REALITY CHECK

[Guest LiLBlondBoy]

It is not just escorts either! LOL Much of my generation (sadly) Is just as you described, which Is why I hung out with my friends parents more than i did my friends at times... you are right...it get's quite old.

Chris

 

 

 

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[Bilbo]

I don't go for subtlety much. Nor do I go for satire that often. So I'm not always understandable when I do. (The last time I said that I could confuse a brick wall, the person I was explaining myself to thought that I meant that he was a brick wall. I still love the phrase, though, even though now I know that it can be misinterpreted, too.)

 

Chris - Actually, I do love the work. I just got fumblemouthed.

Love, Blade

[Guest albinorat]

>It is not just escorts either! LOL Much of my generation

>(sadly) Is just as you described<

 

Oh, I just wanted to welcome back Chris aka L'il Blond Boy, one of my favorite escort posters and I bet very hot too. If only we weren't a continent apart!!

 

It's sad the original idiot got so much space. Ever hear of internalizing and projecting? Sounds like this guy (for real or Moore-ish if you get me) hates himself for escorting, has self esteem issues around his own looks (even if he's really selling his bod) and is projecting them 'outwards' toward easy targets (anonymous clients).

 

I look like Jabba the Hutt and don't care. I have a fantasy scene. I'm big on consent and I don't require the pretence of affection. Though my scene sounds strange some escorts like it because I'm less demanding than others in terms of wanting them to act attracted.

 

But even if I were hiring for the simulation of affection and attentive touching as well as "acts" I think I'd understand that it was all for money (mine). The clients I have known in a long life of hiring (many) would agree.

 

Escort/client scenes are a version of young adolescent 'let's pretend' games and the best escorts understand that. 'Let's pretend' does not require either party to be sincere and it's not a committment of any kind, except for whatever time is contracted for.

 

There are clients who like to pretend they really feel affection for the escort because that's part of their sexuality -- but they know and the wise escort knows it's not 'real' caring.

 

There are clients who like to be put down and even kicked around (gently!) by escorts, but that does mean they are full of self hate 'for real', it's part of a sex pattern that was imprinted on them long ago.

 

I suspect there are a number of escorts who 'fall for' some clients and look for a genuine friendship (so I have heard tell, and might have learned myself first hand if I weren't so off putting and full of myself). Great sex can call into consciousness a lot of feelings we repress on a daily basis and that can be sticky (sic) for both parties. So, it's an occupational hazard but not a catastrophe or even weird. Though naturally the busy escort and frequent client will encounter a few nuts along the way. Like the first poster!

 

Now we do live in a culture that fetishizes looks and the appearance of beauteous youth and because it is a mass market culture those attitudes and the images to support them are jammed into our brains for too many of our waking hours in too many ways. "Gay" culture has always seemed to me to be a fraud because it has bought into body facism as its main method of self identification and status. Het culture is not so much better but is somewhat, if only because female sexuality is less exclusively looks oriented, and the 'family' value culture, however hypocritical, does esteem responsibility, "love" that is enduring and not merely sexually based, the ability to achieve more than a long night of party n' play and so on. But we gay people can get stuck in dreading the inevitable (aging) and over valuing the transient (youthful good looks).

 

Still many of the escorts I've met over more than 30 years of hiring (I started at 16, I was a real mirror breaker but horny as hell and it was a lot cheaper then) have been terrific people, healing touchers and good sports, as well as hot sex and well worth the money. I'm sorry to see escorts implicitely put down by the first poster and sorry to see some defensive responses.

 

As to whether clients can become friends or lovers -- well who knows? I bet it happens now and again. Just as the busy escort is apt to meet the occasional (if rare) young, hot client (though it might be naive to count on either eventuality).

 

I want a prize from deej for being able to write the longest and most windy posts (I pick on deej 'cuz I knew a 'professional' astrologer once with that name who put a curse on me! I think it took!!!!!!!)

 

Al

[Guest LiLBlondBoy]

Oh! I Didn't mean you! I just noticed it was replying to yours, I meant to reply to the original post! not your's!LOL

(still can't get used to message boards)

 

Guess I had a Blonde moment!

o(^_~)o

 

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[Guest LiLBlondBoy]

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[Guest dstud4hire]

RE: REALITY CHECK vs. sexy, and what he feels l

 

Ok, I'm not going to EVEN bother reading the rest of the responses, because if they are anything like I'm about to write, then it will be a waste of my time....very rarely does something offend me much on this site as this letter writer does, 9from a fellow escort no less!)

 

I certainly hope to GOD the clients out there know that he is not indicative of every escort's view points!!

 

For one, he offends even me when he talks about what he perceives as ugly vs. sexy and what he feels about his clients. What an offensive manner in writing about good people. I can say without a doubt that I find in nearly each client something that is attractive, otherwise I would not be able to stay hard for a good chunk of the time...(and no, I don't use viagra or other drugs...well..occassionally poppers if my clients don't object) Sometimes it's just the situation itself...there is something that turns me on about the whole client/escort arangement...probably has something to do the concept of serving someone else.

