E-Mail Communications

[OneFinger]

E-mail contact with escorts is a subject that has been covered before. But, I just had an encounter that's left me scratching my head.

 

I selected an escort that has several positive reviews from known/established reviewers. Their only contact info was an e-mail address. I sent a generic e-mail to check on availability and got a positive response. They suggested I provide more info concerning myself. I responded with my M4M handle (so they could reference my reviews), a list of my preferences, and a suggestion that we exchange phone numbers.

 

Today I received an e-mail asking me acknowledge their attached "disclaimer" they were only going to provide companionship and not sexual activity.

 

I've never had an escort respond like this before (and I hired dozens of great guys). I've decided not to hire them because I'm now concerned that they'll show up and not be willing to conjugate the verb.

 

Is this now going to become the "standard" for all escorts? Do other escorts normally use this tactic?

[Vincent_Michael]

Kinda funny..With e-mail I dont mind getting more detailed with clients..I actully prefer it there rather than the phone but I never send a attachment of how I am a companion and what not..I let my reviews do the talking on that issue.

 

I have heard of some escorts so worried of going to jail that they can scare off potenal clients..I think going to jail is part of the risk and you should not be careless but not be to over protective at the same time.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

A strange situation indeed~

 

There are many escorts out there who feel that if they put some sort of disclaimer on their emails and website, that it will save them, if and when a court-date is set.

 

While it seems like a nice security blanket, i think it's mostly garbage and goes along with the whole urban legend of asking a supposed undercover police officer if he's 'really a cop.' It's been discussed before, but cops don't legally have to reveal themselves if working undercover in that situation. Sucks, eh?

 

Escorts shouldn't let a paragraph of supposed legality save their butts. Use good common sense and the rest should fall into place. It's not worth getting into escorting if you're constantly worried about who you're seeing and what's going to happen. I understand being concerned about your own well-being, but i've heard of way too many over-the-top tactics used to supposedly keep an escort 'above the line.' I think this not only annoys the client in question, but severly cuts down on that escort's marketability and image. As OneFinger pointed out, it also ultimately hurts the escort's chances of closing the deal. Simply put: It's a turn off.

 

The solution you ask? Common sense from the escort's side. While i am concerned about some things (STD's, keeping in good health, making sure the plane doesn't take-off without me. lol), i also know that some of this industry is about taking chances. While a smart person tries to minimize those chances taken, there are still many unknown factors in meeting with someone you aren't totally familiar with.

 

A reminder for both escort and client: Look and listen. If something feels wrong in your gut, then simply walk away. Don't stick around because you feel his body will make up for lack of interest. Don't contemplate staying there because you negotiated a really great deal and stand to make good money. Whether it's having a terrible (expensive) experience or spending the night in the clink, it's NOT WORTH IT.

 

Okay, so i've written a book here. Just hoping that any of this will come in handy for a fellow MC'er. Be safe guys

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[OneFinger]

Vincent Michael and Benj,

 

Thanks for your responses and verification that the communication is a little "unusual".

 

I e-mailed the guy and told him that his paranoia successfully scared me off and that I had made other arrangements. I received the following reply from him:

 

It is very important to me that I don't incriminate myself or my clients in my escort work. I don't play games and never have. I give everyone I see the same disclaimer and what you view as paranoia, I consider reasonable caution. I do not and never have offered to provide sex in exchange of money, nor should any escort who takes his or her career seriously. I understand how you feel, nonetheless, and fully understand if you'd rather look elsewhere.

 

I wish you luck in finding a suitable companion.

 

Thanks,

 

XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

 

 

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LEGAL DISCLAIMER: Money exchanged is exclusively for time and companionship; anything else that may or may not happen is a matter of personal choice and personal preference between two or more consenting adults of legal age, and is not contracted for, nor is it requested to be contracted for, or compensated for in any manner whatsoever. Furthermore, this is not an offer, nor is it an agreement, nor is it an engagement in sexual conduct for a fee. No fees, tips, or other consideration of any kind will be quoted, negotiated, or collected in exchange for any sexual conduct.

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Although he does have positive reviews I'm not willing to take the chance on him. I fully agree with you, Benj, that if it doesn't feel right then you shouldn't do.

[VaHawk]

"Okay, so i've written a book here."

 

Nah, a short novella at best.

 

Great post Benjamin!

[Vincent_Michael]

Hey, no problem I want to be of help. I read his disclamer and it is a little funny when you think about it.

 

Ben is right about how we cant be protected in that way of saying a few words here or there..I think Ben is correct when you trust your gut.

 

I prefer not establish a price for the sexual activity (while with the person) however even then that is not a sure thing to protecting me..Nothing in this world is for sure

 

Thanks to the Patriot Act

[basket]

It sounds like you were going to be disappointed here. I have had sex with lawyers who were more fun with their disclaimers than this escort.