Almost Makes Me Tear Up

[+ Gar1eth]

For those of you who follow stars/singers coming out, you'll know that Ty Herndon a country singer came out in 2014.

 

But there had been rumors for years. Back in 1995 he was arrested in a park in Ft. Worth Texas. The arresting officer said Ty had lured him there and then exposed himself. Ty was also found to have drugs (speed) on him. Ty was married at the time to a female nurse. Ty claimed he was just going in to the park to relieve himself before the show. He was able to get out of the indecency charge and the drug charge was reduced through a plea bargain to rehabilitation and community service. I think the gay rumors persisted.

 

 

I was actually living in Ft Worth at the time-in my 30's, closeted, and a total virgin-had never even Fr. kissed anyone (male or female). I found him totally hot. And even before the arrest I think I had a crush on him.

 

I loved this video of his-used to think he was so handsome in it (still do).

 

 

Around 2010 I was on a weekend with an escort. I won't name him as he's retired and still uses his escort name as a pen-name. For some reason Ty came up. The escort wasn't a county western fan-and for the most part neither am I. So I can't remember exactly. Maybe we were talking about famous people the escort had met in the line of business-maybe one of Ty's songs was being played where we were at. But I think I remember the escort could barely recall Ty's name. I mentioned about the indecency incident that at that point had happened 10 or so years before. And I mentioned the rumors or that Ty has denied being gay. The escort said-it's not a rumor. I don't think the escort and Ty had 'seen' each other. I think they were at a party together if I'm remembering correctly. I wasn't sure what to think exactly, but it probably fueled a few fantasies.

 

Then 14 years later Ty comes out. Ty has said in interviews that his two wives knew he was gay. And that his band mates always knew.

 

Ty and his boyfriend (wish that were me-actually I'd take either Ty or the boyfriend ) when he came out in 2014.

 

 

Since coming out, he's done outreach with gay youth.

 

I missed this totally. But at the age of 57 in 2019 on the 25th anniversary of recording it, he re-did his 1st number one song from 1995, 'What Mattered Most,' and changed the pronouns to male. I find it really moving. The title of this thread isn't sarcastic. I'm not quite there. But I'm close to getting tears with it. Even without the tears, I find it very moving.

 

So I thought I'd share it in case people had missed it.

 

 

Here's the original in case anyone would like to see it.

 

 

Gman

Edited March 23, 2021 by Gar1eth

[alageorge]

Always liked his music, though I'm not a country music fan. "No Mercy" is my favorite of his songs.

[Guest]

The truth shall set you free. Honesty is the best policy.

[+ WilliamM]

Very interesting discussion, glad it was posted

[kingsley88]

Thank you for posting! Got me teary eyed as well and am glad he recorded that song with the male pronouns as he wished it to be back then. In the 2014 pic I thought Ty somewhat resembled Austin Wolf (like can pass as his brother).

[+ Gar1eth]

I may not (quite) be tearing up. But I can't get the dang song out of my head. It's stuck there along with "She's In Love With The Boy' by Trisha Yearwood. That happened to be her first #1 hit too. Both songs are from the 1990'a. Apparently I have a very specialized Earworm for first #1 hits. I was up all night on a project (nothing fun), and these songs kept popping up.

 

 

 

And Ty Herndon's second (of three) #1's is also making an occasional appearance. (I'm repeating 'Living In A Moment' from my 1st post because that's the song and video and that made me fall in deep lust with him back in 1994-95).

 

 

Gman

[+ Coolwave35]

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting him a few times on the Atlantis cruises. He’s an absolute gentleman and showman. He puts on a great concert and I’ve found him at karaoke or the piano bar a few times jamming out. He’s always been super pleasant and kind. I’m glad he’s enjoying life out of the closet.

[+ Gar1eth]

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting him a few times on the Atlantis cruises. He’s an absolute gentleman and showman. He puts on a great concert and I’ve found him at karaoke or the piano bar a few times jamming out. He’s always been super pleasant and kind. I’m glad he’s enjoying life out of the closet.

 

I'm envious but in a good way only. Or not really envious but I wish I'd had that experience too

 

Gman

[+ Coolwave35]

I'm envious but in a good way only. Or not really envious but I wish I'd had that experience too

 

Gman

 

Have you ever taken an Atlantis or RSVP cruise? The sense of camaraderie is palpable. Truly what I miss most about the old world. The sense of shared experience that connects us all is amazing on those boats and I can’t wait to be traveling again with my gay brothers.

[+ Gar1eth]

Have you ever taken an Atlantis or RSVP cruise? The sense of camaraderie is palpable. Truly what I miss most about the old world. The sense of shared experience that connects us all is amazing on those boats and I can’t wait to be traveling again with my gay brothers.

 

i haven't had the pleasure.

 

Gman

[Islesguy]

I saw Ty live in concert back when he first hit the Country scene. He opened for Tanya Tucker. The concert was great and I remember thinking he was so hot. I always thought he had the talent to be a bigger star. Met him after the show and got his autograph.

 

Tanya was excellent as always.

[+ Coolwave35]

i haven't had the pleasure.

 

Gman

There is a Hawaii one I’ll be on with some boys....

[+ Gar1eth]

Have you ever taken an Atlantis or RSVP cruise? The sense of camaraderie is palpable. Truly what I miss most about the old world. The sense of shared experience that connects us all is amazing on those boats and I can’t wait to be traveling again with my gay brothers.

i haven't had the pleasure.

 

Gman

There is a Hawaii one I’ll be on with some boys....

 

I probably wouldn't enjoy myself. I'm not saying it doesn't sound like it wouldn't be a lot of fun for a lot of people, but I don't do well in crowds where I don't know anyone. Also I'm not that a big a party-er. And I don't really have any sense of rhythm. And I feel totally awkward dancing.

 

Gman