What Advice Would You Give to Your Newbie Client or Provider Self?

[+ MysticMenace]

Most of us have learned a lot of lessons from when we started hiring providers or when some have started providing services to clients. Much of them are interspersed through various threads across multiple forums. For someone who is new to this, getting started might be overwhelming, so hopefully this thread can be a good go-to resource for someone to reference.

 

The prompt is, what advice would you give your newbie client or provider self to get started?

 

For me, here are some things that I learned in my 10 months that I would like to share to my newbie client self in January:

• Know your worth, so you can ground yourself on how much you are willing to invest in the experience.
  
• Do your due diligence. Read the comments within review sites, direct feedback from previous clients, related threads within the forum, and answers from the forum members to make an informed decision prior to taking a plunge with a provider.
  
• Be concise and direct with the provider when making initial contact. Unless instructions are provided by the provider within the ad, at the least, include where you found them (would give them a preliminary indication if the request is for escorting or massage), what city you are in, (incall/outcall) rate (if stated in ad, still confirm the rate), accepted payment method(s), proposed day and time availability, and duration. It could be as simple as, "Welcome to (city), (provider)! Found your ad on (site ad). Would like to confirm the $250 incall rate and whether you accept Venmo or PayPal. If so, are you available on (day), (date) at (time) for (duration)? Thanks!"
  
• Be clear on what your non-negotiable minimum requirements are for the experience, and make sure that those are aligned with the provider.
  
• Be clear and aligned with the provider on payment methods and logistics.
  
• Be upfront and specific with the provider on existing disabilities, skin condition, or other circumstances of which the provider should be made aware.
  
• Come excited and with an open mind during the appointment. Enjoy the experience.
  
• If the experience is not going as intended (e.g., your non-negotiable minimum requirements are not met), depending on the situation (safety, appetite for repeating the experience) and comfort-level, discuss the feedback with the provider during the session. As well intended the communications might have been, there could have still been disconnects, and being upfront gives the provider the opportunity to course-correct or agree with the feedback.
  
• Depending on the preference of the provider in receiving feedback or rating on the review site, provide an honest and objective feedback.
  

I understand that there may be different or dissenting opinions or thoughts as we all have different experiences and insights. Feel free to voice your advice.

Edited October 29, 2020 by JoeMendoza

[+ StLouisOct]

Most of us have learned a lot of lessons from when we started hiring providers or when some have started providing services to clients. Much of them are interspersed through various threads across multiple forums. For someone who is new to this, getting started might be overwhelming, so hopefully this thread can be a good go-to resource for someone to reference.

 

The prompt is, what advice would you give your newbie client or provider self to get started?

 

For me, here are some things that I learned in my 10 months that I would like to share to my newbie client self in January:

• Know your worth, so you can ground yourself on how much you are willing to invest in the experience.
  
• Do your due diligence. Read the comments within review sites, direct feedback from previous clients, related threads within the forum, and answers from the forum members to make an informed decision prior to taking a plunge with a provider.
  
• Be concise and direct with the provider when making initial contact. Unless instructions are provided by the provider within the ad, at the least, include where you found them (would give them a preliminary indication if the request is for escorting or massage), what city you are in, (incall/outcall) rate (if stated in ad, still confirm the rate), accepted payment method(s), proposed day and time availability, and duration. It could be as simple as, "Welcome to (city), (provider)! Found your ad on (site ad). Would like to confirm the $250 incall rate and whether you accept Venmo or PayPal. If so, are you available on (day), (date) at (time) for (duration)? Thanks!"
  
• Be clear on what your non-negotiable minimum requirements are for the experience, and make sure that those are made clear and aligned with the provider.
  
• Be clear and aligned with the provider on payment methods and logistics.
  
• Be upfront and specific with the provider on existing disabilities, skin condition, or other circumstances of which the provider should be made aware.
  
• Come excited and with an open mind during the appointment. Enjoy the experience.
  
• If the experience is not going as intended (e.g., your non-negotiable minimum requirements are not met), depending on the situation (safety, appetite for repeating the experience) and comfort-level, discuss the feedback with the provider during the session. As well intended the communications might have been, there could have still been disconnects, and being upfront gives the provider the opportunity to course-correct or agree with the feedback.
  
• Provide an honest feedback.
  

I understand that there may be different or dissenting opinions or thoughts as we all have different experiences and insights. Feel free to voice your advice.

Excellent and well written advice. ?

[AceHardware]

All great points. I would differ on the last one, both with providers, and people in general. I'm a feedback kinda guy, but the older I get, the more I realize most people don't like feedback no matter how diplomatic or constructive or empathetic it is--they get triggered instantly into defense mode, so I'm becoming less and less of a feedback guy. But still, you made an excellent list that oughta be pinned somewhere.

[Daverwr]

I always ask the provider if they would like me to leave feedback/reviews on the various sites.

[+ MysticMenace]

Appending to my original post - 

• I would take some notes (either on RM or on my phone) re: what I particularly liked or disliked in the experience with the provider (sometimes I'll have a note that would say 'no repeat' if the experience was just bad or subsequent behaviors post-encounter are sketchy). It definitely became handy for me when I would get update texts from providers I was not going to repeat and would politely just reply to them my unavailability.

[CheckCar]

Two more suggestions 

(1) Consider how much risk you’re willing to take. If you’re risk-averse, stick with providers who have lots of reviews, and reach out to forum members for more details on what to expect. If you’re willing to try a provider who has few or no reviews at all, be alert. Assess quickly if there are any red flags upon meeting him, have an exit strategy if needed, protect your valuables, etc. (Before I discovered this forum, I carried mace with me. Now, I stick to well-reviewed providers.)

(2) For appointments in hotels, find out ahead of time if visitors can go directly to guests’ rooms, or if they have to be met by the registered guest. I prefer the former, as I worry about the attention that the latter may attract.

 

[Islesguy]

I wait until my second message to reveal certain personal information once I know the escort and I are a match regarding fee and services. No point in revealing certain things about myself if I am not going to agree to a booking. If the escort is then not comfortable going forward, I thank him and move on. I do stick to contacting well-known, highly respected escorts with numerous recommendations usually from here so it's rare that there's an issue.