 

2nd of all...he makes the gross misjudgement that all clients are hiring us because we are beautiful, and they are not. Again, not true! For one, I even hire escorts from time to time...damn it saves so much extra time and energy and BS from the bars. My clients confirm that as well. Just easier at times. Plus, it has nothing to do with simply just sexy vs. what he calls ugly. It has to do with ensuring your own needs are taken care of.

 

I hired a great guy, Geno (ok, a plug for Geno) out of Philly on Valentine's night..why...simply to know that I was being taken care of on a night I can't stand when I am single, which is at present...and it was 100% worth it!!! (In fact, as long as I am single on Valentine's night, I think I will make that a tradition!)

 

He also thinks clients think of themselves as god. HA! He must have some very rich clients who are real jerks then. In my 5 yrs of scorting, I have been with hundreds upon...well, you get the idea. Many have been very comfortable financially, and have never treated me anything less than a gentleman. But most of my clients work VERY hard for their money, or in some cases, have to save aside money since they are married to either men or women and have to ensure their own discretion. So to imply that they have so much money that they think they are God is laughable.....and if that is the case.....what city is he escorting in.....I need to go there...(I'm sure with his attitude compared to mine...I'll do very well there!! hehehe)

 

Anyway, I could go on and on.......I am about to send this against my own advice (never send an email when you are emotional, and never send right away in response, but read it later) Bey hey, compared to what used to be on here, this is mild...besides, you all know me from my posts....they are usualy very mild or diplomatic...ever the peace maker.....but I just had to vent on this one, for I can assure you, he is in the minority in his opinion about clients.

 

I love doing this, yes, sometimes it's hard,I may be run down at times, but I make sure then to pull it together , because my client's time, and my reputaion are too valuable. but I would NEVER do what he has let others do to him...make him feel less on himself....he says that others who do the hiring are ruining lives...well...sometimes it's hard to look in the mirror....there is only one person that TRULY has the power to ruin his own life....and really, aren't we just talking about the reflection in the mirror?

 

Ok, back to our regularly scheduled program!

[Bilbo]

RE: REALITY CHECK vs. sexy, and what he feels l

 

You even seem to vent fairly gently, love.

[Losgatan]

RE: REALITY CHECK vs. sexy, and what he feels l

 

Beautifully said, Gabriel.

 

I find it very sad that people on both sides of the escort/client relationship can totally miss the opportunities for human connection that the relationship affords. It's a complete mystery to me.

 

No, I'm not rekindling the "friendship" debates. I just know that I would never hire again if all I got was a chance to get my rocks off.

[Guest dstud4hire]

RE: REALITY CHECK vs. sexy, and what he feels l

 

>You even seem to vent fairly gently, love.

 

Yeah, Bilbo, that's my achilles heel! Even when I'm venting, I am too diplomatic!

[chrismac]

RE: REALITY CHECK vs. sexy, and what he feels l

 

>No, I'm not rekindling the "friendship" debates. I just

>know that I would never hire again if all I got was a chance

>to get my rocks off.

 

I agree absolutely! If it were just about the pure act of sex, I can go to a club, or get online and meet a guy at my place or his for that - or even easier - watch a porn with popcorn and jizz away the night.

 

But if you do enough research, you find some real jewels out there that can even teach you a few very valuable tips - to use with your not-for-pay partners. I'm a total sex maven now thanks to the help of a few highly skilled, kind, and passionate escorts. The lessons were well worth the resources. ;-)

[SmallTownJohn]

Hey,

 

I've been traveling alot so I'm reading and catching up on the board. Is Ethan back? I always thought his perspective really livened up the place. (BTW, who's got TruthTellers number? Ya'll get him back on here).

 

I love my clients I have some fantastic regulars so I really can't complain about my life. But I can understand because I constantly have to sift through those "weird shit" e-mails. You just have to always maintain self respect and define your limits (And know when to take a few days off):O)

 

As the TV commercial says:"Two gold teeth for only $149!"

 

Just a few thoughts from Atlanta. <G>

 

 

P.S. The new Superman Coaster is about to open at Six Flags :O)

 

John

http://www.SmallTownJohn1.com

[Guest DCeBOY]

oh my G_D... please say he isn't back!

 

awww... john likes me :9

i have made a couple of travel announcements, but that's about it. i'm reasonably sure that's as much ETHAN as most folks here can stomach.

i'm sending you a private email.

smalltownjohn1@lycos.com is the correct address?

 

take care stud...

 

oh, i just want to also say that i LOVE mike stefano (no, not in that way you silly boys; we've never even met!) & i hope the move back to NM goes well for him.

 

E

 

ps: trav still cracks my ass up!

[Bilbo]

RE: oh my G_D... please say he isn't back!

 

Ethan, John is not the only one who would like to have you back underfoot. Though I hope you can do it nicely, I myself would like to hear from you regularly again.

