WolfCompanion

You do realize the client is a long time lurker here and is sitting back snickering, thoroughly amused by this thread.

That can be true! But I have not disclosed his info (someone I would never do to anyone). I am just trying to get some advices to give us a better time. If he is reading the messages on here, he better tell me! ?

Maybe the clients are using miles or CC points.

 

I do agree with you that more money is the best way to impress an escort, if that's what you meant.

 

I've heard some escorts love watching a large screen TV ?

You're right. A lot of people use their credit card miles. I am not getting a first class flight. I think it is unecessary! Haha Yes, I do love watching a large screen TV, but I am okay with doing it on the ground.

I'm always amazed at the clients who will fly someone in business class or even first class to impress. (that's not what impresses them and it's a waste of what does and what they could use more.)

haha I hear you. I am not flying first class. I do not need it. I am already grateful he's investing my time and flying me in there. But I do see your point.

A little late in the conversation, but I still want to pitch in my 2 cents. You have been given very good advice here, @WolfCompanion, I concur with basically everything. When I lived in NYC, I flew over quite a few providers for extended stays and had fantastic times. From my experience, I would add the following points:

• You need to allocate some free time for yourself, away from each other. As much as you both might want to, it is impossible to spend an entire weekend tied up like Siamese twins, fucking like rabbits, believe me (and I am an extremely sexual, horny guy).
  
• Do not put your phone on mute: TURN IT OFF and put it in your suitcase. You can check your mails and texts during your alone time, never when you are with him.
  
• Do not overthink things: go with the flow and enjoy your weekend
  

BTW, you are very cute.

Thank you for your advices! And not, you are not too late in the conversation. I do like the idea of turning off my phone so I do not divide my attention. And thank you for the compliment. It's very sweet of you!

Definitely Chick-fil-A!

I went on the river architecture tour my first time in Chicago. I loved it. It also helped being from NY and having a good back-and-forth with all the hometown people about which city is best. Obviously, the answer is NY.

 

If your guy likes comedy shows, I highly recommend a show at Second City. Lots of famous comedians got their start there.

Thank you for your suggestion. I always appreciate you taking your time to help me out in becoming a better escort!

It's also a great place for lunch if you're at the art institute. They have an enormous array of flavored vodkas. I rarely go to Russian restaurants, but I've been there over half a dozen times (essentially on every trip to Chicago).

Super! I will give him the suggestion. Sounds like a great place to visit although I do not drink alcohol. ?

I personally don't hire someone long-term unless I've done a brief hire for them first (unless it's at a highly discounted rate), and I think most clients are similar, so you should be very flattered that someone's willing to do that for you. Anytime I hire someone long-term, I will send them a copy of my driver's license and I expect them to do the same (passport and visa if needed for foreign hires), and that's a good policy before such a commitment. It's probably a good policy not to fly to someone unless you know for sure who they are, nor to send anyone a plane ticket unless you know who they are. If I'm hiring someone for an hour locally, I guess I don't need to know that, but not for a week-end hire. I agree with most of the advice, but don't ask for money up-front. It will really sour things.

I have a sense that you probably know better already, but limit your texting time, as others have cautioned. About 6 months ago, I flew someone from Colombia to Puerto Vallarta (Mexico). He was nice enough and certainly handsome enough, but he was texting all of the time, including during meals. I asked him multiple times to cut it out. 6 months later, he still texts me almost every day asking about another trip. I told him I was unhappy with his constant texting, and he still doesn't get it. I haven't responded back in 5 months. I know he was super-excited about the trip, but I couldn't have a normal conversation, and he wouldn't listen to me.

Thank you for your advice! I appreciate the suggestions and will definitely use them. Yes, I am flattered because he wants to hangout for a long period of time even tho we have not met yet. About the texting, I do not have the problem since I keep my phone off/mute most of the time I am hanging out with a client. I think it shows respect and consideration.

Few other items:

-Ask him if you need specific clothing for any outings he may plan or anticipate. You need enough info to pack your travel bag correctly.

-Let him know if you need something or are hungry. I always make a point of discussing this with companions. We can't read your mind, and our eating habits/schedules are often very different from those who are younger than us.

-If you hit it off and things are going well, it's ok to enjoy yourself. Enjoy your client, your time together, the experience, and follow up with a thank you after the meeting has ended. If it's a win-win meeting, the appreciation could lead to another meeting, and that's a key component of success in this biz.....repeat clients and longer meetings. That reduces the wear and tear on your mind, and makes your business more efficient.

 

Enjoy the ride!

Thank you so much! I love your suggestions and advice. I was very anxious this afternoon when I posted this thread but I'm much more relaxed now. I do appreciate you taking the time to respond my ad. ?

