Two things to Tell

[Boston Guy]

I had an enjoyable conversation about escorting earlier today, with a guy who has been hiring escorts on and off for 25 years. It was interesting to hear his perspective on how things have changed.

 

One thing that surprised me, though, was that there were topics he was quite hesitant to talk about with escorts, even though he often wanted to, and even after all these years. For me, if there's something I want an escort to know, I tell them. But clearly that's not always the case. This gentleman is a good 20 years older than me, so age may enter into it.

 

The two things he said he felt most reluctant to say were:

 

1) I wish you'd go take a quick shower because you smell.

2) I really want you to be strong and dominant.

 

He was reluctant to say #1 out of fear of offendng the guy. I've also been in the situation where the escort didn't smell good and I've generally walked him to the bathroom and asked if he wanted to shower alone or together. :-)

 

My friend was reluctant to to express #2 because he said "I feel stupid saying it to a young guy, even though it's what I really want." I tried to get him to see that the escort would appreciate knowing, that it would helpful to get out in the open, etc., etc. No dice. He said that while he'd think about it, he just didn't think he'd be able to say it and would have to continue hoping that the young men he hired would just naturally turn out to be dominant.

 

So, are you guys ever reluctant to tell your escorts things you'd like to be able to tell them? If so, what are some things you've wanted to tell your escorts but have been reluctant to express?

 

BG

[Epigonos]

I don't know how old your friend is but I'm 65 and have been hiring now for only about four years. Early in my communication (email) with an escort I am considering hiring I SPELL OUT IN VERY PLAIN AND GRAPHIC LANGUAGE exactly would I expect our time together to include. On one occasion early in my hiring when I wasn't totally sure what I wanted from the escort I hired I misinformed the poor guy and the meeting didn't go well. TOTALLY MY FAULT. I have since learned what I want and how to explain it. Dear god in heaven if you can't be honest with an escsort about sex with whom can you be?

[bigguyinpasadena]

Ya know-I sometimes find it dificult to express what I really want to do with some 'scorts-others i have no problen discussing what sort of naughty games i would like to play.

Not that I do not have a great time with those I think would not be responsive to suggestions of anything but vanillia-My taste are as large as my appetites-which are huge-I just cannot talk about some of my kinks with certain 'scorts.Which is a pity-since the playing naughty games with clean-cut preppy types is a big turn-on for me.

 

i am groing more vocal about how I want to play with different types of guys-but I can understand ho BG's friend feels.

[indyeric]

For many years I found it hard to ask ANY guy, escort or not, to be storng and dominant. And this may seem like a silly thing to make a difference, but what makes a difference for me is to frame it as a fantasy I want to act out.

 

It's easier for me to say, "I have a fantasy of being dominanted" than "I want you to dominate me." The first way is less embarrassing for me--go figure!

[best hotel]

....do younger escorts feel strange dominating a middle aged guy?...i, too, have hesitated to ask...i prefer older escorts for this reason...i wish more of the older guys would comeout of retirement ...

[Jay Ganymede]

"Early in my communication (email) with an escort I am considering hiring I SPELL OUT IN VERY PLAIN AND GRAPHIC LANGUAGE exactly would I expect our time together to include.

 

That's something I am not a big fan of, "spelling out in plain and graphic language." What happens then is that if the escort really pays attention to the "spelling out" he consciously goes into a checklist mindset and loses all the excitement of sex. It actually surprises me that clients do this, especially being older. I would figure with age comes the knowledge of what makes great sex and it's really not reacting one's favorite porn scene or pass sexual experience.

 

I've had one lad actually hand me a 2 page printout of a review he submitted as soon as I walked thorough he door. He reasoning, it was the outline of what he thought made a great escort encounter. I tossed it to the floor pinned him against the wall and kissed him. When I let him go I told him the best sex is sex that is in the moment. It is like that cliché acting motto; acting is reacting.

 

Top or bottom, that's all I need to know, and not even that as I usually forget before I hit your door however it's very very easy to find out laying next to you.

 

Ya savy?

[indyeric]

"I tossed it to the floor pinned him against the wall and kissed him. When I let him go I told him the best sex is sex that is in the moment. It is like that cliché acting motto; acting is reacting.

 

I'm a college music teacher and I wish I could put that quote up in my office. I got chastized early in my career for pointing out the parallels between making music and making love (so I started making analogies to "dancing.")

 

The best music making is in the moment, too, when the performers are creatively responding to each other. That's when there can be an incredible synergistic chemistry and things happen that no one could have imagined before the concert. It's what makes live performances have a special excitement that you can't find in a recording.

 

OTOH, if someone has a particular fantasy he needs to act out, then it makes sense to find a specialist.

 

Anyway, Jay, your post makes me want to hire you!

 

--Eric

[KentuckyBoy]

Well, I must confess that I am the "lad" to whom Jay refers in his post. I might add that Jay does not exagerate about my two page review nor his seductive response to it. He was, of course, correct about not scripting the event. The sex that night was hot,satisfying and fun for this confirmed bottom, and I believe for Jay too.