Studsearcher

You all are much better people than me. When I see a post like that my knee jerk reaction is to think A. The person is clueless to the legal problems it could potentially cause them and their clients, and B. It may just be a scam to solicit sympathy donations from gullible individuals. Fortunately for all of us most people are much nicer than me.

I still use google voice for first time meets and it supports photos now. The only times I’ve had prospects call me out on it were some shady acting guys from Seeking. I rarely talk to providers on the phone though, I usually stick to texting. Granted I don’t hire as often lately, but I’ve never had a pro have a problem with it. I think the rest of your behavior says more than the number you use.

This reminds me of last year when I was interviewing general contractors for a home renovation. One of them told me ‘all of our customers love us except a few and they’re usually the real problem so we give them a bad review too.’ I don’t know where they would review a customer but I’ve heard of businesses suing people for leaving bad yelp reviews. I like to think I’m a pretty good client to have, but if I knew of and had access to a site where providers reviewed clients (anything beyond the number or email being a time waster) I would avoid them.

Surprisingly they ask for one less than half of the time. I don’t send until I know they’re really interested, and I’ve almost always had them send a face pic first. I always use one that I don’t use anywhere else.

It depends on where you are. I usually ask what they think is fair and then they turnaround and ask what I think is fair. In a mid size city I’ll say 150 and they will be okay with it or counter 200. In a place like Fort Lauderdale or Chicago I start at 200 and they will accept or counter at 250. So basically about 50 to 100 under the rate of a pro. I wouldn’t go full pro rate since they aren’t reviewed anywhere, so it’s more of a chance. I always give them extra if its good enough that I want to meet again. I’ll also cover any Uber fares on top of that. I am very cautious when meeting this way, and while that has meant fewer meets, they have nearly all resulted in multiple visits with very hot guys.

To me it doesn’t make the guy any more attractive if he’s straight. And it’s a ‘straight’ up no for guys who advertise as straight. Been there, done that, lesson learned. That being said, when I was hiring in my 30’s and going to the gay bars every weekend, I preferred finding straight guys on sites like Craigslist because I figured it offered an extra layer of discretion. I realize now that my logic was probably flawed, but I never had any issues either as I have always been excessively cautious about who I hire or hook up with. Most of my best regulars have been straight guys, but like others have said, there are usually more limits as well. I guess my opinion is that advertising ‘straight’ as a selling point is a turn off, but being a hot open minded discreet guy who happens to be straight is okay.

My favorite local bartender, a straight guy whom I have drooled over for a couple years, joined OnlyFans recently. I joined his site and regret it. He’s so handsome and sexy (and nice) in person, but so awkward and unsexy online. And a small wiener. Ugh. I’m sure I’ll forget that if the bars ever reopen. Anyway, in my experience OF is for guys who want money but don’t want to do anything more than tease. I’ve had better luck on Instagram.

I got calls as well (automated, thankfully) for the first few purchases but none since. No fraud on my account... yet. Coincidentally, I’ve experienced credit card fraud twice and both times were a couple weeks after signing up on Corbin Fisher. Probably just a coincidence, but I haven’t used that site since. Also, I’ve decided that OF is a complete waste of money.

There aren’t many new cases in my metro anymore, I don’t have any conditions that make me high risk and I’m not visiting family for at least another month. So, if I hired locals I would probably do so. I don’t hire locals, and the thought of hiring someone who has been traveling the country through this does not appeal to me, so I can’t say when I’ll get back to it. my only current regular, a student from Seeking, chose to go to Miami for spring break, so I haven’t seen him in a long while either. Instead I’ve taken up therapy shopping online, even if it does mean having the occasional hot delivery guy placing new furniture inside the house :-)

Per social media he’s been traveling with his new boyfriend so I don’t know why he’s even advertising since they don’t appear to work together. Current COVID situation notwithstanding, he did you a favor. Your money will be better spent on someone who doesn’t act like he’d rather be someplace else the whole time.

