that

>you escorts would always get the premier treatment amongst

>your peers, like a doctor always taking another call from

>another doctor.

 

 

Nope, no royal treatment for us peasants.

 

 

>So maybe this unresponsiveness comes down to the fact that

>certain escorts (like certain non-escorts) leave a lot to be

>desired in terms of being professional and courteous in

>following up. Escorts are just people, after all. But I

>figured that since this is a livelihood for the escort, they

>would realize how important the initial contact is.

 

 

Yeah, I think this sums the situation up pretty well.

 

 

>In my business, a client or potential client will always get a

>call-back or email within 24 hours. Or else they'll go

>elsewhere. In any service business, the service aspect (how

>you treat the client, the effort you put into it) can be as

>important as the final product (how satisfying was the sex for

>the client). I find it hard to believe that any escort is

>doing so well that they don't need some new clients.

>Afterall, every escort, like any business, will experience the

>loss of some regular clients for various reasons.

 

 

You would think that all people/businesses act this way. But, I have had quite a few non-escort related stuff happen to me here in DC that really makes me wonder.

 

First, I have had a hell of a time trying to contact and talk to plumbers, electricians, painters and other construction type contractors. I can't believe how incredibly poor they are at responding to messages left on their business phones. I always chalked it up to the fact that they are so busy, but I don't know.

 

Next, have you ever tried to make an appointment with a doctor or a lawyer? Not an easy task at all. And, recently, I was trying to contact a few caterers to provide some food for a little gathering I was hosting. It was extremely difficult to get any of them to return my email messages or phone calls.

 

So, I really do not think that escorts are any different that the other numerous service businesses out there. At least not in my experience, anyway.

 

 

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey guys!

 

I am reading your posts, and I am flabergasted! You dont have to do any work! Thats why we are the service provider. No need of a picture, because as long as you like us, thats all that matters.

 

The quality of a session with an escort, depends I might say 80% on his ability and desire to focus on YOUR needs and fulfillment. If he is wanting to provide what you need, if he is wanting to please you, if he is paying attention to your reaction and acting guided by that.

 

Answering an e-mail or a phone call is just another way in which the escort shows his willingness to adapt to YOUR needs. He WILL do that even if he is not available. He will be kind, interested, and thankfull of the fact that you called him to offer him the always beneficial posibility to expand his bussines.

 

If you asked my opinion... if the escort fails in doing such a simple thing, run for your lives! Doesnt matter if he is Brad Pitt himself, or if he has 75 reviews onlt this year, or if he has the always-so-wanted 14 incher monster cock. He is simply not into providing a caring attentive service.

 

However, if he tells you that he was on a weekend engagement and answers apollogetically after two days, grant him the benefit of the doubt. The secret in my opinion, is to realize wether the escort is kind, amiable and makes me feel good about our rapport.

 

Follow your heart... and if the heart says "NO", then move on and hire another hot boy.

 

Enjoy the fun process of selection! ;-)

[nice guy]

The construction industry is notorious for terrible service! Reaching an escort is FAR easier than having a plumber show up on time (or at all) for the scheduled appointment.

 

I agree that service seems to have declined in every industry. They need to go visit Disney World to learn good service. Speaking of that, I had sex with Goofy when I was there! At least the guy claims that is the character whose costume he wears. So if you go there, look for him!

[nice guy]

I have begun doing just what you said to do -- if the escort doesn't respond after an email and phone call, I cross him off the list and find someone else. If he can't be professional about something so innocuous as returning a call, how can I be sure he'll show up on time, look like he claims, do what I wanted, etc. You're right, the initial service (or lack thereof) is a good indicator of what's to come. Thanks!

[AaronScottDC]

> They need to go visit Disney World to learn good service.

>Speaking of that, I had sex with Goofy when I was there! At

>least the guy claims that is the character whose costume he

>wears. So if you go there, look for him!

 

LOL! That's a riot! I have to say that I have had a lot of goofy sex, myself. But, actually having sex WITH Goofy is another matter.... :9

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[Stupid Cupid]

The rule of Inverse Proportion

 

Having spent over 10 years answering thousands of escort calls ...there is the rule of "Inverse Proportion"

....The more questions asked and the longer the phone call and email, the chances of having a paying client diminish.

You can't image how many "clients" ring escorts and jerk off over the phone....so most escorts are brief and to the point.

[nice guy]

RE: The rule of Inverse Proportion

 

I agree that the rule you cited exists; in my consulting business I also see a negative correlation between the size of the fee and the hassles awaiting me on a project. It's surprising but a client (of mine) who pays more typically is so much easier to deal with than someone who is willing to pay very little, after which they need so much hand-holding.

 

But your rule is not really at issue here (although true); I'm talking about the FIRST contact -- the very first email or phone call that goes unanswered by the escort. Why ALL of those aren't responded to baffles me. Sure, once contact is established and the client is asking a bezillion questions that seem irrelevant, the escort can decide not to see him. Just as the client can decide by the responses to his questions to stop pursuing the escort. Those are valid reasons and good cues (on either side) to halt contact.

 

Thanks

[Stupid Cupid]

RE: The rule of Inverse Proportion

 

The other "rule of thumb" is that (2) emailers are dreamers.

It's a bit like buying a used car over the phone!

Get em in the yard and "crunch em" !!

Guys who are ready to make a booking will lift the phone and do it.

So, because of Rule 2, most escorts will only take live phone calls seriously.

[nice guy]

RE: The rule of Inverse Proportion

 

Couple things -- some don't post phone numbers. If they do, I send an email AND call. Even then, many do not reply.

[flguy]

RE: The rule of Inverse Proportion

 

I virtually NEVER call and prefer to email and agree that MANY never even respond to the email and when I have called and left messages they never return the call.