What should I do next?

[raulgmanzo]

I respect your right to avoid the discomfort of further play. But I agree with Lookin, this is an opportunity. Not just for the ex-congressman to learn something but possibly for you to learn about his beliefs. We stand a better chance of changing those beliefs through understanding.

 

My first instinct is to label the ex-congressman a bigot and neandertal. But from my comfortable position as an observer I feel there would be something wrong with labeling him such without taking advantage of a given opportunity to better know him and his fears.

 

Yes it may be likely that he is mean, bigoted, ignorant etc. But that is based on hearsay. I don't doubt what you've heard about him, and media reports and his voting record would normally be adequate to form an opinion of him. But you have an opportunity to get more information.

 

The point is not the very unlikely possiblity that he will convince you that all of us gay men are going to hell but rather that you may come to some deeper understanding of his thoughts on the issue. And in doing so he may find a face saving way to soften his views. Perhaps he hardly changes but it may help his grandchildren view things differently.

 

It doesn't matter how entrenched we think their viewpoints, some, maybe most of that is based on fear and ignorance. I believe that each of us as the power to counter fear and ignorance with friendliness and knowledge.

 

Admittedly I might avoid playing with or scream at him. I'm probably not nearly as cool headed and respectful as you seem. It sounds corny but you having dialogue and understanding with this man is the type of thing that gives me hope for the future.

 

Raul

[Guest zipperzone]

>This is a very self-assured man, nearly 80, who is not likely

>to be talked into a different opinion by someone else, no

>matter how articulate.

 

If he is nearly 80 and an EX congressman whose influence is no doubt greatly dimished - why care if he changes his mind or not? He won't be around all that much longer anyway.

[raulgmanzo]

Well that he is no longer a congressman means that he may not feel the need to hold a certain view for political reasons. So he may be more open minded now. And he may still have influence, might be friends with other politicians, have children or grandchildren who look up to him. Perhaps he still sits on the board for some large organizations or even helps his party or church decide who to run or endorse.

And who's to say he won't be around for another 10, 20 or even more years? Especially if he's still playing tennis.

 

Raul