how long do you wait for a response?

[Guest curious2000]

I recently got an e-mail update ( from an escort's travel update newsletter that I subscribe to) that an escort that I wanted to hire someday would be visiting my city. I was excited to see that he would be in my city and e-mailed him the very night I got the annoucement. it isn'n until about 3 weeks away. He has been extremely well reviewed and is quite popular and comes across as very professional and nice. In fact, when I missed his last visit through town I e -mailed him expressing how much I wish I had known he was here and that I wanted to hire him next time he was in town. He promptly e-mailed me thanking me and that we could hook up next time he was here. What puzzles me is that I have sent him 3 e-mails that I am interested in hiring him and he has not responded. They have be short and polite ( nothing obsessive) and about 3 days apart in sending them. It has been about 8 days now and still no reply. I understand that popular escorts get tons of spam and e-mail, and that is why I kept sending him more e-mails. I also put "escort" in subject and the dates and city I live in in subject. I have not called and left a messege on his phone yet, but still might do that, since I really have always wanted to hire this escort.

 

So, how long does a client wait for an escort to e-mail you back when you really want to hire him and he is traveling to your city, but doesn't seem to be interested answering your e-mail request for an appointment?

 

It is still a couple of weeks away, but I would think he would want to start booking appointments as soon as he got them.

 

I am interested in hearing what you guys think-thanks

[Guest ortrud45]

First: I'm not an escort, but a client.

Second: I would give him another week/chance to answer your inquiry

as there is no time pressure yet.

Third: If still no response I would move on and think that the guy

in question is finally not such a nice, fine and professional

escort as the reviews made me believe.

 

Good luck: ortrud45

[Guest Kenny021]

From all the info you provided, it appears that this escort is very professional, well reviewed and previously told you that he would like to see you next time he is in your area. Your three e-mails should have elicited a response by now UNLESS there is something wrong with his e-mail, whatever, and he hasn't read them yet. I would suggest that you call him and very likely will have to leave a message as most, if not all, escorts never answer the telephone. If you leave a message and mention that you sent 3 e-mails, he should get back to you. Give him the benefit of the doubt in this case. If he hasn't replied to your tel call within a day or two, then assume he won't and move on.

[Guest Dan]

When I was working, I would reply to e-mails as soon as I got them. However, since I don't have a hand held device or DSL, I'd tell the respondent to call me or supply a phone number to make arrangements otherwise we didn't connect.

 

I returned all my messages ASAP. It was funny how many times my voice mail would delay coming through for hours and yet clients would tell me that I was the first escort of to return their call after trying half a dozen all day.

[Guest curious2000]

Thanks for the responses guys. I also forgot to mention that on all 3 e-mails I included my phone number if he preferred to call me, but he has not called or e-mailed in now 9 days. I still have not called him and left a voice mail yet. I still might just do that to cover all my options, but if he doesn't call back after I leave a voice messege, then I guess he does not want my business while he is in town and I will just have to get over it.

[jimmer]

Hi Curious,

 

I am not an escort, butr neither am I a schnook. My best advice: move on.

 

Jimmer

[chrismac]

Well, I've been waiting I suppose for the gratuitous opportunity to whine about an experience, and the title and subject of this thread just DRAGGED it out of me ;-) :

 

Several months back in early spring, I contacted a well-known escort in Detroit (not Dave) to set up an appointment. All was agreed to, and the appointment set. I would be in Detroit only on the weekend.

 

I had made contact with a "freebie" online in Motown, but once the escort got back to me to confirm - I told the free guy we'd have to hook up the next day or some other time. Fool that I was.

 

So the escort said he'd be by my hotel around 11pm, but might be as late as midnight. I'd have to go down to the outdoor lobby to meet him as the hotel wouldn't allow guests unescorted after 10pm. So I go down and wait starting at 11pm. There's a horrendous thunderstorm going on. I'm under cover, but the rain and wind are so heavy, I'm still getting fairly misted.

 

I had given the escort my cell number, and brought the phone down with me. I waited until 10 after midnight. I didn't give the escort my real name, so that's the price I was paying. No call.

 

Back up in the room - I'm starving and horny and wishing I could call my freebie up if it weren't so late and the weather wasn't so treacherous. Still no call. The escort has received only good reviews, so being the person I am, I figure something has happened, and start to worry the poor guy has been in an accident in the storm. So I'm not angry, just worried.

 

No call the next day, and I return to California. Waiting for me on my laptop email is a note from him apologizing for not meeting me, saying that he was ill, and didn't want to pass it on to me. That's fine. He furthermore offered to make it up to me with a discount and more time next time I'm in Detroit (yeah - like that's more than once per decade). I emailed back hoping he was feeling better, not mentioning that he could have at least called to let me know he wouldn't be coming that night (I had called him several times that night of course - and only received his voicemail - further increasing my anxiety for him that he'd been in an accident).

