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Too me that is incomprehensible.. My brain can't figure out why one would go through the efforts to book and not show up... Mind blowing that people do this AND have no issue or guilt etc about doing it

Thanks for putting a smile on my otherwise dimmm day today!!!! You are right I IDESERVE BETTER... question is who will it be. ATL has some freaking crappy masseurs. Any suggestions for a (mostly) therapeutic massage. I'm still doing alot of gym time (weights and treadmill) plus walking - so i'm sore as heck. I need to be pampered with a (mostly) legit massage LOL I feel better now - thanks everyone !!!! Hell maybe I should start a massage business. I'm told i'm good. I know what I like to get thus would do that to others .... Again wishing you all a very happy holiday !!!

Ok guys I have been beaten up enough about this. Lets put it to bed I was wrong for doing what I did and posting. I get it Ive been on here a while and provided (as many have told me) great advise. Can I get a pass on this one

All good points folks and well said.... Guess i'm just a bit lonely this time of year - xmas and being let go from my job last week. I seem to have way too much free time on my hands. I apologize for taking up all your valuable time listening to me rant about this. I agree what this looks like but ASSURE everyone i'm not a stalker and really a super nice genuine guy!!! Happy Holidays to all !!!!!!!!!

I agree on the move on part. Btw I did send a pic Doesn't excuse his behavior none the less. He does this to MANY

Agree back then his massage was truly amazing. Was hoping he forgot who i was LOL Just letting others know as a warning

Hello all, I need to give an urgent update for Ryan: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/31598/ Please read my original post: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-ryan-in-atlanta.144804/ He does provide an amazing massage (well back in 2011 when I saw him he did). Since we had never talked on RM before, I contacted him there. He asked to text. So I created a google voice # and texted He even told me not to have an orgasm a day before because he likes to edge. He sent me a suggestive pic via text. Everything was fine. and we had an appt for today. He asked that I text today to confirm, which I did. Then he asked for a pic. Not sure if he would remember me, I responded with "ill surprise you" followed by "i'm a good looking beefy guy" He responded with "hmmm i'm going to cancel your session for today" followed by blocking me on RM. This guy needs professional help IMHO. He is very HOT and COLD and SHALLOW to say the least. My experiences are NOT just me. SO MANY here have posted similar experiences (public and private). He (or his bf) must make good money that you can simply toss away business, especially during Covid. DANGER WILL ROBINSON with this one !!!!!!!!!

WOW.. mind numbing (to me) that people would go through the effort to set up and appt and not show. To a total stranger mind you. I dont get it. I mean if you got burnt by someone and wanted to get back at them (not justifying it, just saying it would be a "reason") I agree common courtesy is pretty much GONE from our society. Sad

Thats just RUDE!!! I totally agree with you. Works on the other side too. I Have had masseurs stand me up or even give fake address (yes) One texted me 5 mins before the appt and said "oh btw i switched hotels" and the new hotel was not close so no way I could have made it

alot of great points mentioned here For me I mostly seek therapeutic. I won't lie release (for me self) at the end is great (I mean come on we are guys) Having said that I like to stay in the 120-140 range tops. Ive found that the higher after that the less of a real massage it tends to be (not always). Guys that charge more typically get that because they are from a city where they can (i.e NYC) or offer many ammenaties (which they typically can't do when traveling but still charge those high rates IMHO

speaking of this guy, has anyone had any recent experience.. if so how is the massage part

ahhhh gotcha.. not a paid member here so can't see that IMHO a masseur shouldn't assume everyone has paid membership and should post at least 1 or 2 face pics

Hope it works out for you. I suspect it will be LESS massage and MORE erotic.. Hey if thats what you want go for it. His pics are nice

NO face pic !!! Rates are all over the place

Fadedyouth suggests passing with no info (which is OK) However, that was 2 years ago. Any recent updates or bookings?

bump since he will be in ATL end of Dec

Looks like his reviews are more erotic. So IMHO this isn't going to be much on the massage side - which is fine if thats what you are looking for. Also wish he would smile LOL

DUH.. I should have used Google https://www.instagram.com/massagesbylafayette/?hl=en Crappy part is he doesn't live directly in ATL (midtown/bhead area)

No contact info, but it does appear you can send him an email within RM (assuming you are a registered user). Course that doesn't mean he will get it. But you have more info to google him on. He looks good btw

I'm hearing MORE and MORE from people having the same experience. So at least I have the comfort of knowing its NOT me or nothing I did Really SAD. He does good work. I would love to see him again for a legit massage and skin services Worse is that he sends so many mixed signals. His RM add shows revealing pics and offers "sensual" If you cross him in ANY way you are banned. Just like the soup nazi episode of Seinfeld - LOL