Good luck! I also flew a provider to me who I never met. I was nervous but it went well. Communication was key as others have outlined. The only thing I forgot was to say the place we were staying at had a pool but bought a bathing suit ?

Thank you! I do appreciate it. I'm definitely going to use some of the suggestions I got today and communicating with him more. It's a learning process especially because I'm new to this. But trying to do my best! Haha pools are always fun.

That restaurant really is quite wonderful. Their afternoon tea is a truly memorable experience if you're into that sort of thing, which I am.

I'll give him the restaurant idea. I'll definitely check with him and suggest it. Thank you! ?

smile, talk slowly, look him in the eye, take the lead if you feel that's needed, bring him coffee in bed (if that seems appropriate and practical), bring a NC-style gift for him, buy him a couple dinners or lunches, make him the center of the universe (if he seems to need that), don't send hourly updates on your travel progress, but update only as needed......

 

be good buddies meeting for a fun weekend.....

Thank you! You definitely gave me great ideas. It's always what I try to do: my client is the center of the universe and he has my undivided attention. I appreciate your suggestions. I'm sure they'll help me so much

He never saw it and heard it was pretty intense. He wasn't afraid to watch, I just don't think he ever got around to it. But, the real reason we watched was during out pre-meeting conversations I jokingly told him that if I really liked him I wasn't going to let him leave and would keep him in my basement well like Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs. He didn't get the reference so I made a mental note to watch it while he was here. We did, while cuddling on the sofa.

OMG! That just sounds like a lot of fun. You also sound very attentive and creative! haha Glad everything went well.

Yeah, well you have to pay for those.

 

My advice is based on trial and error. I tried to learn from my mistakes.

Still really appreciate it!

I flew a provider to me last year. It was the first time doing that for both of us. We were both a little anxious, but it turned out to be one of the best weekends ever. I booked and paid for his flight the day we agreed on our weekend which was four weeks away. He accepted that as my "deposit" and an indication I was serious. We had a few phone conversations to exchange pleasantries and talk about things easier discussed verbally rather than several texts. We also texted frequently, just to get to know each other's personalities. That weekend flew by. Like your situation, we discussed the same basics, He knew what I was into. I also like to cuddle and enjoy getting to know someone, especially when our personalities click. Ours did, big time. It was like hanging with a friend. We watched a couple movies. I finally convinced him to watch Silence of the Lambs while here. I made sure I had things he liked to eat, which I found out through our conversations and texts. It's been almost 8 months since our weekend and we still text each other frequently just to say hi and see how the other is doing.

 

My advice: communicate with him to find things in which you may have a mutual interest. See if he'd prefer a more structured weekend where you plan activities or if he'd rather let things happen organically as you're there. I asked my provider if there was anything he wanted to do or see while here. He was looking forward to just chilling out and relaxing, so we did. I may be the client but I want my guests to enjoy themselves.

 

The fact that you're asking about this and want to make sure your client has an enjoyable weekend speaks volumes about you. You've shown yourself to be thoughtful and engaging in this thread, which I'm sure is indicative of your personality. Just be yourself and you'll do fine.

Thank you so much for responding to my thread and sharing your personal experience. That makes me feel much better. I will definitely use the suggestions you gave me. I do want to make sure he will have a great time. If I can provide this, I will also have a great time.

I am very happy you had a great experience with this guy you flew in. I have had a few overnights and still text and keep in touch with my clients.

I do really appreciate your words. Yes, I do want to make sure he will enjoy our time together.

PS: I cannot believe you had to convince someone to watch "The Silence of the Lambs." First, because the movie and Anthony Hopkins act were just amazing. Second, there's no better movie than terror/suspense to watch when you have some company and want to cuddle.

Thanks!

Anytime!

I wish you the best of luck. It's exciting to meet new people and at some time, we were all new to this hobby.

 

If any of my advice is useful to you, that's great. Just remember, it's free advice so no warranty is either implied or extended. LOL.

Thank you again! Yes, I am always excited to meet new people and hopefully I have only met nice guys so far. Very excited for my first "weekend" with someone.

Haha really? No warranty at all? I thought it would come with some "bumper-to-bumper" warranty! lol ?

I haven't tried topping; I'm worried that I'll get soft WAY too quickly. What's the deal with cockrings? How long can you wear one?

I understand you! The cock ring helps me. It does help you to keep erection and also helps you stay longer before you cum.

Good, I'm sure you'll have a good time.

 

btw, has he published reviews about other escorts in RM? Do you know his real name? Does he use a regular number or a texting app? the fact that he got your ticket is the main thing and sign of commitment. You can also texting from your airport "I'm on my way" and share your location with him.

 

I'm sure you'll have a great time, besides weekends/overnights are the best way to get to know someone and disconnect from folks texting you daily.

 

If you edit your profile and type "unavailable during X to X" he might read it and find it classy! Also locals will think about hiring you before your trip!