 

So finally I'm going back to Detroit. I emailed him last week, saying I'd be there in August. I attached his last message to me as a point of reference - a reminder of who I was.

 

So far, nuthin. Zippo. Nada. I guess he's not in business anymore. I hope he's OK. Seems like a nice enough guy from what I've read. Guess I'll never know for sure. Sooooooooooo - how long should I wait for his response? I sort of have a line of credit with him I wouldn't mind using.

 

By the way, anyone know what's up with Jason Santiago????

[CT Dick]

I think it's time to post a no-show review on this guy.

 

Dick

[chrismac]

Yeah - I thought about that. I figured no sense in doing it before, but now...

 

Anyway - it's not consuming my life, and hadn't given it much thought until this thread showed up.

 

I'd probably be really pissed if the air and hotel for that previous Detroit weekend weren't free.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

I suggest you cut the guy some slack -- how much is up to you. You should wait as long as you are comfortable. After all he is coming to your city right? Your house is not on fire. It's not like you are on travel and have a narrow window of opportunity in your destination city pressing you to firm up arrangements. If I was waiting in my home town, I'd go about my business as usual, send an email reminder once a week, and if he responded then I'd try to set something up. Of course I would probably be a little aggrivated that I hadn't heard from him.

 

This is predicated on the facts tha 1) you really want to see him and 2) he has a good track record established by reviews. This guy may be a traveller out of town on business or on his summer vacation or who knows what. It would be more professional for him to leave an autoresponse as many escorts but not all do. On the other hand, if I thought this was his ususal modus operandi I would move on and never look back.

 

My patience is expended more quickly with locals (either in my town or when I'm in their's) the more so when phone calls go unreturned. Unless I know them or suspect special circumstances, I almost never make a second call. If they never return my call I move on and don't look back. If I know them and they don't return my second call should I make it, then ditto -- that is unless I know them well enough that I become concerned about their well being. Life is too short and I have been burned once too often -- well more than once too often. Lots of fish in the sea -- clients yes, but escorts too.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Another Escort Answers

 

>I suggest you cut the guy some slack -- how much is up to

>you.

 

I fully agree, given the circumstances. Until recently, when I purchased a lap top, I had to rely on someplace like Kinko's or an internet cafe to check e-mails. Sometimes clients do not provide you with a means of calling. In Chrismac's case, for example, one crucial detail is did Chrismac advise his escort HE WOULD NOT HAVE COMPUTER ACCESS in Detroit and that it was best to telephone him? If so, then while I personally am reluctant to encourage anything that might interfere with anyone's ability to make their living, Chrismac needs to determine if a no-show is genuinely appropriate.

 

 

>My patience is expended more quickly with locals (either in

>my town or when I'm in their's) the more so when phone calls

>go unreturned. Unless I know them or suspect special

>circumstances, I almost never make a second call. If they

>never return my call I move on and don't look back. If I

>know them and they don't return my second call should I make

>it, then ditto -- that is unless I know them well enough

>that I become concerned about their well being. Life is

>too short and I have been burned once too often -- well

>more than once too often. Lots of fish in the sea --

>clients yes, but escorts too.

 

I think it is important to be professional. I return my pages the same day, I respond to emails daily, I even open a slew of emails that say NO SUBJECT, HEY or the like, most of which contain internet porn, links to females having sex with donkeys or other material I really have no interest in.

 

We are all each individuals but I also believe I would give your escort a few more days. I would make no effort to contact him. If he did not respond or if his reponse was not convenient to you or your schedule, I would respond and let the escort know he lost an opportunity due to delay.

 

Good luck to you and I hope you have a better experience in the future with other escorts.

[chrismac]

RE: Another Escort Answers

 

>In Chrismac's case, for example, one crucial detail is did

>Chrismac advise his escort HE WOULD NOT HAVE COMPUTER ACCESS

>in Detroit and that it was best to telephone him? If so,

>then while I personally am reluctant to encourage anything

>that might interfere with anyone's ability to make their

>living, Chrismac needs to determine if a no-show is

>genuinely appropriate.

 

That's an excellent point Franco. I should have mentioned in my post that I did tell the escort before leaving for Detroit that I would not be bringing my laptop with me, and gave him my cell number instead. Furthermore, upon arrival in Detroit, I called his number (got only voicemail), informing him that I had arrived, the hotel phone number and my room number, reconfirmed the time we had set up, and reiterated my cell number. So I pretty much covered all those bases. I always do, as I know escorts are busy, and may not always have my contact information handy at any given time.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

good boy!

 

My favorite kind of client....

[chrismac]

RE: good boy!

 

I strive always to be the good boy ;-)