Client Best Practices

[+ 7829V]

Arrive on time freshly showered.

 

If need to cancel notify well in advance.

 

Be brief and corteus when communicating with the masseur via text or phone.

 

This is a business transaction, treat it as such. The masseur is not your friend. At least not after the first few sessions. His job is to be friendly a make you feel welcomed. Do not text him if is not for scheduling or asking about his services.

 

Respect the masseurs privacy.

[IntuitiveTactile]

freshly showered

 

Even if it's going to be a purely therapeutic session. Please be mindful that your ass crack can get ripe and funky. Please be respectful of your masseur and don't present yourself with a foul aromatherapy experience. After all your ass is squarely pointed UP for half the time

Edited August 6, 2018 by IntuitiveTactile

[+ Travis69]

Don't ask how many massages they give a day so you can figure out what their yearly income is. TACKY!!!!!!!

[bloop]

This is a business transaction, treat it as such.

 

This is a valid point, but I've also noticed that some masseurs can become sheepish about the more transactional aspects of the trade. For example, I've come across enough masseurs who chafe at being handed the payment that I always just place it on a surface in plain view once the massage is done and I've gotten dressed. Or they'll suddenly become cutesy and aloof ("Oh, is this for me?"). I find the lack of straightforwardness about the transactional nature of the experience to be an annoyance, and I wonder if any masseurs on here have insight on that.

[Kinected]

Payments probably depend on the person and their money culture.

 

I usually hand them the money neatly folded in hand. Never had anyone count it in front of me. One guy had to special paper weight for the money. Also since some take CCs, they have to present you with the app so you can swipe. Then the guys who use Cash App or PayPal. It can really vary.

[+ bashful]

Hired a masseur (strictly therapeutic) regularly for a couple of years. First time, I handed him the fee. He quickly placed it on the counter near the door. Every time after, I simply placed it on the same counter as I said goodbye.

[Kody S]

Also... do not ask the masseur personal questions or be overly chatty if it is clear the masseur does not want to talk. Respect their boundaries both physical and emotional.

[Capitano]

This one is based on PMs that I receive: Don't hire a masseur if you really want an escort experience.

 

I am sometimes amazed by questions like "does he do oral or bottom?" I mean, come ON, what do you expect?

Frankly, if I wanted an escort experience and thought that a hot guy in his best years would do a massage plus all these things for $120, and several times during the day, I'd run.

[Dmitri]

Keep in mind that you answered a Massage Ad, not a Personals Ad for a quick hook up. Also, remember that your masseur is not doing this for a hobby, because they have nothing else to do. They are doing this since it is their JOB. It is how they pay their rent, buy their food, pay their expenses, etc. If you treat the whole experience from the perspective that this is not a HOBBY of theirs, but their JOB, from booking the session, to showing up on time, to treating them with respect, etc. you will become a valuable and favorite client to your masseur.

Edited August 7, 2018 by Dmitri

[bloop]

Payments probably depend on the person and their money culture.

 

I usually hand them the money neatly folded in hand. Never had anyone count it in front of me. One guy had to special paper weight for the money. Also since some take CCs, they have to present you with the app so you can swipe. Then the guys who use Cash App or PayPal. It can really vary.

 

This is still fascinating to me because even with the few masseurs I've hired who use PayPal or Venmo, there's a lack of directness. In each case, I recall that I've sent the masseur the payment and I've had to either remember their rate or look it up because they didn't just tell me when said I was doing an e-payment (or take the transaction into their own hands and charge my account). The only time I've been directly presented with a price is when I've used my card and they hand me the app as you mentioned.

 

I'm trying to think of what service might be most analogous to m4m massage, but most of the time there's someone besides the practitioner who handles payment (at a spa, some hair salons, the doctor's office, personal trainers, etc). When dining out, you're presented with a bill, though typically in a check presenter so there's some gesture towards discretion. And of course, in most cases prices are listed on a menu you receive.

 

I guess I find this interesting because my original hunch was that it has to do with the proximity to sex work (I'd consider even some strictly therapeutic masseurs on MF and RM sex workers) and a desire to downplay the exchange of money. I'm also inclined to believe that people in this line of work tend to not be especially business savvy, but that's obviously a sweeping assumption.

[Kody S]

This is still fascinating to me because even with the few masseurs I've hired who use PayPal or Venmo, there's a lack of directness. In each case, I recall that I've sent the masseur the payment and I've had to either remember their rate or look it up because they didn't just tell me when said I was doing an e-payment (or take the transaction into their own hands and charge my account). The only time I've been directly presented with a price is when I've used my card and they hand me the app as you mentioned.

 

I'm trying to think of what service might be most analogous to m4m massage, but most of the time there's someone besides the practitioner who handles payment (at a spa, some hair salons, the doctor's office, personal trainers, etc). When dining out, you're presented with a bill, though typically in a check presenter so there's some gesture towards discretion. And of course, in most cases prices are listed on a menu you receive.

 

I guess I find this interesting because my original hunch was that it has to do with the proximity to sex work (I'd consider even some strictly therapeutic masseurs on MF and RM sex workers) and a desire to downplay the exchange of money. I'm also inclined to believe that people in this line of work tend to not be especially business savvy, but that's obviously a sweeping assumption.

 

Yes the lack of business savvy for some (not all) is stunning at times. But some are quite fastidious when it comes to money and keep really good records and ledgers about who they saw, when, where, and how much they received. Some have told me about their tracking system.

 

Usually I confirm the rate when I confirm the appointment so that there is no misunderstanding. If the rate is significantly different than what they post on the website then we talk about that. It’s usually no big deal. What makes me crazy are those who upsell in the middle of the massage. I don’t repeat if that happens.

Edited August 7, 2018 by Kody S

[Kinected]

@bloop

 

One of the guys I see the most said most of his clients are 40+ year olds so it'll probably depend on how in tune to tech they are as far as app payments go. I know with Cash App you can submit a request for the amount so it's all there. However I'd usually confirm price at the booking and then again after service rendered. I'm pretty tech savvy so it's not an issue for me but 9 times out of 10 I use cash unless I just don't have time to get to an atm and be on time. Also some guys will add the surcharge to use the app into your price so there's the convenience tax you'll be paying.

 

I'm also inclined to believe that people in this line of work tend to not be especially business savvy, but that's obviously a sweeping assumption.

 

Looking at how some structure their price tiers, I'd be inclined to agree at least for about 40 percent of them. It seems things can get wonky at the price per minute where the rate is actually way cheaper at 2 hrs or noticing higher at 1 hr. However who am I to tell someone what their time and energy should cost? Some guys are worth it for me others are not.

 

However one guy I use has several gigs and other businesses. I think he doesn't even need to do massage at all for his bills, he just likes to doing it. It's probably just spending money for him and he probably likes touching guys so it's win win. Rather have providers who enjoy it versus guys who don't really like doing this work but want "easy" money.

[bloop]

However one guy I use has several gigs and other businesses. I think he doesn't even need to do massage at all for his bills, he just likes to doing it. It's probably just spending money for him and he probably likes touching guys so it's win win. Rather have providers who enjoy it versus guys who don't really like doing this work but want "easy" money.

 

Absolutely agreed. That's why I looked slightly askance at the above comment about treating massage as a hobby vs a job. Of course, clients should always be professional, but some masseurs do this work for the reasons you described (while also maintaining professionalism...in most cases).

[IntuitiveTactile]

Give your masseur ample notice, and don't feel that you're being ignored because every time you inquire, he's not available with short notice under an hour