[Guest cmp]

Dear IM-Moore Personality #3,

 

Thank you for your kind and insightful post. I am glad to hear you have started out on a new career. Work is always the best cure for depression. Are #1 and #2 comfortable with your new way of life? Too bad you need to drag them along to out-calls. Anyway, I hope you can find satisfaction and happiness in your new career and you can make all your clients very happy, irrespective of age, looks, color or persuasion. Please post your contact information, as I am coming to Canada soon and I fear Matt would not be friendly enough for me.

 

Good luck and keep that beaming smile and good humor!

[Guest Paulo Giuseppe]

I have been an escort for over 8 years now and I was deeply hurt when I read this posting on the message board about an Escort/Client relationship. I felt a little bit ashamed for being considered an escort if these absurd statements an irresponsible and unhappy hustler posted were true, then I realized that this person was not an escort but only a hustler.

 

I totally disagree with what he has written, WHOEVER YOU ARE ! I have no respect for you and I really believe you are in the wrong business.

 

I have something else to tell you, I believe you are a very unhappy person and this hatred that you have for “your clients” has a psychological influence on your statement. I think you should look for professional help. MAYBE some good human being will be able to help you.

 

I have a message for all of the readers and escorts who are not HUSTLERS (like this person who does not even know what he is): The actual Escort/Client relationship is MUTUAL RESPECT as in any other profession and this man who wrote this note has respect neither for himself nor for any other person.

 

Paulo Giuseppe (Paulo #2)

[Bilbo]

Welcome, Paulo. Good to have you with us. Only one smallish thingy: You note that your review is available under Paulo #2, but you don't say in which city. As Hoo numbers the same name in the same city, there might be a few other Paulo #2s kicking around out there.

[Guest Hanover]

The overreaction to your (I thought self-evident) observations should underscore just how little reality has to do with this message board. Such reactions usually indicate that you came dangerously close to the truth.

[Guest Paulo Giuseppe]

Hi, Bilbo

 

Thanks for welcoming me to this site. I am in Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area. I hope we can meet sometime.

 

Paulo Giuseppe (Paulo #2)

[Guest JH]

Perhaps it was just dangerously close to your truth?

[Guest Sebastian Valmont]

Reading your statements as to "pretty" people and "ugly" people made me realize very quickly that you are certainly NOT cut out to be an escort. I would suggest that you look into street walking, or get on a box with your mouth shut and look "pretty" as a stripper.

 

I have been an escort for two years now, and I won't lie, at first it was tough. That is until I came to the realization that you're not giving as much as you're getting back. Clients invite you into their homes and lives, they share many personal issues with you. What do you give them? A "pretty" thing to look at?

 

I always seem to find at least one attractive thing about a client, be it their personnality, their intellect, or even their taste in decor. (How Martha Stewart of me, I know!!) LOL

 

I do suggest you re-think your reasons for being in the business.

 

Sebastian

[Guest jwraustin]

I am not one to post on this board, but I just cant let this one get by.

 

I have been an escort for a very, very long time. I have run across escorts with this attitude before, and they dont last very long in the business, and never get very far. They arent usually around long enough to really enjoy this profession, and totally miss the point about what escorting is.

 

I certainly hope that most of the clients who use escorts realize this is only one escort's attitude, and not the attitude held by most of the sucessful escorts I know. I dont think escorting is about the money, primarily. The money does matter, but if one gets into this business just to make money, he wont last very long at all.

 

Its all about providing a service - just as your masseur, hair dresser, whatever does. If you focus on providing a great service, the money comes to you.

 

I have never found escorting to be emotionally draining for me. Challenging at times, but I never got so caught up in my own ego that I ever felt "superior" to my clients. I think its very easy to believe one's own hype, but that just comes from not really knowing who you really are to begin with.

 

 

This boy should to find another line of work, and get his head on straight. He is a good example of what is wrong with escorting. He needs to go back to MacDonalds to find a more meaningful line of work. That way he can be serving up the hamburger and fries to the otherwise inferior customers he speaks about in his diatribe.

 

Escort Jon

[Guest jojobear]

I don't know who you think you are but; you are certainly not an escort I would waste my money on. I have called escorts on and off through the years and almost always enjoyed the experience. I realize I am paying for a service and thought that was all I was getting until recently. I called an escort and he came over and we had a great time. during the time he was here he asked me if I would have a frind who was an escort. I replied "Of course I would." He then went on to tell me that many people, clients included, wouldn't have an escort as a frined. Talk about discrimination, somebody is willing to hire an escort but isn't willing to consider that person as a friend. That to me is like calling the pot calling the kettle black. Who is the better of the 2 the escort or the person who pays the escort. In my opinion neither person is any better than the other one. The escort who asked me to be his friend has turned out to be a very GOOD friend indeed and has been what a friend should be, concerned, caring and there if I need him. So don't go judging all escorts on your mind set and if anything your "Reality Check" has certainly put one more sour note on the escort profession. Go crawl back under a rock where you belong.

 

JSB:(