BDSfan4Life

You will be fine, live and learn.

Was that what he was driving when you met him 3+ years ago?
 
~Boomer~

@BDSfan4Life Since you are specifically asking about others who have met him - I am one of them. I have met him several times - and although my experiences with him were generally positive, I did start to see the patterns of manipulation begin once we had established an even very limited relationship. He would text me out of the blue asking for money. He would ask for “an advance” on our next visit. These are red flags for me, and I would shut them down immediately - but he would wait for a period of time and then try again. When he was told “no” again, he eventually gave up. Our last exchange was a little terse because his frustration began to show. At times, he seems really desperate for money.
 
Based on the story you told, I can understand how his personality can play right into someone like you, since you seem to be a giver/pleaser. He can be disarmingly endearing in a childlike way since he always seems happy, smiley and easy-going - almost like a big, goofy kid trapped in the body of a bodybuilder. But regardless of these qualities, he has already shown you who he is. Repeatedly.
Don’t make the same mistake again.

35k ruined his life? 50k might have been lethal.

I find it creepy when clients wanna know my “real name”. I use a chosen name for a reason. You’re hiring Zachary. Not the real me. The real me isn’t anywhere near as professional and selfless when it comes to sex. Zachary is a real fireball of a character. Calling me by any other name or expressing a desire to would take me out of the headspace that I’m always in when I’m “on the clock”. Not to mention trigger privacy concerns. And make me feel like the client is being invasive unnecessarily. I know a lot of you think you want the “real person” behind the escort, but you don’t. If that’s what you really wanted then you’d be on grindr or cruising in bars instead of hiring. If you want a professional experience then call Zachary for a good time. If you want my “real name” then go find me in a bar or at the gym and ask me for my name. You’ll get my name but you won’t get the experience that Zachary can give you, that’s for sure...

feel free to pass. more than your prerogative to do so. much classier to just "pass" than to say something negative about someone before doing so. but that seems to be where our country is going now....

Once you name a name it drifts into the realm of a review. The OP was careful, the rest should be also.

Once you name a name it drifts into the realm of a review. The OP was careful, the rest should be also.

You sound like a really nice guy. Anyone spending that kind of cash should not leave meet ups feeling anything less than refreshed. These are broke ppl problems. You pay all this mobey for your problems to go away(temporarily) not for new ones.