Francis - If you are being hired by someone in SJ and they know you’re coming from SF, I feel it’s reasonable to request a travel fee. Just be upfront about the fee. From downtown SF, the drive to San Jose without traffic is a solid hour. Ugh.
If I hired someone from SJ to come to SF and they were willing to make the trip, I would offer to pay for their Uber round trip, recognizing the additional 2+ hours of travel time and recognizing the risk the escort is taking by committing that much time to travel from SJ to SF to see me.
If it’s an escort I’ve never met and have absolutely no feedback on, I’m less inclined to hire someone from that far away as I wouldn’t be willing to risk the time/expense on an unknown outcome.
Kudos to you for being so nice and willing to travel that far. ?
But I understand every situation is different as it also depends on the escort-client relationship and vibe.