 

Enjoy!

You're so nice! I do appreciate your help a lot. No, he has not published any reviews but I understand because he is very discreet and I am here to make sure he keeps this way. He did give me his name and phone number. They seem legit. I am not really afraid or anything about him. It's more like I do want to make sure he will have a great time. If he does have a great time, I will consequently have a great time as well. Oh I do like the idea of updating my profile with "unavailable dates."

THANK YOU!!!

I have had a number of times when I paid an escort to visit me in my home which was a train ride, a car ride or a flight away from where they lived. Sometimes it was a first date and other times I had met with them in their home towns. Of course I am coming at this from the client's perspective but I don't think it's unreasonable for him to expect that you might want to do the things he enjoys doing. After all, you are the escort and he is seeking someone to accompany him for the weekend.

 

Therefore I think it appropriate for you to ask him what it is in Chicago he would like to show you since it is your first visit there. Or if he is a homebody and likes to cook, for instance, tell him what you like to eat and see if there is something he can do in that line. If you can cook, doing it together is really fun as I discovered with one escort who was really good at it.

 

Last year I had an escort visit me for the weekend and knew he was an artist, as I am, so I told him to bring any materials he wanted and I would also have mine available. As it turned out the weather was not great so we spent Saturday afternoon drawing, me him and him me. I still treasure his portrait of me.

 

Take some clothes appropriate to dining out if he invites you to a nice restaurant. I had one escort in New York, who wasn't from there, who showed up in cut off jean shorts and a tee shirt when he knew I was taking him to a nice restaurant. We were actually staying together later that night and the next night at my hotel and I knew him from a date in Montreal. Anyway, it turned out fine because the waiters were all over him although they did seat us in a dark corner.

 

I think the most satisfying weekends are those where there is some common ground outside the bedroom, but of course the latter is what makes the weekend extra special for a client.

I do appreciate your response. You have definitely helped me a lot. I know sometimes it can sounds dumb but I am also very new to this. I will definitely bring up some of the suggestions you gave me. He is investing in my time and I really want to give him a great time. Again, I do appreciate you taking your time to respond my thread.

I know but it's a start.

 

 

 

 

Does he agree on "safe only" as stated in your profile in RM? in the age of PrEP for some clients but a huge turn off.

 

 

 

If you go to your account and click in account details scroll down and you'll read "About you:" you can write there a link to your ad that will appear in all of your posts just like the small print under all my posts that you can see below the line. It's a great way to advertise in this forum.

and thank you for your help with adding my ad to this profile.

I know but it's a start.

 

 

 

 

Does he agree on "safe only" as stated in your profile in RM? in the age of PrEP for some clients but a huge turn off.

He did not talk anything about sex. He only mentioned about having a good time, enjoying each other's company, and cuddling. I do not that sex will come up at some point. He told me that he read my profile a few times. So I do believe he knows how I feel about safe sex.

Many times. It's OK to ask him how you can make his weekend the best possible experience, e.g. public outings and private time. And it's proper to expect a reasonable amount of sleep each night, and some quiet time each day to check your messages, texts and emails. If you keep the phone time to modest use, focus on creating a satisfying encounter for both of you, and communicate (speak and listen well) with your client, you will exceed the expectations of most clients and will likely create a win-win meeting for both of you.

 

Best wishes and have fun!

OMG! Thank you so much for your response and suggestions. I will definitely bring some of them up.

I hope the weekend goes well for you @WolfCompanion

 

You say you’re a “little anxious” and you may want to confide that to him. He may also be nervous. What may help you is if you say what matters to you - I’m thinking of a range of things such as I like to eat healthy food, I need at least 7 hours sleep a night, I’d like to have some personal time each day - and perhaps you can ask if he has made plans for you both.

 

And to get it out of the way, perhaps you should ask for half your fee on meeting as it is your first time with him.

Thank you! Those are good things to talk about. I am not really concerned about meeting him. I am more concerned if he does not think I am what he expected. I do appreciate your response.

If you're an escort, it might be a good idea to have a link in your profile on how to get a hold of you. It would be a good way to drum up business. So if you have an ad on RentMen, or your own website, etc. I'm not sure what you're asking, but are you asking what an interesting thing to do would be for your first time in Chicago? If he asks you what you might want to do, I'd say if I could only pick one thing it might be one of those boat tours in which you're partly in the lake/high speed, then go up the river looking at the architecture. If you're an art fan, the Art Institute is one of the finest museums on the planet. The nearby Russian Tea Time restaurant is one of my favorite Russian restaurants anywhere.

 

https://www.getyourguide.com/chicago-l225/chicago-architecture-cruise-on-seadog-t65241/

Thank you for your advise. I just added my RM profile link to this one. I do also appreciate the recommendations.