Gifts, etc.

[sashek]

Hi Guys,

This message is directed (mainly) to the escorts here. In reading the reviews section, I notice that clients often mention buying gifts or flowers for the escort. How do you escorts feel about this? It's a nice gesture, no doubt, but I imagine the gifts are often not to your taste (I recall seeing on here that some escorts have several bottles of cologne they've received from clients, and never used) - except, perhaps, with long-term clients who know you fairly well. If a client wants to show his added appreciation, would you prefer to see it in the form of a card with a tip inside, a nice meal, a gift? Or does it matter? Thanks for the input.

Sashek

[BobbyThompson]

Hi guys...

 

I think when anyone gives you an unexpected gift it's a little awkward. No one has ever given me flowers or anything similarly romantic upon first meeting. If they did I might be hesitant to see them again, as it would seem to me they might be prone to developing attachment issues.

 

However, for my birthday I received some gifts from regulars. They were people that knew me well enough to know I have a very specific taste and even my closest friends have difficulty shopping for me. One of my clients gave me gift certificates, one for $200 from Ticketmaster and one of $100 for Tower Records. Who doesn't like gift certificates! You're giving two gifts: an afternoon at the store, and shopping without consequences. Who doesn't love that?

 

Overall I don't think gifts are necessary and should be reserved for clients/escorts who have more of a friendship. If a client sees an escort two days before Christmas he shouldn't feel obligated to tip, get chocolates, or anything other than pay the agreed upon rate.

 

Happy Kwanza everyone!

Bobby Thompson

[Guest endoman31]

I usually do not go in emptyhanded,

 

I have a Japanese rentboy and I brought something on my first visit, as that is an oriental custom.

 

I brought one guy wine to discover that he does not drink.

 

I bring my regulars a small gift: an ashtray to a smoker, a vase to a guy with a second home, etc.

 

Sometimes a little extra moola.}(

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

The Gift That Keeps On Giving

 

I was one of the escorts who have received cologne as a gift, which I do not wear. I always appreciate the gifts I have received which show that the client has paid attention to something written on my web page or something I mentioned in a conversation we had or here on the site.

 

Since many of my clients know I like to cook, eating out seems to be a common treat, which is a nice present as it is something that can be shared. I often listed that I like pistachio nuts, I tend to enjoy healthy snacks and often travel with or keep raw, unsalted almonds, pistachios or cashews with me. A client in Las Vegas brought a gift package of pistachios, which was a very thoughtful and, I felt, considerate idea on his part.

 

Some of my friends who escort have been taken shopping by their clients, have had watches, rings, chains and other expensive items. My experience is that often these gifts ended up being misplaced, lost, pawned or given to another friend. I think, as some clients pointed out, when you know the escort better, if you really feel the need to show some consideration by way of a material item, you will have a better sense of what might be needed or well received. I think in these instances the gift will be more readily remembered and appreciated.

 

Otherwise, any such gift should, at least in my opinion, be a small token, preferably a neutral item (a gift certificate is a good example).

 

 

 

well, actually . . . it depends . . .

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[tipster]

I know you directed your question to (mainly) escorts but as a client that just gave a Christmas gift to a guy I see regularly I thought I would respond.

 

He and I visit enough that I know a lot of what he likes. One thing we both said we wanted to do was see Chicago when it comes to Fair Park Music Hall(Dallas)in February, so I bought him two tickets and gave him my assurance I wouldn't be going on the same night.

 

Not overly expensive, something I knew he wanted to do and something he probably would not have done for himself.

 

I don't think I could show up at someones place with a gift, never having met them or having some idea of what they like. If my first time experience with an escort is good I usually just add a little extra to the normal fee.

[best hotel]

...as a client, i bought a regular escort an x-mas gift...a polo leather bracelet he saw and admired...i was very careful about boundaries and he did not at all seem uncomfortable...i expected no gift in return...i believed him when he seemed touched by the gesture...it was a nice, uncomplicated moment in what is otherwise a very complicated neurotic life...i treasured it

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Gifts & tips are nice, but shouldn't be expected~

 

This Christmas was a little odd (but not in a bad way), as many of the guys i see sent presents in one form or another. As much as i appreciated it, it also felt a little strange, as i've never been one to 'request' anything when spending time with people. I'm simply not much of a shopper. The thought of plowing my way through hoards of shoppers in a mall frightens me... *shudders*

 

In any event, the presents were a nice surprise and something that really made me feel good. It's nice to be appreciated, but in the longrun a simple 'you rock' would have sufficed just the same

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[bootdad]

Benjamin - you had better be very very very careful - I don't want the authorities to revoke your cardcarrying 'I am a HOMO' CARD . . . a gay man who does not love to battle the crowds at the mall . . . WHY ? is this even possible or is someone just trying to pull a BIG one over all of us here ???

YOU KNOW - there is therapy for this serious dysfunction and I am confident you are still young enough to be treated in less than half a dozen sessions, they will start you off real easy like a weekly trip to Target . . . to oggle the designer stuff from Michael Graves - Good LUCK my child we are all very much hoping this will not be a painful transition to real outright QUEER EYE designer obsession and in no time daily trips to Starbucks and the designer boutiques at the Galleria or in your case I guess it would be RiverWalk ?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

*wide-eyed* I need a card now?

 

It's not that i hate shopping, it's simply the aspect of a large crowd that makes me somewhat nervous. Fighting my way through The Galleria (much less the tourist-laden Riverwalk) isn't what i would call 'being productive' by any means. It's amazing how bloodthirsty a 60-year old woman can become when there's only one set of Calphalon cookware left and it's 25% off.

 

I suppose the age of Amazon.com has truly made me a home-shopper... that is, when i'm home. Added, those nifty infomercials hosted by Ron Popeil are sometimes just too good to pass up.

 

'Just set it and FORGET IT!'

 

I love it

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[bootdad]

Hey BN - you are truly a gem - I am grateful you had a sincere and witty response to mine . . . it is easy to see why so many men of good taste understand why you are so desirable and taste so good . . . I am not surprised to see you are beckoned to many a distant port. I hope we have the opportunity to connect when I travel through your region sometime late this summer. My only regret - we can't connect earlier, but I suspect that is a regreat shared by many here ???

[Guest Ant415]

Is it ok to give a vase to someone that has just one home?

 

I am mono-domiciled, and would be briddled with delight if someone gave me a vase.

 

How many escorts do you know have second homes? (have implies own)