Scheduling in ways that may (inadvertently) annoy us

[Mocha]

So for the most part, I’ve had quite a good streak for the past few weeks: picked up about 2-3 new reviews on my rent profiles, along with back to back new good client experiences. So to lay it out...I’m not complaining.

 

But there’s some things I find to be quite annoying. I think the key word in many of these situations are “married”. So I have come to understand part of these annoyances are really just a reflection of their way of trying to juggle their opposite lifestyles.

 

1. When a previously booked client who I met once, books another session...they planned properly the first time, but then end up becoming unreliable on the subsequent visits:

 

These types usually seem all eager to do another appointment, but then develop a habit of “something coming up/change of plans”. One guy did that with me this weekend, and I noticed he did it previously a few weeks ago. So far he’s done it 3 times, and we’ve only met once.

 

2. The ones who contact each time I’m in town, but beat around setting anything up.

 

I noticed a guy had contacted me back in 2017, and 2018 for a session when I was in the area. Both times, he would drop out the conversation. He contacted me again the other week, and of course, dropped out again.

 

3. When guys insist on emailing instead of texting to set up a visit.

 

The other day, I had a client who kept emailing me when I had previously requested him to text me. On the day he wanted to meet, I almost missed him because each reply he sent was 2 to 3 hours apart. I was planning to end my trip early that day unless I had a client. It was after 5 pm by the time he finally texted me.

 

Those are the 3 major things that regardless of reason, I find can cause unnecessary annoyances when setting up an encounter.

Edited April 1, 2019 by Mocha

[BluDay]

I'm not an escort to to address:

 

3. When guys insist on emailing instead of texting to set up a visit.

 

As a client, I would personally email an escort at the beginning, in an attempt to keep my phone clear of escort numbers. I don't generally exchange numbers until close to the actual appointment. My initial screening of an escort I'd rather do via email. I fully recognize it is easier and quicker for the escort to get texts, but I'd rather leave putting the phone # I use for that with as few people as possible.

 

So in short, where I recognize it is much easier for you, and a faster response by you would certainly be had, I and some other clients want to keep our numbers to ourselves for a bit.

[Mocha]

I'm not an escort to to address:

 

 

 

As a client, I would personally email an escort at the beginning, in an attempt to keep my phone clear of escort numbers. I don't generally exchange numbers until close to the actual appointment. My initial screening of an escort I'd rather do via email. I fully recognize it is easier and quicker for the escort to get texts, but I'd rather leave putting the phone # I use for that with as few people as possible.

 

So in short, where I recognize it is much easier for you, and a faster response by you would certainly be had, I and some other clients want to keep our numbers to ourselves for a bit.

 

That’s perfectly understandable...and reasonable. Like I said, I know some may have alternative lifestyles which require a level of discretion.

 

However, there’s a difference between initial screening and setting up an appointment via email. I don’t mind for that use, however in the cases I’m mentioning, the screening has already been assessed. In the example above, I’d already responded a week ago. The last thing I said to him was, “text me a day prior to the session to confirm”.

 

It becomes a case of (this is not an actual conversation):

 

Client: I am at (insert upscale hotel brand, but no address). Are we still on for today?

 

Me: (2-4 hours later when I check my rentmen email and/or the rentmen notification reaches my GMAIL) yes I’m available, what time are we going for?

 

Him: (2 hours later) how about 7 pm?

 

Me: (2 hour later) yeah I can do that time. Can you text me the specific location

 

Him: (45 minutes later) great.

 

Me: (5 minutes later) please text me to confirm

 

Him: (3 hours later): okay...

 

So, over the course of a day...several hours pass. That’s so annoying when I’m already in an unfamiliar city, and trying to sort out my day. That whole conversation could have been had in 30 minutes of text.

[Mocha]

May I suggest that you simply state something like “I respect your bias toward email, but since it is slower, I am unable to confirm the reservation for you, and may schedule someone else, until I have the following info confirming time, place, phone number, etc”

 

It’s similar to a restaurant not seating a party until all the members have arrived. Personally, I think the key is to not make the message arrogant but rather about mutual respect and efficiency.

 

That sounds like a good way to put it. Thankyou.