I'm suire he is a super nice guy. But with all due respect Lahiker40 there is NO excuse for the way he has treated many people on here. If it were isolated I could agree. But there is a consistent pattern with him going hot and cold with MANY people. For me I saw him back in 2011 and had an amazing therapeutic only experience. So I booked again. This time at the end he went to town on me, so I rolled with it. A while later I booked a 3rd. He accepted. But when I got to the door he said "this isn't going to work". I have tried many times to reach out to him and work it out. Again his massages are amazing and i'm totally OK with legit only. But I'm on his banned list (a very large list). While I have nothing to be sorry for I have tried to apologize to him. I suspect i'm blocked and those texts never arrived. I know he is partnered. It seems that if his partner isn't around he does fool around with clients. Then its like he feels guilty and bans you. He sends so many mixed signals. He needs to be consistent which he is NOT. Also if he wants legit only then take down the very revealing and suggestive pics on RM site. Its too bad as I would really like to see him again and not just for massage but for his other health services (facial/skin care). It would also be nice (and respected) if he is going to reject someone to be courteous and let them know. Otherwise the person (like me) has no way of knowing for sure. I hope my point is coming across the right way. I"m not trying to be a jerk. Again if this were isolated, I would get ya. But it is NOT!

What I do about this, is tell them - "hey if you haven't heard from me in xx time frame, feel free to reach out or if you are back in this city. There are several that contact me every time they are in town. I have zero interest (bad massage) and dont reply. One would think they would take a hint.

Thanks .. .I know that was a long list. Now that i'm unemployed I have extra free time Did you see my other post - works the same way from the masseur perspective. I'm sure they have some helpful feedback for clients

So I just posted a long response to the "masseur best practices thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/masseur-best-practices.137163/page-7 However, it goes both ways. I'm quite certain masseurs here have a similar list of polite requests. Feel free to post them

I am no stranger to getting massages. So I feel I have some good points.I read many (not all of these posts) Some really good points. I know I already posted but wanted to share again. I'm sure many of these are already covered. Sorry if this list is long, but think it helps everyone. - Be on time - Proper music - perhaps ask the client if he has any preferences - Ask client about pressure levels/areas to focus etc. If client gives info on this adhere to it - many times i have asked for specific areas of focus and pressure only to it not happening or barely - Accurate pics and profile; nothing worse than someone being totally not what their pics are (if they are lying about that what else) - Create an accurate profile avoiding CAPS LOCK and bad grammar - When traveling know your market. Sure in NYC for example you may be able to get $180 but in another city you may not - Many ads state perks/amenities (heated table, candles etc). I'm sure these justify their price. However when traveling and you don't have any of those (especially table) then consider that in your pricing - Avoid text only. That just screams bad and not interested. I realize you get alot of calls but for clients (like me) I like to talk to someone up front to find out more, see if it will be a good fit etc. Masseurs that don't allow this I generally avoid. - NO text or calls during massage - NO bio breaks mid way through - Avoid asking for money up front or "reservation" - Be prepared for any sexual questions (I asked one guy if he is nude - he stated me asking that made him uncomfortable - WTF) - Mean what you say and say what you do - When traveling try to book hotels that are convenient for the client NOT you. Here in ATL it is so difficult to get downtown. I either have to take the train or pay large amounts of money to park. Also here in the ATL area staying near the airport is not a good idea. I have talked to many masseurs before their trip and made suggestions and offered to help in picking an area to stay - Avoid back to back appointments. Sure its great that you are busy and making money. But if a client is late or something comes up it isn't fair to the next client - Most pay cash but that often requires a trip to the ATM. Offer Venmo Cash App alternatives as an option (to pay at the end not before) - Don't ask for a tip - thats just tacky - Use proper amounts of lotion. Have had some that use SOO much lotion/oil I felt like I was going to slide off the table - Provide proper ways to "clean up" after (i.e. towel vs. toilet paper) - Avoid a menu of extras. I have had some text me a huge list of options and prices - Avoid uncharging. If you advertise a rate and it says deep tissue don't say well that is extra - Having a clean/tidy place is helpful. Sorry to gross you out with this but I had to use the bathroom before we started. The toilet was disgusting - as if a nuclear diarhea bomb went off - Good communication is essential - Respond to all calls or text. I get it if you are busy, but let the client know you are busy and will get back to them or unavailable etc. - If a client takes the time to write a review (good or bad) respond back thanking them. But dont use the same cookie cutter response for all - If therapeutic only avoid nude or suggestive pics - its just deceiving - Back to rates, if you advertise some fancy amenities (which may justify the higher cost) but those are only available in your studio, then your travel fees should not reflect that I'm sure I could come up with more, but think this is a good list. Again sorry for the long post.