Since you must not have an account on that site you won’t be able to see the profile. The pics are the same. Here is the text: About Me Fun-loving, accomplished graduate student looking for authentic connection with someone who can help me during my current professional transition period. I’m equally happy cooking dinner for a romantic night in or hitting the clubs and dancing until sunrise. I love traveling (40+ countries and counting!) and making new friends in unexpected places. Beware, if I like you, I’ll talk a lot. Chemistry is king. A healthy lifestyle is a priority for me - exercise, clean eating, proper sleep, warm relationships with friends and family, time to reflect and thanks... (I love wine, but only drink sparingly bc it doesn’t jive with my diet). Hobbies and interests include: -cooking -entertaining -weightlifting -Pilates -yoga -exploring art galleries and museums -dancing out on the town -traveling -about anything out in nature -watching movies

I’ve not met him, however he has a new and lengthy profile on Seeking, with the same name.

What do you guys take it to mean when a profile says ‘looking for my king’? I’m not at all up to date on slang and urban dictionary leaves it open to interpretation.

I’m curious how you get these guys to hang around you all night. Do you give them a big tip when you say hi, or is it something you negotiate? Or some combination of both?

Yeah and it wasn’t all that great of a hookup. He didn’t last long as a provider. About 20 years ago I came across one of my best friends bf’s ad for services. I’ve also had a few occasions of younger guys becoming fwb’s with the intention of turning me into their sugar daddy. Unfortunately they’ve all been bottoms, which for me isn’t worth any kind of generosity.

Like any job you’re worth what people are willing to pay rather than how much you want/need. If the market justifies higher rates then you’re justified raising your rate, and if it costs you a regular or two, the market will absorb it with new clients. A couple providers didn’t miss me a few years ago when they went from 200 straight to 300. I would suggest tactfully giving notice an appointment or two in advance much like a personal trainer or hairstylist might do.

Just a theory but it could be to deter law enforcement. LE could create fake SB accounts and message SD’s for free, whereas creating an SD account to catch SB’s has a paywall. If they eliminate SD accounts that even mildly suggest solicitation, then LE has no reason to start a fake conversation with them. If that makes any sense.

I don’t get Lucky Horseshoe. Every time I’ve been, the dancers are latched on to a couple of regulars or hanging out with each other and ignoring everyone else. I don’t know how they make any money. Corner Pocket in New Orleans usually has several who will visit your hotel. Though I’m not sure you’d want most of them to.

Didn’t he start out by touring with the Jason Sparks group? I’ve always thought he was a butter face. Maybe if his boyfriend was in the business...

The last year or so I’ve noticed a trend of the full time RM guys getting dressed and ready to leave or for me to leave, but they always seem to get dressed almost immediately after. I think part of this is because I’d been hiring traveling providers who are trying to fit as many appointments into the evening as possible. Guys from other avenues, such as Seeking, have been more accommodating for pillow talk afterwards. If I’m especially attracted to a guy, there is time remaining, and we’re at his place, I will awkwardly stay put until we use the remaining time. I’m awkward enough as it is so this isn’t a problem for me

I’m definitely hiring less, I think for a few reasons. I’m not into facial hair or the hairy guys who seem to have proliferated the market Too many average to below average experiences, including well reviewed guys (this is why I started losing interest) I might be horny but am I horny enough for these rates? The longer I go with reduced hiring, the more I have for other frivolous things that last a long longer than a couple hours. This wasn’t a conscious decision but something I’ve definitely noticed, and am having some fun with I still like to look at the ads and this site, and I’m sure my activity will pick up again. Or maybe it won’t. I’ll be good either way!

Good for you. I hope you bought a lottery ticket on your way home!

I stay in the main area. There is usually enough of a show there (on and off stage) to keep us entertained. We did the VIP area once a couple years ago on a slow Saturday night, but for me it just isn’t worth the price. I’d rather spend the money on more private and interactive entertainment at the hotel. The drinks are quite expensive but they are in tall glasses and very strong. If you go on the weekend get there by 10:30 if you want a table, and i think it’s reduced cover before 10. Sit next to the stage for the best view and easy access for tipping, or sit at a high top along the wall for easier access to the dancers as they walk the room. They’ve also always let our birthday guests in free after showing ID.

I simply viewed his RM ad while looking in a city we’ll both be in later this week. He then viewed my profile and blocked me.

150-200. It can take time to find a mutually interested party but I’ve never been disappointed when I have. I have to say I miss Craigslist. I found a few hot ‘straight jock’ regulars back then.